Cancer man acting hot and cold with Virgo Female

Hi there, I have a pretty new situation with a Cancer guy that I like.

We met online and and talked for a few weeks via text and over the phone. He's single and no kids.

He likes talking over the phone and hates texting which I can absolutely appreciate.

We finally met last week and a coffee shop and hung out until they kicked us out lol but I really enjoyed the night with him and he said he did to. I could feel the chemistry all night, he smiled at me and shyed away when I wouldn't look away. I knew he was nervous at times, maybe intimidated a bit. We talked a lot about family, work, friends and he teased me a bit which was cute. His smile got me the minute I saw him.

The first thing he asked me was if I was pleased with what he looked like in person, and I teased him with how he was too tall and handsome for me.

As soon as we walked in the coffee shop he said "do you know what that counter lady is thinking?" I said "what's that?" and then he said she hates us because where the best looking couple she's ever seen together. I just smiled

He's got that raspy bad boy voice along with the body language to go with it but yet he was so soft with me. He's 6'2 , tall, sweet, handsome, groomed well and a great dresser.

We laughed a lot, I notice he would shy away from eye contact but then when he was talking about something strongly like family he was okay and more secure about the eye contact. Towards the end of the night he says "so am I your boyfriend now?". I laughed and said "just maybe".

He was super courteous in opening doors and pulling out my chair Its was clear he was brought up with manners.

Before heading our separate ways he pulled me toward him and kissed me over and over again (which was amazing btw, like sensual amazing and touched me like he didn't want break me). I had to stop him at a point and tell him we had to stop.

He smiled and asked me to call him when I got home so that he knew I got home safe. I thought it was super nice to hear, given he only met me for the first time that night. He said it's not a crime for me to be concerned about your well being is it? I said I appreciated it and would call him.

When I got home we talked for a bit about the night and the kiss of course then went to bed. He said things like having me there would make the night better and kissing me was really nice. He wanted to know why/how I was single and i said i could ask him the same.

We talked again on Sunday night and he asked me when he could see me again and I told him since my schedule was a bit more flexible it was up to him because he works late days a lot.

He's up really early (5am) and home around 7ish.

Since then though, he texted me once and will sometimes call because he hates the texting thing.

I haven't heard from him since Sunday night and I called him once yesterday but he hasn't called me back.

SO weird..

I know its super new and he has no obligation to call me or text me but it feels as though he's no longer interested.

Does anyone have insight to this.... I'm going to back off and not call or text at this point..

Sunday night...so two days ago. Barely 48 hours. Calm your tits woman!!

Okay, so he did end up calling me telling me he was slammed at work and then so exhausted when he got home for the past few days.

He even went into saying how he was is absolutely interested and would never just leave me hanging in though like that and he didn't want work to be his only thing and want to spend time with me and didn't and his life to be all about work.

truth, bullshit, i dunno....

He called a bit more over the next few days and our last conversation was nice but the he disappeared for 6 days, so this morning I said i'd just give a call before heading to work and I did.

He answered which I was surprised because he doesn't normally and just calls me back.

His reaction was weird to me because he said hi and that he was gonna just called me (lame) but that I beat him to it.

I was kinda pissed but just said nicely to him that I was just getting ready for work and wanted to say say hi and enjoy your day.

He asked if I was upset, I said not at all just getting ready for work.

As much as I was trying to hide it, I think he knew so I just said I'm gonna go now have a great day.

He then says we'll talk later (I'm very skeptical) and I said sure.

I call him when he calls me or texts when he texts me. Sometimes if i don't hear from him (like today after 6 days) I shoot him a call and leave a message but I never call again because I figure he can see that i called so I'm not going to call again.

I initiate the call sometimes if I see his effort but if I don't then I figure why should I give him effort if his gonna disappear like this. Its not like we fight or anything he just disappears.

My conclusion here is something is occupying his time, work, family or maybe even some other girl.

not sure what to think or do. Well I cant do much if the effort is not there and someone is disappearing on me.

Feels like a roller coaster in such a short time of knowing each other, so confused and I kinda really like him but also willing to walk away if that's necessary.

Any advice here? please help.

Are all Cancer men slow during the dating process?

We met over a month ago and we went for coffee and sat at talked until the shop closed. I feel like theres a definite connection and I think he does too.

Since then he's been in and out, disappearing. My dad was in the hospital recently when he did his reappearing acting and he called but I couldn't answer so I just texted him to let him know I was occupied with my dad in the hospital.

He called me later that night and left a voicemail to call him and wanted to see how my dad was doing.

I could call for a day or two but then I called him earlier today but no answer and then he called me when he got home and we talked for a bit and asked when he was going to see me. Of course I want to see him so I said depending on how my dad was feeling I would let him know. He said lets do this week. The last time said that he never even called the day of and so we never met up.

Why would he do that? and why is he making plans again if he's not interested or calling at all at this point if he going to disappear for 6 straight days. is he interested? Is this entertaining for him?

why the games, why not just go away for good.... if your too busy to call or text for days?

Im always calm and chill when he does come back but I can't help but wonder why he's doing this...

We don't fight, so why disappear, so I'm confused.. I now he's very busy at work and throws all his time into it even on weekends if need be but how are we going to get to know each other this way if we don't see each other.

ok well he asked that i give him a call in the morning, but he doesn't normally answer because he's a work by 6am and we did start a routine before talking at around 9pm but i guess we both got busy and broke that routine.. how do i hold him accountable though without it seeming like I'm telling him what to do

i really do hate being a virgo at times like this, thank you