Cancer, how do I deal with your crabbiness? Pleeze

Okay, I was married to a Cancer and am long over him. We had that terrific connection, sexually, spiritually etc. etc. But he never let me off the hook with any mistakes I made, and I finally dumped him.

I recently met another Cancer -- with my Scorp intuition, I KNEW he was a Crab cause he reminded me so much of my ex hubby, and sure enough when I did a little "research" 😉 found out his birthday was late June. We felt an instant attraction.

I'm starting to feel I may yet have another long-term relationship. But I cant STAND the easily hurt emotions, and the fact that you guys WILL NOT forgive anyone who hurts you, whether that person means it or not.

Example: I had a great time in downtown xxxxxxx the other day with a friend, who wanted to show off her new baby. She is a crab, and a very sweet woman. But it was a windy day, and as we walked to a new children's museum, she got all het up about the wind, and was her baby too cold, and could she make another 1/2 mile etc. etc.

So after our great lunch, she left early because she was so mad. And I felt she blamed me.

I have very little patience with people who hold grudges. As Cancer is my ideal in many ways, how can I deal with this part of the Crab I literally cannot STAND, which caused me to leave my husband?


Eaglegirl

I have very little patience with people who hold grudges. As Cancer is my ideal in many ways, how can I deal with this part of the Crab I literally cannot STAND, which caused me to leave my husband?

Eagergirl, I def feel you on this one. I hate grudges. Why not let go. I know a Cancer man who will sit in church all dayum day like he is the Lord himself! Then if you do something small, little that makes him feel rejected he will hold the strongest grudge towards you like he is God and going to punish you for your sins. It is sicking.

Imacancer,

Yeah, well I tried ignoring the mood swings....that works only so long. Then the crab BLAMES me (either directly saying it, or by evil looks and pouting, or by stirring up fights for no damn good reason).

So what about that, Imacancer? I am completely unwilling to walk on eggshells anymore.

instead of looking at it as an agitation, try looking at it as part of whom the person is, it's not something you can't ever change, it's something you have to learn to blend with or leave alone, for example I was watching an interview with a very beautiful singer Phyllis hyman who is now deceased and she's a cancer with sag rising, she admitted that she wouldn't have been a singer if people hadn't pushed her, she said I used to live within my negativity, I was comfortable being negative, I just couldn't see the gift god gave me so I didn't take singing seriously but other people saw it and pushed me to pursue it, if they hadn't then I wouldn't be a singer, I feel that a cancer is someone you have to uniquely understand and be very very clear with or it won't work, nurturing this sign is a must, lots of it.

I'm not an expert, there are others here that date cancer men that could possibly shed more light

***Eaglegirl 1/3/2009 8:37:07 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx

"But I cant STAND the easily hurt emotions, and the fact that you guys WILL NOT forgive anyone who hurts you, whether that person means it or not." ***


could the reason why you "can't stand him" because of his "easily hurt emotions" be because scorpio women are EXACTLY them same way?

if so, i agree that two people hardly in control of their emotions certainly don't belong together...

its already enough when ONE of the parties is insecure, much less both..




*** Eaglegirl 1/3/2009 8:37:07 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx

"I have very little patience with people who hold grudges. "


try dealing addressing the things you don't like in other people INWARD and you will see how magically simple life becomes!

Good advice, guys.

Yes, my emotions are easily hurt, too, but I don't blame others for them. I usually talk things out. I don't hold a grudge if someone hurts me.

And, sorry, I don't believe the new age rubbish about others' fault being a reflection of my inner self! We are all individuals. I have mature Cancer friends who admit being moody and I can accept that. I also admit being impatient and short-tempered (being a single mom has a lot to do with that).

Leokitten,

Good advice.

LOL at Nov-Scorp.