Cancer chic being HOT and COLD helppp:(

Scorpio here!

Ok so this cancer chic and I started talking on social media and then I asked for her number and she and I started texting/using voice text. At first it was great, we would flirt, talk literally ALL day, even keep each other informed when we weren't going to be able to respond for a while. (like brb taking a shower).. I know its pathetic but I loved it.

Anyways, so we would flirt. talk all day and it was great and THEN... she started dropping hints that she wasn't over her ex and started making comments like " I wouldnt start something new until Im over my ex"..so naturally I was a bit confused. All the sudden we are flirting and now you're dropping the ball on me that you're still hung up on your ex?

So what did I do? Being the blunt scorpio I am, I asked her why she even gave me her number in the first place and she said "Well honestly I didn't realize you were hitting on me... but i thought you were cute so ya."

So she gave me her number, we flirt for a while and she tells me she is not over her ex.

SO.. I told her that I want to respect her time to heal and that we should just be friends because I dont want to get involve with her intimately if she is not over her ex (cus then I would just get hurt) she said she understood.

So we went on texting as just friends..She actually opened up to me a LOT. and I guess this is something cancers don't do? She told me her insecurities, her fears, her desires.. a lot of private things (which made me like her more).
She really opened up to me and me being a psychology major and Scorpio I LOVED that. I loved that she came to me for comfort and reassurance. She would literally send me pictures of her smudged makeup from crying over her ex and it just made me wanna hug her and tell her everything would be ok. So this was all BEFORE we met in person (remember we linked up on IG) the she makes a trip to SD with her friends and I meet up with her.

Long story short that day was a fucking BUST!😢 she had a panic attack (which she warned me might happen if she is away from home ) and knowing this I tried to comfort her but she pushed me away and then insisted she leave and go home:/ so they all left.

She texted me when she got home saying "hey just got home about to sleep blah blah".. then the next day she sent me a long paragraph saying how that day was all bad and her anxiety was just way out of control (which brought me reassurance because I thought she left cus she was over it

ya I suppose you're right:/ that sucks

its just wierd cus she would always tell me how her ex would text her (in the beging of us talking).. like send me screenshots. and i would ask her if she still had feeling for her ex and she would say no and then she randomly one day said she did.

its just wierd cus she would always tell me how her ex would text her (in the beging of us talking).. like send me screenshots. and i would ask her if she still had feeling for her ex and she would say no and then she randomly one day said she did.

ya scorpios are either 100% or NOT AT ALL.. it SUCKS! i literally hate it. if I like someone i REALLY like them. like i liked her so much that when she rejected me i didnt even wanna see her pics on my feed so I unfollowed her:/ I know she will notice because she lives on her phone.. how do you think she will take me unfollowing her and making it so she doesnt see my feed? ( I know she uses IG to keep tabs)

And youre 100% right about the attention thing. I noticed that as she started to take my advice and apply it to her life the less she needed me and stopped talking to me. The question is... will I ever get a chance with her in the future? was blocking her/unfollowing her on my social media a bad idea? all i did was make it so she doesnt follow me and i dont follow her. She could still see my posts if she wanted too.

I know its not about that i guess im just asking if by doing that i ruined all my chances with her... i mean i like to think there is some hope after she is over her ex:/ im going to be traveling in march and april and i was planning on not tlaking to her for the next two months and then before I leave give her a letter on how I feel... what do you think?

hey well first of all im a chic and she is a chic... sooo i can never be a man to her and she doesn't want one haha

But ya youre right about the friend zone, I definitely have been FRIEND ZONED. But honestly we arent even friends now cus she doesnt talk to me anymore. I guess I mistaked her liking my attention for her liking me:/

I guess all I need to know is if at this point, do I have a chance in the future and should I even bother sending her a letter in two months?

Will she be super offended I unfollowed her and crap or will she not care seeing she has no interest in me?

Thanks guys

hey well first of all im a chic and she is a chic... sooo i can never be a man to her and she doesn't want one haha

But ya youre right about the friend zone, I definitely have been FRIEND ZONED. But honestly we arent even friends now cus she doesnt talk to me anymore. I guess I mistaked her liking my attention for her liking me:/

I guess all I need to know is if at this point, do I have a chance in the future and should I even bother sending her a letter in two months?

Will she be super offended I unfollowed her and crap or will she not care seeing she has no interest in me?

Thanks guys

And I havent been playing games with her, trust me. I have tried not texting her as much and like "waiting for her to text me first" but when she didnt after like a week and liked all my photos I finally caved and texted her first and she responded once but did not keep the convo going.

I have made that mistake before where i play games and I will not repeat that again. I mean i unfollowed her which is kinda a game but its more to protect myself and if she does ask me why I unfollowed her I would tell her straight up.

I don't think she doesn't like you, per se, but there's definitely some confusion or conflicting feelings she has that she needs to work out for herself. I think she likes you as a person, for sure. She admitted she wasn't over her ex, so maybe the two of them are still in contact and thinking about getting back together. Her pulling away could be because she realized she could hurt you if you got too attached and she wasn't ready for it, or she flirted, tried the new love interest thing, but decided it wasn't going to work for whatever reason.

Yes she'll be hurt you semi disappeared (unfollowing on social media, etc), and it all depends on how mature she is as to how she'll handle it. I have a long time scorpio friend who did that to me and it bugs me, but I also understand why he did it (for the same reasons you did), so I don't hold it against him.

thanks moon artist! I actually reached out to her today to get closure.. .long story short I sent her a text (instead of a letter) and I basically told her that sense I will be traveling out of the country soon I wanted to get a few things off my chest. I told her why I liked her and how I felt about her and that I understand why she would distance herself from me and not even have an interest in a friendship. I made sure she knew i liked her for the right reasons and that I really did admire her basically.
She responded and was very kind. She basically said she had to clean out the skeletons with her ex's and really just "distance herself from everyone and everything" she explained to me that she is a "runner" and she runs from her troubles. (I knew this) . She also apologized for "hurting my feelings." She also confided in me again about her ex drama and i avoided the friend zone by keeping it brief and short. I am not going to pursue a friendship with her or relationship and hope that when she is ready she will come to me (I hope she does cus I really like her). but now she at least knows why I am distancing myself....:/