cancer city

I'm a Libra Female with a Cancer Male.
We've been dating /living together for over a year now and we just cannot get enough of each other (at least i hope) ! I'm CRAZY about him.
We both know our differences & they can be a bit hard to handle but we try to look past that
The negatives are:
-> TRUST ISSUES- I cant go anywhere without him worrying
->We both also have HUGE jealously problems. And I'd hate to think thats what keeps us together
->We both like to avoid conflict, which isn't very good considering there are some unsolved problems. I know there are things he'd like to mention, myself as well.
->He cannot stand my "flirtatious/wild" side - so he says
->HIS MOODS DRIVE ME INSANE!!!!!!!!!!. I try to be optimistic and he's pessimistic
----->>&LAST
This may sound overly silly but i have to get it out if its bothering me: i just cannot stand how obsessed he is with his mom.
I expect him to respect and love his mother of course(i like her as well), but he talks about her sooo/tooo much.
[The both of them are cancers if that makes a difference]
ANYWAYS
He will randomly say something about his mom in the middle of our conversation that had nothing to do with anything.
TURN-OFF MANIA!

I can't even sleep with his blanket because his "mommy" gave it to him.
So many times I've heard:
"MY MOM gave me this and that, so don't touch or get rid of it
shes makes the best___
shes so good at_____"

Basically he thinks shes perfect
And he LOOVES to mention my flaws, and give little attention.
I spoil that fucker its not fair! I do whatever i can to make him happy, because if hes not happy I'm not happy.

He says he wants a future with me, thats hard for me to believe.I would constantly feel like 2nd in his heart, when he would be first in mine. I don't want that :/
I almost feel like the little problems will only expand, making this relationship a waste of time !

Advice, comments, help ?!!?!??

If he feels that way about his mother in time he will probably feel the same or similar about you....Your relationship with him has only been a year...how long has he had a relationship with his mom??

You two sound like overall you've done a good job tolerating the other person's weaknesses. i say speak up on the bigger topics of concern but try to do so tactfully. You guys seem to have what it takes.

jesus

i don't know many cancers, and the ones i do aren't obsessed with their moms like that