Cancer man and Aquarius female

Life hasn't been all peachy keene for me especially the last two
years...
mother (who is less than stellar) got breast cancer, I got mono (from
my Harvard now ex-boyfriend) had to drop out of school because I lost
my scholarship, star athlete/student sister became a drug/sex addict/
abusive step-father then divorces mother when she's done with her
chemotherapy and throws her out into the street (the women hasn't
gotten out of bed for 14 years doesn't have a job beg my wealthy/crazy
cousin who houses me to take her into one of his properties), crazy
cousin starts abusing me (after apologizing for the years of abuse I
had to deal with at the hands of my parents), I mean the list goes
on...my bulimia comes back, I get institutionalized due to my cousin's
little white lies (he's not so good with money and blamed some debt on
me to his wealthy/senial parents who then said jail or the crazy
house....), the only good thing was I met the love of my life! I
never let anyone in before in all my 24 years. He was different he
stood by me during everything without fail. Told me he loved me and
it took me so very long to let him know that I loved him in return.
We were inseparable for a year and a half and all of a sudden after
six months of living together (truly it is longer for he never lived at his own place when he had it) he tells me (we have to move out of my
apartment for my family is selling it out from under me and doesn't
give a shit what happens to my little soul) that he's not moving into
the apartment that we had planned to move into in three weeks together
and that he needs a break. The day before he said he loved me and
would never leave me. I can't deal this hurts too much. He's not hurting and I am I just want him to feel
the pain I am feeling. I know that I can't live without him. Though he has yet to move out and totally cut off from me his behavior has gone from caring to down right abusive (lying, disrespect, etc..it"s like Jekyl and Hyde) I also a to suspect there is another woman (a scorpio female he works with)...more than suspect know that he is involved with her in some way (I had asked him if there was another person, actually not any person this very scorpio giving him reason to act the way he is BUT ALL HE DID WAS DENY IT)....I still love him nomatter and i know that there is no other person out there for me...is there any way to get the cancer to snap out of

hmph....i wish u the best Agog

i just know that on the sun sign side of things i was always told that our signs are not meant for each other and actually are one of the worst matches...the cancer with the scorpio on the other hand are perfect...this makes my heart just hurt...but he is so very typical for his sign i just thought that there may be a way of cracking that cancer code and getting through...

It is but U R going 2 have 2 B the woman and lead the way. Best advice break the negative cycle.

"i just thought that there may be a way of cracking that cancer code and getting through..."

patience patience and more patience and distance is the way to crack the cancer code.

by the way, watch out for the scorpio female, if she is in fact attracted to him, she will stop at nothing to get him. she likes the challenge and lives for it...trust me I KNOW!! but don't let that stop you and don't let the heffer threaten you...lol

thats all i have to say

thanks for the advice!!! yeah it seems that way were her...stop at nothing to get what she wants....

i have to agree with lady scorp on this one...hmph

lol cansir...hmph

Agog...but seriously, give him his space, find ur own apartment (hope u didnt have financial dependence on him) and just live your life....he'll be confused because you won't have that typical woman behavior of "going pyscho" and he will be confused and come running back trying to figure out why u haven't gone pyscho.

it just feels like mercury in retrograde really kicked my arse...

yea, this morning i heard about mercury in retrograde in cancer and that a lot of things will come to light regarding your home....hmph

lol u definately got kicked in the ass

our financials were actually in one pot so we were dependent on each other till very recently when i have been between jobs (which makes it so much worse)...and i did act out a bit at first...i truthfully didn't know i was even doing it but i nipped it in the but asap...but i have laid back though the scorp seemed to jump at this chance, it's just frightening of this type of female personality. she knows he is still living with another female that they still have a relationship...but it doesn't seem to bother her...is this typical of this sign...

"she knows he is still living with another female that they still have a relationship...but it doesn't seem to bother her...is this typical of this sign..."

lol...uhhh...ummm...probably. i have to admit when i was younger i didn't let that stop me. but i grew to become more respectful of people's relationships.

kel19,

this is what i found:

Cancer: The Mercury retrograde allows you to be antisocial! For the next three weeks you'll be into figuring out certain matters in your own life. You won't have time for the issues of others. Of course this will catch several people off guard. Turn your energy toward you! Your dream symbol for the day is, "being chased by the devil." This means that people are jealous of your progress. Be careful of the people you associate with at this time.

thanks for being so honest...i truly did think that was true about the personality trait

this is also for cancer:

Mercury begins a retrograde cycle on June 15th and runs until July 9th. All Mercury retrograde cycles particularly affect you in terms of personal communications in general as well as communications about the past because Mercury rules these areas of your life. Your intuition usually serves you very well, but may not be up to par for the time being. Take care when it comes to presenting ideas, writing letters, and any detail work. You may not be seeing the whole picture. Occurring in your solar twelfth house this time, extra care should be exercised when it comes to your own intuition. You may find that you are less able to rely on your intuition. Perhaps you're picking up the wrong cues or reading too much into situations. Whatever the case may be, for the time being, you may not feel that your intuition is serving you well. Be as non-judgmental as you can, but do keep an eye out for deceptiveness and falseness in others. It would be wise to be especially clear when it comes to communicating about your inner world now; or take this time to re-examine issues rather than communicating about them prematurely.

