Cancer male needs help with Libra female
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Sidestepper on Sunday, March 12, 2006 and has 1 replies.
Hi everyone.
Firstly, let me start off by saying how wrong I've been... I thought that this type of stuff (horoscopes in particular) was just random, generic phrases and predictions that could be taken with a pinch of salt. Until I checked out the natal interpretation for my sign, Cancer, on www.astrology3d.com, that is. It's quite unnerving because the report pretty much sums me up in a crabshell, erm, I mean nutshell
I think the report for my love interest is pretty close too.
I'm typically not forthcoming in pouring out my emotions to friends and loved ones, for fear of not getting the reactions I want, so doing it anonymously to strangers (the crab's side-stepping move) seems to be the answer, as I don't have to look you guys in the eye afterwards.
Anyway, on to the current dilemma I have:
Me...
male
Cancer
Mid 30's
Single
No kids
Her...
Female
Libra
Mid 20's
"seeing" someone
3 kids
The guy she is "seeing" is the father of her kids and they've been with eachother for a long time, but they don't live together. She says (not to me, she rarely talks about him when I'm around) he's not "the one" and wouldn't marry him, but that she won't leave him.
We've both worked at the same company for a number of years in the same department. Initally, we worked side by side and made a great team. During that time, she confronted me by asking if I was interested in her. This is the one and only time I have ever lied to her...I said no. I think she saw through my retreating as things got tense and distant and she teamed up with someone else, but the situation ultimately culminated in my cursing her out after we had a stupid verbal exchange. We avoided eachother for a while.
Later on, after getting back on talking terms, she asked if we could team up again. I readily agreed and we worked well together, with the exception that I was now constantly cautious of what I said around her. Some time later, the question was raised again and I told the truth. She said that she didn't feel the same and never would, which resulted in me going back into my shell...again, and her distancing herself...again. It got difficult working together and we agreed she should team up with someone else...again.
During this period and in the midst of her last pregnancy, a different position became available to her, one that she still maintains. We are currently on very good terms and have been for quite some time. We are in frequent daily contact and there is a lot of joking around, teasing and smiling (from both), playful slaps etc (from her).
A funny thing happened this weekend though...
We often go out for drinks as part of a group and, whilst talking etc, there is usually some form of contact, on both sides. If we're stood talking it could be a hand on a shoulder (from both), the small of the back (from me), the forearm or chest (from her). When sitting, she normally wants to sit near me and her knee will rest against mine or she may lean on me, or sometimes rest a hand on my forearm or thigh for a moment.
We all went out for dinner and she asked me to sit with her. The knee resting, leaning & hand on the thigh seemed more frequent and prolonged than usual.
I'm not a good dancer, whereas she is. We've previously (recently) danced together on the dancefloor a couple of times (she dragged me up), but I prefer to stay on the fringes and out of the spotlight. This weekend, we were on the fringes and I was stood on one side of her friend, she was stood on the other. They were both swaying, I joined in and bumped butts playfully with her friend (I have no interest in this other woman, except as a friend). She came around to dance in front of me for a couple of minutes, then went off onto the dancefloor and tried to dance with another guy from the group, who was already dancing with someone else. She came back ove
Firstly, let me start off by saying how wrong I've been... I thought that this type of stuff (horoscopes in particular) was just random, generic phrases and predictions that could be taken with a pinch of salt. Until I checked out the natal interpretation for my sign, Cancer, on www.astrology3d.com, that is. It's quite unnerving because the report pretty much sums me up in a crabshell, erm, I mean nutshell
I think the report for my love interest is pretty close too.I'm typically not forthcoming in pouring out my emotions to friends and loved ones, for fear of not getting the reactions I want, so doing it anonymously to strangers (the crab's side-stepping move) seems to be the answer, as I don't have to look you guys in the eye afterwards.
Anyway, on to the current dilemma I have:
Me...
male
Cancer
Mid 30's
Single
No kids
Her...
Female
Libra
Mid 20's
"seeing" someone
3 kids
The guy she is "seeing" is the father of her kids and they've been with eachother for a long time, but they don't live together. She says (not to me, she rarely talks about him when I'm around) he's not "the one" and wouldn't marry him, but that she won't leave him.
We've both worked at the same company for a number of years in the same department. Initally, we worked side by side and made a great team. During that time, she confronted me by asking if I was interested in her. This is the one and only time I have ever lied to her...I said no. I think she saw through my retreating as things got tense and distant and she teamed up with someone else, but the situation ultimately culminated in my cursing her out after we had a stupid verbal exchange. We avoided eachother for a while.
Later on, after getting back on talking terms, she asked if we could team up again. I readily agreed and we worked well together, with the exception that I was now constantly cautious of what I said around her. Some time later, the question was raised again and I told the truth. She said that she didn't feel the same and never would, which resulted in me going back into my shell...again, and her distancing herself...again. It got difficult working together and we agreed she should team up with someone else...again.
During this period and in the midst of her last pregnancy, a different position became available to her, one that she still maintains. We are currently on very good terms and have been for quite some time. We are in frequent daily contact and there is a lot of joking around, teasing and smiling (from both), playful slaps etc (from her).
A funny thing happened this weekend though...
We often go out for drinks as part of a group and, whilst talking etc, there is usually some form of contact, on both sides. If we're stood talking it could be a hand on a shoulder (from both), the small of the back (from me), the forearm or chest (from her). When sitting, she normally wants to sit near me and her knee will rest against mine or she may lean on me, or sometimes rest a hand on my forearm or thigh for a moment.
We all went out for dinner and she asked me to sit with her. The knee resting, leaning & hand on the thigh seemed more frequent and prolonged than usual.
I'm not a good dancer, whereas she is. We've previously (recently) danced together on the dancefloor a couple of times (she dragged me up), but I prefer to stay on the fringes and out of the spotlight. This weekend, we were on the fringes and I was stood on one side of her friend, she was stood on the other. They were both swaying, I joined in and bumped butts playfully with her friend (I have no interest in this other woman, except as a friend). She came around to dance in front of me for a couple of minutes, then went off onto the dancefloor and tried to dance with another guy from the group, who was already dancing with someone else. She came back ove
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