Cancer&Cancer: Is it slow to start?

I've been interested in this Cancer guy for thee longest his bday is July 22nd and I'm a late June one. I've been waiting for him to make a move & although he's been acting weird around me all I'm still sitting here like a lady and waiting. Then all of a sudden it seems he's been trying to avoid me altogether - when he walks past me he puts his head down, he looks at me when I'm around but he's won't say hi first & on & on.

He never outright said he's interested and he's pretty dry & quiet with the convo so I feel uncomfortable making a move because it could be all my head but I want to start something with him but tbh it kind of seems like he's avoiding me.

All the other Cancers men I'm just friends with are super playful, funny, teasing and it's VERY comfortable but then again they have girlriends & we're just platonic but this one is kind of cold and avoidant with me.

Is this the usual with the men?

Must I pounce?

Make a move.
If you have an inkling of things he likes, mention an interest in one of them.
Demure if he talks, then throw in that you would like it if you and he could share it.

Thankssss COTC. I haven't seen him in a couple of weeks because of his avoidant ways.
Hopefully the interest is still there.

Most Crab males whom have been interested make a move right away.
To date they are the fastest of all the water signs.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Most Crab males whom have been interested make a move right away.
To date they are the fastest of all the water signs.

When we are young and unsure of ourselves, we can be slow. It took me a while but now I make a move right away.

Yes, dear, make a first step, you have no choise. I'm to a cancer lady seeing cancer male - well, I have to admit - I must be the "masculine". Yes, it's hard, because I am a woman, but on the other hand - probably he is much more unsecure, shy etc than I am. So I do. And when I do, I get fantastic feedback. It's a question about being brave actually. But i feel that when he will be secure about my feelings, the roles will turn upside down and I'll be a "full time woman" again.

Yes, dear, make a first step, you have no choise. I'm a cancer lady too and seeing cancer male - well, I have to admit - I must be the "masculine". Yes, it's hard, because I am a woman, but on the other hand - probably he is much more unsecure, shy etc than I am. So I do. And when I do, I get fantastic feedback. It's a question about being brave actually. But i feel that when he will be secure about my feelings, the roles will turn upside down and I'll be a "full time woman" again.

Yeah the back and forth is getting to me. It makes me doubt him since he's nowhere near chasing me. I'll try talking to him or something? Maybe.

Posted by Pearls
I've been interested in this Cancer guy for thee longest his bday is July 22nd and I'm a late June one. I've been waiting for him to make a move & although he's been acting weird around me all I'm still sitting here like a lady and waiting. Then all of a sudden it seems he's been trying to avoid me altogether - when he walks past me he puts his head down, he looks at me when I'm around but he's won't say hi first & on & on.

He never outright said he's interested and he's pretty dry & quiet with the convo so I feel uncomfortable making a move because it could be all my head but I want to start something with him but tbh it kind of seems like he's avoiding me.

All the other Cancers men I'm just friends with are super playful, funny, teasing and it's VERY comfortable but then again they have girlriends & we're just platonic but this one is kind of cold and avoidant with me.

Is this the usual with the men?

Must I pounce?

My ex was a cancer as well. Cancer men are quick to make their move on you, if they are interested. Doesn't seem like the one you are referring to is.... The cancer men I have dates in the past moved super fast and were immediately ready to commit. If he's acting distant or funny, there's a reason for that. Sounds like he doesn't like you in a romantic way. Sorry 😢

Posted by cancergoddess143

Posted by Pearls
I've been interested in this Cancer guy for thee longest his bday is July 22nd and I'm a late June one. I've been waiting for him to make a move & although he's been acting weird around me all I'm still sitting here like a lady and waiting. Then all of a sudden it seems he's been trying to avoid me altogether - when he walks past me he puts his head down, he looks at me when I'm around but he's won't say hi first & on & on.

He never outright said he's interested and he's pretty dry & quiet with the convo so I feel uncomfortable making a move because it could be all my head but I want to start something with him but tbh it kind of seems like he's avoiding me.

All the other Cancers men I'm just friends with are super playful, funny, teasing and it's VERY comfortable but then again they have girlriends & we're just platonic but this one is kind of cold and avoidant with me.

Is this the usual with the men?

Must I pounce?

My ex was a cancer as well. Cancer men are quick to make their move on you, if they are interested. Doesn't seem like the one you are referring to is.... The cancer men I have dates in the past moved super fast and were immediately ready to commit. If he's acting distant or funny, there's a reason for that. Sounds like he doesn't like you in a romantic way. Sorry 😢

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This is tricky, he could be a Leo.
The fact that he puts his head down when he sees you is a red flag.
He could either be very shy or not interested and afraid to lead you on.
Or he is involved already. She won't know this until she gets to know him.
I would recommend she be very subtle however around him.
I would not ask him out, just be in his presence and talk to him. Ask questions.
Not a lot of personal questions.
Be feminine, exude intelligence and confidence.
Don't forget to greet him hello, good morning, etc.

Lol the back and forth everyone is doing is exactly what I'm already doing in my head. I thought that bit would just lead everyone here to give me a good & direct answer. I guess I'll add more details.

In his defense, at one point I did avoid him first I believe, which was because I thought he was about to approach me but he had a friend, another guy, right there and I absolutely hate when guys do that. Bring wingmen to approach. I know because he glanced at me & away and I saw them trading words and him nodding. He then turn towards me as if he was waiting for me to be near him but I bee-lined away from him. After that I seen him around less like barely at all anymore but recently I literally almost ran into him unbeknownst to me. He had seen me too but he didn't walk around me but walked past literally an inch from me but was pretending to be looking intently at this paper in his hand. SO I didn't say anything.

He's always doing contradicting things like that...one time he was walking out next to me & started a conversation but was very quiet, cold, and ended it abruptly....he'll try to stand out to catch my eye but won't speak to me or look directly at me just out the corner of his eye even if I'm staring dead at him standing right next to him he won't do anything & he'll leave....

I had a very similar experience... In the beginning he was acting weird around me and then kind of backed off. Once a move was made though we went at lightening speed to make up for all the time we spent waiting for each other.

Music to my ears. I'm already fantasizing which is motivation for me.