Cancer man and appologies

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by SEXYSCORP777 on Wednesday, June 29, 2016 and has 9 replies.
Finally decided i am dropping the scrapbook i made for my cancer mans birthday with his family pictures and our pictures together along with a hand written appology letter inside the scrapbook to his house tomorrow ! A week before his birthday ! Do u think its a good idea ? He hasnt called me in 3 weeks broke up with me 3 weeks bfr blocked me frm evrywhr i tried to appologize so much he never bothered ! Giving it a last try before his birthday a heart felt appology letter and his birthday gift because i dont think so i will hv the guts to wish him on his birthday after all this ! I am scared of his anger so just dropping the scrapbook straight fr him to his house tmrw ! Fingers crossed lets hope fr the best ! What do u think guys ? I need encouragement is it a good idea i am super sad ?
I would keep the scrapbook and do your own thing. Use the creation of the scrapbook as a therapeutic exercise for yourself, then move onto other things. I would try to let go at this point and not look at anything about him on social media. Assume he is gone, then if he comes back you can make your own decision with a level head.

He's cancer....hiding inside his shell (all you see is his beady eyes). Give up. Hang up the gloves. If you let it go and it comes back (you know the rest). Put a period on it and move on. All the clichés you've heard throughout your lifetime, just remember them. >Sad

I like this one, "When God closes a door he will blow one wide open for you!" Hug cyber hug!

Love,

Eva
@SS777

I strongly advise you not to do it. You're pushing the boundaries.

I am not a Cancer, and I am pretty sure that the Crabs would appreciate the sentimental thought...

However,

My gut instinct tells me that you will not like the reaction from this Crab.

I agree with Rabid, use the scrapbook as a therapeutic exercise for yourself...and then BURN IT!

Funny though,

I get the feeling the Crab is still getting the Scrapbook regardless of what advice you're given today.

If you were truly sorry for whatever you did, you would accept his decision not to contact you, and you would truly want him to be happy even if it is without you.

Scrap books exist as a way of creating closure and honoring good memories. They are not meant to forge a future with someone, especially if that someone does not want a future with you. Giving him that will not do you any good, and it may very well seem to him, like you are trying to manipulate him by forcing him to remember things that he might not feel like thinking about right now.

Personally the whole thing feels like a very selfish thing for you to do, and it would make your apology seem not at all heartfelt.

The best birthday gift you could give him, is space and time.
Noooo you give him the scrapbook that is just a passive aggressive move and reconfirmed why he broke things off. let him be and maybe he will reconsider.
It sounds like you are a typical Scorpio you want the last word no matter what you feel wronged so you want to tell your ex why feel that way. Walk away and leave the damn crab man alone so he can have some peace he's running away. If a crab man wanted to be with you he would come back he's not coming back.
@koniuchaa i made alot of mistakes in my relationship with my crab like i kept on calling him again n again didnt bother about his space, didnt understnd him got sick of his moodiness n acted weird...but anyway i appologized alot literally begged him..but he doesnt want to come back...


all you guys thank you fr you inputs i would reconsider not sending the scrapbook, cs i geneuinly care for him and if there is anything this thing to piss him off il not do it...i am trying to change and be a better person,,i am really trying to change my behaviour and i dont want to do anyhthng that hurts or bothers hi..its his bday next week...just thinking to wish him also or not..because he myt get pissed off on wishing him also considering how mch he hates me ryt now...
@moonbutter couldn't understand what do you mean by the passive aggressive move ?