Cancer man - i need your insides guys, please!?

Well, here i am having trouble understanding this cancer man lol!
I met him 8 months ago. Back then none of us was ready for a relationship so we agreed on status "friends with benefits" and everything was great. He was just enough, calling or texting, always giving me good amount of attention. When we were out he was very present and entirely with me. We were always trying to keep it fun.The truth is that i was really enjoying the time with him, but i was never ready to move forward so i would be unavailable quite often or disappear occasionally...once it was for more than a month and i wouldn't answer his calls or text messages. Honestly, i have no idea why i was doing that, i was just not ready for anything else and i was a little bit distant. He never asked me why, we were just seeing each other whenever... Until recently i start realizing that i actually need something more meaningful with him and one evening we went, we had too many drinks and he brought a conversation about the way we see each other and that i never call him or text him just to ask how is he doing etc... That came straight to the point, because it was exactly the moment i would be in doubt about our relationship. So a week after i did call him, we went out and i told him that i am falling for him and i would like to know him better, and all night he kept asking me why choosing him??_ However we left it like that and we met a couple of days after for a friend??s bday and in the beginning he was pretty distant, then I confront him that he acts as an asshole (I am sorry for the language) and then he changed through out the night but getting upset when I talk with my girlfriends or —disappearing?? or not noticing him. We moved the party to his house where he was going through being very lovable and cuddly to cold and acting cool and complaining that men would flirt with me. We tried to continue the talk, but it went again undefined??_ I called him a week after and we had a great night; since then we see each, but not because we call each other, we just end up meeting accidentally and then spending the night together. He responds to my texts, he is always available, we still have great time together, but he won't talk or initiate anything. He is somehow detached and I don't know if he is taking his distance to think or just to show he likes it that way;I don't know if I have to walk the talk or wait; if I need to approach him somehow or not at all??_ So help pls🙂

Posted by ttt
The truth is that i was really enjoying the time with him, but i was never ready to move forward so i would be unavailable quite often or disappear occasionally...once it was for more than a month and i wouldn't answer his calls or text messages. Honestly, i have no idea why i was doing that, i was just not ready for anything else and i was a little bit distant.

Are you a Taurus?

From what I read. You disappear frequently and he is jealous. He is jealous because you are inconsistent and filling him with doubt. The why choose me, take that as a compliment. He likes you.

You started a rollercoaster and he's on it. If you want him to not be so up and down Quit disappearing. Be open with him talk to him He does not like distance from his mate. He's a crab and clings to his woman more than most can handle.

Start with a detailed explanation and go from there

Thanks guys! Well i feel bad now, but in my defense, we both agreed on certain limits and none of us have ever asked for anything. But i did tell him the exact truth and i was very straightforward and honest. I might appear sometimes insensitive, but now i also feel vulnerable while expressing feelings and receiving his unclear reactions. Plus i am always trying to give enough space to people around me and not giving any pressure to take decisions etc. I obviously care about this person and that's why i am confused.
Btw, i am Sag

I did say that and i got all defensive 🙂)) But thanks a lot! It actually gave me a whole other prospective, because my interpretation was going complete opposite way🙂

Sorry if I offended any bulls out there but you are notorious for disappearing acts.

oh no offense, it is most likely true... but how you would know it matters if nobody complains 🙂) i even thought i was too pushy lately lol
i just love conversations, so helpful!

Sheesh, this sounds like how I feel with my Cancer. Smh. I wish they were more direct like an Aries or Sagg, at least if you get confused with them it's your own fault lol.

"Cancer man - i need your insides guys, please!?"

hahaha - I apologize - I didn't read one word of this thread.
I just wanted to comment on how terribly cute the title of it is 🙂

Ya when I first glanced at it I thought the title said I need you inside please. God my mind is gutter trash sometimes 😛

Omg, i am pissing off the cancer guild 😢 Ok, i did bad things - guilty! I don't know why the focus goes on the fact i didn't respond to a few messages, that was before. As soon as i realized where i am standing i became very present and bravely exposing my feelings 🙂 However i was seriously confused by his response and as I am not a mind reader, i wouldn't suspect an ocean of emotions where the rest of the world sees "i like you, but i don't feel the same way and won't dare to tell you, so figure it out". Believe it or not, someone can be that much of an idiot🙂 and that's why, again, i seriously appreciate your advises.

Posted by deezie
"Cancer man - i need your insides guys, please!?"

hahaha - I apologize - I didn't read one word of this thread.
I just wanted to comment on how terribly cute the title of it is 🙂

i really meant it lol

Posted by truecancer
Sorry if I offended any bulls out there but you are notorious for disappearing acts.

im a female bull and i never disappear- other bulls i know dont do this either, the only time i retreat is if my partner has done this to me first and ive tried talking with them and get nothing, then i will lay back and wait for him to come get me. we dont like anything hangin over our heads so we would tell you if its not happening with you. if not we created bad juju.

we need our men to be the aggressor. ive just never understood why anyone would disappear i think its rude and shows your lame character therefore breaking any trust. most bulls are not about that.

Thanks for the support BlackIndian22, it's always nice to have one cancer on your side🙂) still digesting the info thou lol

well roscoe, funny enough i don't know not even one bull, but about taking off sometimes... we all can get confused once in a while

omg guys, none of what you said it turns out to be right... i mean, definitely not the best outcome i would imagine, but after all it's funny how lost in our interpretations we can be lol

Dear cancers, analyze this: Assuming i was the bad guy, i tried to explain how much i care and be more sensitive and attentive towards this cancer guy's feelings .... Guess what? There are none lol! He goes - you are wonderful, amazing bla bla bla, ver important bla bla bla, BUT...