Cancer Decisions

Hi my cancer girlfriend just broke up with me awhile ago. She says I wasn't affectionate enough for her. She pretty much made it clear I can't give her the affection she needs, but I'm willing to work at it. Just wanted to ask if decisions like this are final in your minds or if I just need to push a little harder to show her. She still wants to be friends which I don't think I can do. Also she wants me to take care of the dog that we got a couple times a week. She said, "don't you want me or the dog in your life." I don't know if I can stand it though "pretending." Thanks.

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take care of the dog well. that's the bond that will bind both of u together, before she comes back to u again...if u can't even keep the dog, let alone working & learning to be more affectionate to her. I see it as a test for u

HAHA keep the dog? did you get it for her or sumthin? yeah it is definitly a test! shes not willing to let you go completly.. if she was she would just cut you off everything including "the dog". cancers are clingy and we cancer woman have our ways of getting what we want. we find ways to play behind the scenes until things are in order. its fun!

Thanks guys for responding. Well I didn't buy the dog for her she bought it herself, but we say that she is the mom and I'm the dad. She wants me to take care of the dog on Mondays and Wednesdays because I don't have class those days. I asked her to come back to me, but she said no and she said she wouldn't change her mind when she wanted to break up. She told me she wants me in her life though when I'm ready. I guess I'll just try to keep her close to feel her out. Hopefully she really is just giving me a test. I'm going to ask her to come to my grandmother's funeral, and maybe we can talk then. Does it take time for cancers to come around? I'm just confused because it turned cold so suddenly without me even realizing or just missing signals.

Find out about cancer women by doing some research.not everybody on here are cancers. those who arent cancers cant exactly put themselves in her shoes and try to picture her point of view.
due to being a cancer shes very sensitive, does she have children? if not it sounds like the dog is her child. Flyingfoxes is right, take care of the dog well, spoil the dog! send the dog home with new toys. the best thing you could do is ask her for the dog on a day that she hasnt asked you to keep her and if she likes that you spoil the dog then spoil your ex a little bit. say i couldnt get the dog a toy with out getting you sumthin. think of a good memory and buy her somthing that she will like AND remind her of that time and say i saw this and it reminded me of you, i couldnt pass it up. if she likes it and goes all crazy over it then ask her on a date to where ever she wants to go. if she cant think of anything then offer to take her sumwhere you know she loves.

dont put too many surprises on her at once tho, you could overwhelm her.
Good luck!

Btw.. you never told us what your sign is. we could prolly help you more if we knew.

If you reallly want her back that bad i would suggest looking up her birth chart. it will tell you alot more than just her sun sign. it goes way deeper. it will tell you her Venus sign (love sign) and what she wants in a lover. www.cafeastrology.com, go to the right of the screen and click "natal" then go to the bottom of the next page you will see the birth chart link, you will then find a table of 4 links, try the birth chart first. then the compatibility for lovers which you will have to put your birthday info in too.

Cant write too much tonight guys because I have an early burial for my grandma tomorrow, but I did get those charts read. Tell me what you guys think, and I'll get up whats happening the past couple of days when I have the time. THANKS =)


Inter-planetary aspects

The following aspects between planets concern the possible relationships between two charts: especially the emotional and romantic relationship, but also aspects on social, intellectual and spiritual levels.

321 Conjunction Sun - Moon

Positive aspect: This is likely to be a significant relationship. There is a strong feeling of belonging to one another, for better or for worse, that keeps the two together. It's an excellent aspect for a union: they are made to go well together, to understand, appreciate, love and complement each other.

-153 Square Mercury - Jupiter

Negative aspect: Not always the best of unions. They don't always share the same ideas, their tastes are different and this leads to a few tense moments due to lack of understanding.

142 Trine Sun - Venus

Positive aspect: It's not only about love, it's about "like". It would be a good idea to schedule plenty of leisure time together, especially when other problems arise in the relationship, if only to remind each other how much they truly enjoy each other's company, tastes, and interests. They go well together, they love each other, and feel good, happy and radiant in each other's company. There is much attraction, especially on the part of the Venus person. They are capable of charming each other. Sometimes, they gloss over problems and conflicts just in order to keep the peace, which is not a good idea in the long run.

-140 Square Mercury - Saturn

Negative aspect: Mercury will find it difficult to tolerate Saturn because Saturn seems to be critical of Mercury's ideas. Mercury complains that Saturn is too practical and unimaginative.

138 Conjunction Moon - Venus

Positive aspect: They get on together very well, be it on the intellectual or the emotional level. They love to be together and appreciate each other's company.

