When a Cancer man wants out of a relationship, how does he typically do it? Does he just stop talking to you? I'm a Pisces woman and my cancer man has been giving me the silent treatment for almost 3 days. He does not respond to anything. I made him angry, but what I said to him was in reaction to hurt he has caused me repeatedly. He has never apologized. instead, he is acting like I am the only one who did anything. I have apologized, even though I did not really do anything. No response. I have asked him three times via text if our relationship is over...no response. He has done this before, and ended up coming back as if nothing had happened, but this time seems different...and worse because I actually said something to hurt him. The other times, I was angry...and he got angry because I was angry and gave me the silent treatment. What do I do? Keep apologizing? Keep texting and calling...or disappear like he has and hope he comes out of his shell? I'm really afraid he won't this time. However, I feel that as adults, if the relationship is over we should at least verbalize it...I have even given him the easy way out by asking if we're done via text...he could just say yes...but he says nothing. At all. Any insight?
I don't have a whole lot of experience with relationships, but when I broke up with my first and only real girlfriend it was pretty short and to the point. Speaking from personal experience, when a Cancer is giving you the silent treatment, they are usually hurt or they need space. I know when I was in a relationship with my ex, I got very annoyed at times because I needed my personal breathing room and I felt suffocated in the way she was always trying to get in contact with me. Could I have told her to back off a little? Yes, but I didn't. That was a long time ago, however, and what's done is done. My advice to you is to just let him be until he's ready to come out on his own. Us Cancers can be a stubborn, tenacious lot. As a disclaimer: don't look too far into astrology. Everybody is unique and different and a vague set of guidelines for each sign does not provide an "excuse" for someone's behavior. With that said, good luck. I hope everything works out between you both.
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Dec 28, 2011Comments: 0 · Posts: 255 · Topics: 22
As far as saying hurtful things to you, keep in mind it is very hard for us cancers to talk about things esp apologize at times. We know we did something bad and hurtful and it's understood by both parties. But it takes a strong person to admit their faults and when Cancers grow up both men and women they can overcome their inner turmoil and say Im sorry I was wrong, or Im sorry I hurt your feelings.
In my experience when Cancer men break up they just vaporize into thin air. Not sure why exactly, but I have dated cancers between the ages of 24 and 27 and they acted the same way. I suggest just give him time and see what is happening. Don't suffocate him let him breathe. If in a week there is no contact from him to you shoot him a line. If nothing at all comes of this consider it terminated.
Best of luck to you.
I would never just stop talking to a person and consider that the end. So Im assuming he's still whining but still loves you. what exactly did you say to hurt him? just make sure he knows you didnt mean what you said and your sorry and whatnot.. whose more dependent on who? so much information is missing to give a more accurate answer.. history repeats itself so if hes done this before and returned then I think its a matter of time before he comes back. good luck
I see this was posted 4 years ago. I don't know if you're still together with a Cancer man.
I am a Virgo currently dating a Cancer man for 3 1/2 years. Your problems are similar to mine I wonder if it's the same man.
Cancer men are very difficult to love. At first they woe you like you are the best girl they've ever had. Once you give in, they become suspicious and pull away like you did something wrong in the relationship. They don't open up and talk about people they love and care although you have already bared your soul to them. They will assess your personal home life first but takes forever for them to bring you to their circle. They do things that are very selfish that does not include you, once you get angry and frustrated, they get mad at you for feeling that way and then they pull away and disappear for days and weeks. Then you have to apologize to them for getting angry at them in the first place BUT no apologies coming from him. They are stingy, manipulating you so you'll end up spending more than them. They are stubborn and no matter how much you plead, the more they will not budge. They plan for the future that does not onclude you. They lie to be defensive, they change their stories, they are selfish and arrogant. But when they want, they can shower you with affection and their time. They are like Jekyll and Hyde yet they won't hesitate to tell their girlfriends that they are the Jekyll and Hyde.
It may not all Cancer men but it certainly is my Cancer man. Dating this guy for 3 1/2 years and I just met his only child less than a year ago. Denied having a child the first few months of dating. The moment I discovered it and confronted him about it, he still denied to the very end until I showed him his picture on his ex wife's FB account. He started to get suspicious and paranoid because he never mentioned his ex's name.
He claims he doesn't have close friends, I have not been introduced to any of his friends up to this day.
I have not met his family, except for his brother who I've met in a poorly lit driveway that even if I bump into him anywhere, we would not recognize each other. Never want me to meet his sister who wants to meet me, haven't met his parents who he was very close to and talk on the phone everyday, a year ago they died months apart.
He takes off to other countries with his travel buddies at work but not once did he invite me to go to those countries with him. Each time he flies out, I would always get mad and frustrated and j get to be ignored because I got mad. I am left feeling like its my fault, resentful and at the same time guilty for making a stink every time he goes away.
He doesn't text or call unless I do first. If I ask him why he doesn't initiate call or text, he gets mad and it's all my fault for asking that question.
He is stingy, always wanting 50/50 expenses. I never got a gift last Christmas.
Yet, I am still waiting for his text back. It's been 11days now. He got mad over an issue.
And to add, sadly I've come to believe that Cancer man, the more you show love, care and devotion, the more they pull away. If you hold back your affection, they get hurt and pull away the more. It's very frustrating and confusing that you wonder if they really love you or just using you until they meet the right one.
I guess in my experience, Cancer men are not capable of a loving and lasting relationship. They are only good for casual non committal relationship.
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Aug 12, 2009Comments: 0 · Posts: 4771 · Topics: 30
+1 to Poppyseeds.
I just read Mattsmum saga. Talk about a glutton for punishment.
She's in denial about being an obvious "side-piece."
No offense Mattsmum,
But...
What are you waiting for?
Answers?
Your dilemma is not an astrological problem,
He SHOWED you who he was. No big mystery to unfold here.
It's manipulation, and he's mind f***ing you.
He's winning, even with the proof that was presented to him, he's still winning.
Here you are.
Waiting on a text for 11 days.
You pulled a thread from 4 years ago seeking answers.
Lets see how big your balls are.
You want answers.
Inbox his 'alleged' ex wife, mother, and sister, and see what they all tell you.
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Jan 05, 2016Comments: 4 · Posts: 1709 · Topics: 21
I would never just disappear unless my abandonment fears have been triggered. But that has nothing to do with being a cancer. That has to do with me being borderline.
It sounds to me like this crab is sulking. Stop trying to contact him. He'll come around, and if not then you can upgrade to a more mature crab.