Cancer: I messed up again!

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Itssumu91 on Wednesday, July 4, 2018 and has 8 replies.
I want to from all u cancerians.


Do we cancer find mostly introuble than any other signs? I do feel that because we are overthinkers and much observant that makes us mind never to stop until we find conclusion and in this way we most of the time end up in messed up situation...

So is this true?


I'm facing such situation right now...

I had feeling that my 2 friends are dating.

Well I dont know if this feeling came up through my intuition or just because I saw them and with overthinking I felt like that.


So I kept on observing them alot... And with this everything got tangled, I started thinking more using more logic analysing their behaviour and all this put me through more confusion... But I didnt got answer if they are really dating or its just me who is overthinking.


I tried my level best to get truth from them even I asked this girl indirectly if there is something between them but things ended up in confusion. It felt like universe is purposely keepung me away from something. But at the same time I m hurting.


Even today I dont know ehat is the truth, but! My frndship with them. Had started getting worse... Just because I m not getting my answer


I think I m the only one messing up things . And being a Cancer I m afraid if someone just kick mud over me saying "I'm psycho"
Posted by Raakac

Why the fuck do you even bother about lives of others so much? Live your life and so something, that way you will not have time to overthing shit that doesn't even do anything bad or good in your life. If you're really interested ask straight forward rather than wasting useful time for overthinking things. How does the 2friends dating and analyzing they are in relationship or not improve your life anyways?



Yes it does matter because that means they both are using me so that they can b together. Btw as I already mentiined above I did try to b as direct as I can but I m not getting the answer in yes or no. It all comes with contradictory response and that leave me in confusion.

Hope u get this my problem that is eating me always. Becausr I dont want the feeling of being used I m interfering their lives.
Posted by LadyLuna19

Curious, what's the point of knowing whether they date or not? Regardless of sign, it's their business
The point is I feel tgat they are using me as a third wheel. till now I always thought they were my good friends... But the thought of them being fake all the time scares me. Being a cancer hope u understand that we cannot stand fake people especially if we had some aatachment with them.
This thread comes off as you being bothered about it because you have romantic interest in one of them.


I don't get how them having a relationship, or not, impacts you in anyway, or how you logically have decided that they are using you. That's more of you inserting yourself out of ego.
Posted by nikkistar

This thread comes off as you being bothered about it because you have romantic interest in one of them.


I don't get how them having a relationship, or not, impacts you in anyway, or how you logically have decided that they are using you. That's more of you inserting yourself out of ego.


I guess I have to accept it... I like him.. I care for him....

And its so much pain now...
Posted by Itssumu91

Posted by nikkistar

This thread comes off as you being bothered about it because you have romantic interest in one of them.


I don't get how them having a relationship, or not, impacts you in anyway, or how you logically have decided that they are using you. That's more of you inserting yourself out of ego.


I guess I have to accept it... I like him.. I care for him....

And its so much pain now...
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This may come off as mean, but I had already garnered that you probably had romantic interest in one of them.


And I am sorry you are hurt, but they more than likely knew that you liked him. Which is probably why they have avoided talking to you about it, because they both care about your feelings. The problem is, is you probably have brought up the subject up quite a bit because of your feelings, without even knowing it.


All I can say is, if you value the friendships you have with them, then you need to somehow find a way of not letting your romantic feelings jade the way you interact with them. The bitterness you could feel that stems from that hurt, can easily take over and ruin the friendships with both.
Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Itssumu91

Posted by nikkistar

This thread comes off as you being bothered about it because you have romantic interest in one of them.



I don't get how them having a relationship, or not, impacts you in anyway, or how you logically have decided that they are using you. That's more of you inserting yourself out of ego.


I guess I have to accept it... I like him.. I care for him....

And its so much pain now...
This may come off as mean, but I had already garnered that you probably had romantic interest in one of them.


And I am sorry you are hurt, but they more than likely knew that you liked him. Which is probably why they have avoided talking to you about it, because they both care about your feelings. The problem is, is you probably have brought up the subject up quite a bit because of your feelings, without even knowing it.


All I can say is, if you value the friendships you have with them, then you need to somehow find a way of not letting your romantic feelings jade the way you interact with them. The bitterness you could feel that stems from that hurt, can easily take over and ruin the friendships with both.
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See as I told in my post... I jist had a feeling.. Even I m not sure if they are having any relatiinship or its just me because of my jealousy its hitting in my head that they are in relationship...

As of now I feel I had meesed up things...

Its painful when to try clear out any doubt but u dont get answer to tge thoughts and end up messing up.
Posted by Itssumu91

Posted by nikkistar

Posted by Itssumu91

Posted by nikkistar

This thread comes off as you being bothered about it because you have romantic interest in one of them.



I don't get how them having a relationship, or not, impacts you in anyway, or how you logically have decided that they are using you. That's more of you inserting yourself out of ego.


I guess I have to accept it... I like him.. I care for him....

And its so much pain now...
This may come off as mean, but I had already garnered that you probably had romantic interest in one of them.


And I am sorry you are hurt, but they more than likely knew that you liked him. Which is probably why they have avoided talking to you about it, because they both care about your feelings. The problem is, is you probably have brought up the subject up quite a bit because of your feelings, without even knowing it.


All I can say is, if you value the friendships you have with them, then you need to somehow find a way of not letting your romantic feelings jade the way you interact with them. The bitterness you could feel that stems from that hurt, can easily take over and ruin the friendships with both.
See as I told in my post... I jist had a feeling.. Even I m not sure if they are having any relatiinship or its just me because of my jealousy its hitting in my head that they are in relationship...

As of now I feel I had meesed up things...

Its painful when to try clear out any doubt but u dont get answer to tge thoughts and end up messing up.
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But here is the thing, even if they are in a relationship, which you don't know, it's really not your business.


That's more about your feelings, and wanting to know, because you like him. Anything past friendship with them, you really don't have a right to ask about.

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