Cancer man acting very strange

Hi all, this is my first post. First off I am a Capricorn male:
Sidereal time: 07:09:58 UTC
Sun in Capricorn at 17° 39'.
Moon was in Cancer at 29° 09'.
Mercury in Sagittarius at 25° 17'.
Venus was in Pisces at 04° 07'.
Mars in Pisces at 10° 29'.
Jupiter was in Capricorn at 23° 05'.
Saturn in Scorpio at 25° 22'.
Uranus was in Sagittarius at 15° 45'.
Neptune in Capricorn at 01° 45'.
Pluto was in Scorpio at 04° 30'.

who is truly madly deeply falling for a Cancer man:
Sidereal time: 19:31:10 UTC
Sun in Cancer at 22° 27'.
Moon was in Gemini at 17° 02'.
Mercury in Leo at 18° 58'.
Venus was in Gemini at 09° 24'.
Mars in Cancer at 23° 24'.
Jupiter was in Aquarius at 14° 34'.
Saturn in Scorpio at 21° 34'.
Uranus was in Sagittarius at 14° 34'.
Neptune in Capricorn at 01° 41'.
Pluto was in Scorpio at 01° 56'.

Being gay probably mixes the male/female traits up a bit, I'm not sure. I will also mention that sadly we live a ways apart.

Okay, here goes, you all know the story of meeting your cancer man, falling harder and faster than you've ever let yourself fall before. Things have been really great between us, the chemistry is all there, and to top it off I've never in my life met a friend or lover who I truly have so much in common with. We are interested in a lot of the same things, we match up sexually, he's easy to be with, I laugh and really have fun. I have never wanted something to work out so much, but I'm also afraid to rush it because A) I don't want to push him away and B) I want to make sure I'm everything I want to be so I can offer my entire self fully to him. Now, we've been seeing each other for 4 months, not officially. He has told me he wanted to wait until certain things were taken care of before considering a relationship, which would around the 10th of December. We have been having visits about every two weeks, but our last visit was on the 4th and 5th of december. We were both prepared for this since it was the holidays. This last visit was my absolute favorite. All the worries that came from the distance melted away, we were having a lot of fun, and we finally had sex (we had fooled around before) and it was magical to me. So we parted ways and as usual he was telling me how much he appreciates me. I always notice he pulls back a little bit after every time we part ways. But this time has been the worst. He got the certain thing taken care of but it wasn't as good as he had hoped but still good (sorry I have to be vague here) But since then, it's like all of a sudden his affection has been shut off entirely, yet he still messages me daily and initiates contact. I am trying SO hard not to try and pry, I know cancer shells are impenetrable by outside forces and they need time to heal. But it's gotten SO bad and he spiraled into depression.

(continued) Last night he was more distant than ever, even missing our usual talk time by an hour, saying he was "nodding off" which I think is a protective white lie. Much later last night he started acting crazy depressed, when I asked him what was wrong he just said "stupid me stuff" I asked if someone did or said something to hurt him, and he said he'd rather not talk about it right now if that was ok with me. I said of course and let it be. Today at work he starts telling me how he didn't sleep at all and was crying all night. He hasn't eaten or smiled, and is walking around with no emotions like a shell. I told him I wished he would tell me what was bothering him but I don't want to push, just remember our promise to always talk through really hard things that need to be talked about. He didnt respond to that, but instead sent me a pic of a bottle of wine and the word "dinner" He drank the bottle in less than an hour and I've never seen him drink before. I had a panic attack (by myself) just because I have no idea what is hurting him so much that he's going this low. I'm terrified it's me, or is he guilty of something? Like I said for the past two weeks he's turned his affection off which is throwing me off balance too. If he's in a bad emotional state how much should I even pursue a relationship with him? I know he's going through a lot of things and I've been there for him through it all, he's thanked me for being his rock. I've never pushed, I've danced his dance, I don't ever withhold my affection completely although I do pull back slightly when he does. He's asked me the hypothetical testing questions, he's never disappeared but he did get mad at me once and only spoke to me once a day for two days (he really had no right to be mad but I told him I understood and didn't think he was being silly) he's told me he does want a relationship just wants to get his things under control first. Since the date he gave me though he's been cold with the emotions. I hate the thought of someone telling me "they aren't ready for a relationship" because usually that means they never will be, but with him I'm really hoping he's being true. I just don't know what to think right now, I'm confused as hell and don't want to hold on to nothing but don't want to give up on this beautiful and hurting man.

Any advice would be much appreciated. He's being very distant today and I'm not exactly sure if I should message him again or leave him alone. Thanks all I hope my post wasn't too long

It's the Gem placements!!!!

What do you mean I'm kind of new to this lol

Is the Gemini placement a bad thing?

Can someone explain that to me? I'm sorry I don't understand what the Gemini moon means?

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Posted by KuRiSu
Can someone explain that to me? I'm sorry I don't understand what the Gemini moon means?

Gemini Moon is the best moon placement.

We are the spirited actors of the Zodiac.

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Lol that's awesome. Does the Gemini moon mean anything bad against relationships or my relationship in particular? Why does it seem like the last 2 posts were negative lol?

Posted by Vixen2
The venus mars looks compatible...but yeah, maybe that Gemini moon

Could you explain further what you mean? Any insight would help a lot 🙂