the judging part of the cancer's personality....that's something i wish i could suppress....it works against him and makes him jump to conclusions that are not necessarily the right ones

agog3 that is because we act on emotions first. after we have gotten those emotions out and have had time to think we usually can see what we did be it good or bad. that is why we disappear for a while. to weigh our sudden impulses against the facts. yeah, it sucks we normally don't get the facts first and then make a decision but that is how we are. so we do make a lot of impetuous decisons that we might regret latter. i know that has gotten me into trouble many times. so as i am getting older i am starting to learn so think first then react. oh, and i say we but mainly mean me :-)

hmph...

lady scorp, cat got your tongue?

cansir, lol, i'm just observing (i'm so bored and nobody is on today it seems)

yeah it does seem rather quiet..since it is just you and me what do you want to talk about?

not so happy to hear that it's normal to behave like a small child to act first before thinking....

i am not saying it is normal to act like a child. what i was saying is we normally go with our emotions or intuitions. we don't show a lot of emotion on the outside but might be flooded on the inside out. so depending on how frustrated we are something small can turn into something big and we can unleash on anyone in our path. the problem is we don't know how to express the emotions before they become harmful. i have been told by two women i am with that i hold in my emotions to much and only express them when i get upset. i never saw it that way but after hearing two people say the same thing it does open your eyes a bit.

and by the way yes we think..sometimes to much. are you beginning to see how difficult we really are..lol.

Cansir...i dunno what i want to talk about, but definately not anything depressing

how old are u cansir? and forgive me if i've asked u this before

what are your interests? come on throw me a bone! we are suppose to have this cancer/scorp attraction thing going on..haha.

lol i know but i'm kind of blah today and don't have much to say

ok well then do you want to go out back and make out 😉

i'm going to try and get my aunt to teach me how to read cards. she loves doing it and she loves being able to help people. she uses a regular deck of cards and has been doing it for over 20 years. she says it drains her a lot when she reads. i want to be able to keep the tradition going because she's the only one in the family still alive that knows how to read.

"ok well then do you want to go out back and make out 😉"

lmao...our "connection" is not only sexual

but sure, let's go out back and make out

do you have to be physically there to read cards? i want to have that done but i don't trust anyone. yeah i know hard to believe a cancer not trusting..lol. but that does sound pretty interesting.

well i think while we are making out something might pop in our heads and we can share an intellectual moment as well :-) oh i am 35 about to be 36.. damn i am getting old..

oh no.....lady scorp and cansir.....
lady scorp you are going to start getting hate mail from other women on this site....

well the key part when my aunt does a reading is having the person shuffle the deck and focus on the things in their life. so i would find it hard to not have the person present and would probably require a lot of skill.

its actually kind of sick all the things she sees, and she can focus on the ppl that come up in ur cards as well and see whats going on in their life.

xangel...thats ok, its nothing i don't deal with in real life

when's the b-day cansir?

you could always have him shuffle the cards and tell you what comes up then you can interpret them

yeah that could make it tough not being there. dang that sucks! so how would you study this? i guess i see it as more of an intuitive thing that someone just has, not saying you don't. july 9th.

you're more comfy with your own personal deck. u should see my aunts card...all worn out...lol. i know she blesses them or something i dunno

xangelfishx that sounds like a good plan but she said her aunt also focuses on the person while they are doing it. i think i understood it right.

well she always had some weird intuition when she was younger. spirits visiting her in her dreams, telling her things. then she started to study books on how to read, even took classes. developed her skill thru reading cards. she does not do tarot, she does cartomancy.

i dont think the person has to be there, but it is more difficult and ur skill has to really be fully developed. she has a whole following of people. she only charges $ 20 a reading and does house calls (but for large groups) now

it really is kind of sick. but i find it fascinating

you can focus on someone without them being physically near you....I'm telling you NO JOKE I know exactly when my ex is thinking about me and whether he's happy sad or otherwise and he lives 35 miles away....

like in tarot though each card [in cartomancy] has a certain general association - so if someone were to tell you what cards they pulled you could still read them without being there

i dont speak to her often and i purposely don't so that when she reads me she doesn't know anything going on in my life.

its funny because when u go back and tell her something came true, she has no idea what you're talking about. once the reading is done, she doesn't remember anything she told u. i told her i got the new job and she asked me what the hell i was talking about.

yes, true xangel, i dont know how the connection would work though over the phone or internet. she gets good and bad feelings when she reads, like i said, ur skill has to really be developed.

i don't mind spending $ 20 on someone who comes with recommendations. i am just a little skeptical of people like miss chleo and sorts..haha.

some people have incredible intuition and empathy, there is a lot to that whole thing about only using ten percent of our brains etc.....when I've judged someone based on my gut reactions I've never been wrong - but when I go by what I see rather than what I feel it turns out wrong....and I've also had a history of premonitions in dreams, and simply "sensing" things....it's just that most people are too skeptical....

lol cansir, there are a lot of fakes, who can tell u meanings of cards. its hard to put stories together and really sit there and TELL YOU what's going on in your life currently.

she sees if you've been crying, if ur hurt, if ur scared, if ur happy, if ur confused. and she can tell u what it is that is causing this. then after she tells u the present, she tells u the future.