115 Trine Sun - Mars

Positive aspect: Pure sexual attraction will unite the couple. They will have an ideal partner. They will be energetic, full of life and can undertake things together on the professional level or travel together on adventurous, unpredictable journeys. They respect each other's goals and drives, and don't stand in the way of their attempts to achieve their

I'm a pisces with a venus in pisces. She is a cancer with a venus in cancer.
Hi guys just wanted to post an update since I have been too busy this weekend. Friday was the burial for my grandma and my cancer showed up to show her support for five hours which was very nice. On Saturday I played ball with my friends in the afternoon and she showed up to hang with me for like another couple of hours which was weird because she still hangs on to me like we are still together. That night we went over to my friends house and chilled in the jacuzzi. She wanted to spend the night with me at my friends house too. I talked to her about the situation how it was weird how she wants to stay apart, but still sticks and acts like I'm her boyfriend. She just says its too soon for us to hang out together as friends which I agree with, but not sure I want to go down that path. I don't know I'm confused and tired of all the stuff going on.

shes stuck on you but wishes she could get unstuck. she may never get over you. she sounds like the type where youll just have to be patient with her bc it sounds like she will eventually come back around. and she may also just want to see you beg or hurt or sumthin. she is wanting come control and is obviously not getting it so she gets mad and tries to pretend that she doesnt really want you that bad anyways (even tho she really does)
theres no point in trying to see who can hurt who more.. if you want her you may have to give in. she does sound very confusing. i would just ask her what it is that she wants to you do, if she doesnt tell you then shes insecure and afraid that you will say no. there is obviously something she has in mind and you may have to find out what it is somehow if she doesnt tell you.

Thanks cancer_leo.

I did ask her what she wanted from me a couple days ago, and she said it was nothing I could give her anymore. I've been doing all the things she wanted from me, but maybe she is seeing if it is for real or just until I get her back and revert to my old ways. Hopefully she is just in a funk and will come back around. I think I'm just going to be cordial until she figures out what she wants. Damn I knew I shouldn't have gone out with a twenty year old haha. Women are confusing X)

I agree, I think that she is looking for some showy display of affection.
She wont tell you what SHE wants unless you tell her first.
But you have to do it at the right time, and don't do it with the wrong tone.
Your right, women are confusing, but cancerian women are...lol.
She might come out of it, you can either wait or say something. Its up to you.
No cancerian would hang around that much if there wasn't something there. That I'm 100% sure about.

Thanks annoyed cancer. Hopefully my intuition is still working then. Im going to give her some time to take care of herself and miss me I guess. I think I'll call her this weekend to take care of the dog and buy them both something sweet.

She doesnt want to come out and tell you what she wants. perhaps for prideful reasons. she expects you to just know sumhow. what is it that you gave her that she wanted b4? if you can figure that out then id try to make it 10 times better this time. cancer women can have high expectations. i know mine are very high. my fiancee is a pisces and he is left in the dark about the things i want. so he gives up on trying to figure it out. if you left her alone for a while and didnt speak to her she will get scared and prolly come after you and it would be the other way around. she will be trying to win YOU over instead of expecting you to win her over.

dont for once EVER think that she isnt still obsessed with you.. from the sounds of it i bet she still goes to bed crying over you.

Hi guys I want to first thank everyone that has taken the time to write to me about my situation. I however think it is finally over. Yesterday she texted me to say hi (I found out later that she was drinking with some friends earlier, so she drunk texted me). I responded back and asked her what was up. She said she just wanted to check up on me. I texted her to see if she wanted to talk, but she said that was it. I called her anyways and arranged a meeting because I wanted to find what was up. I told her how I felt and that I still wanted to be with her, but she said she didn't want to anymore but still cared for me. She said she enjoys the freedom of being single without the need to have to check in on me. Earlier I had been talking to her friend that first introduced us, and she said my cancer had always been unreliable; a fair weather friend who is just around for the good times. She is only twenty, and is only interested in going out and partying. I just needed to find out if she wanted time or not because I was unable to concentrate with this uncertainty. We said our goodbyes and I am going to leave it like that. I don't need to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me and willing to work it out. It's just sad to say goodbye. She was so loving when she was around.

I have a feeling she will come crawling back to you, once u decide to move on & leave her alone.

So my crazy bipolar ex has started texting me at night asking what I'm doing and not responding when I ask her the same. God women are crazy.

oh she called me after thirty minutes, and told me she had a craving for french toast. She asked me if she should cook herself some even though it was late at night. I said go for it if it makes you happy. She later texted me that now she felt bloated, and it was my fault. haha crazy person. I have finals to worry about, so I'm fine starfish but thanks. It doesn't bother me like last week. I'm just swimming along in my own affairs.