Cancer man made a shocking Request

My cancer man who I have been seeing for more than a year and a half(no Labels), who I have not even have sex with, requested that me him and one of his friends should have a 3 some. WTF—? Does this mean that I'm really only a piece of ass to him? That there are no feelings from his side? Should I dump him? This has really shocked me, we have fooled around, and we sometimes have sex convos, but this was too much. Please help, any thoughts on why he would request something like this, if I meant something to him?

The first 3 months of you not giving him any snatch made him regard you as a prize .. his prize to cherish.


Now that 18 months have gone by and you are willing to talk sex to him without actually giving him the goods = him thinking you couldn't care a less about his blue balls, you couldn't care a less about how it makes him feel.



So, why should he care about how it makes you feel?



You are a prize a longer to cherish .... now, you're a disappointment, expecting him to support your emotions.


Women are so double-standard, it's enough to make a person sick, actually. Women need to have their feelings nurtured, and men need to have their cocks stroked.

Men give women feelings in return for snatch
Women give men a romp in the sack in return for feelings.

You are expecting him to continue to support your feelings while ignoring his need for physical release.



Seriously, it's not rocket science ......

If I were a guy, I'd have me several whores on call .... that's much better than having to deal with a needy woman

LOL, maybe I should put this in perspective. It is not me not wanting to give him any, it is him not wanting to go that far. From the start we had sex convos, fooled around later on in the relationship, but never had sex. Hope this helps, should I be shocked?

I just went and scanned through your saga .... apparantly you and this guy have been having verbal sex since the very beginning, and everytime you told him you didn't want to do this, you did it again anyway.


I'm unsure as to what has happened to girls this day and age ... maybe it's from having mothers working instead of staying home and actually teaching their girls about respect ..... but, for some reason, women have not been taught that a man cannot be won over by her presenting herself as promiscuious. For some reason girls think that if they show the guys that they are sexual beings ready to be taken by the right guy, that this is suppose to trigger within the guy a sense of honor that she has chosen him, which in turn is suppose to trigger within him a desire to carry her feelings for her.

When in reality, the only that triggers in a guy is a sense of her withholding the goods until he barks in the right tone, which doesn't make him feel like the special man at all, it makes him feel like he found the special barking tone.

Meaning = withholding the goods doesn't make him think you are the one, it makes him think you are a game player.


Cut your losses and move on ... next time, when you find a boy you like, you have to actually "act" virtuous, if this is the impression you want him to have of you.

thanks this makes sense. I should just stop overreacting and being sensitve. I was thinking that this means that he has no respect for me and thinks im cheap and that i will have 3 somes

why do you think cancer man wants to only fool around without having sex?

Posted by dragoneyes
thanks this makes sense. I should just stop overreacting and being sensitve. I was thinking that this means that he has no respect for me and thinks im cheap and that i will have 3 somes

He doesn't have any respect for you .... that was before his suggestion of a trio.

He lost respect for you the moment you told him you didn't want to participate in the sex talks and fooling around ... and then did it.

Posted by dragoneyes
why do you think cancer man wants to only fool around without having sex?

Nevermind .... you refuse to open your eyes, and are adamant to stay within your fantasy.


There's plenty of other people in here who will hold your hand and tell you what you want to hear.



out

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by dragoneyes
thanks this makes sense. I should just stop overreacting and being sensitve. I was thinking that this means that he has no respect for me and thinks im cheap and that i will have 3 somes

He doesn't have any respect for you .... that was before his suggestion of a trio.

He lost respect for you the moment you told him you didn't want to participate in the sex talks and fooling around ... and then did it.

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This is an interesting thread....

@P-Angel.... would this apply with flirting type comments ... Like Bend Over.. 🙂 You will be spanked for that 🙂 etc—?

Not a total convo... but one liners .. here and there... Very sporatic but in fun mostly... as the situation permits

WTF—? Does this mean that I'm really only a piece of ass to him? Appears he's f*cking with your head but in all honesty that would be enough for me to stop communicating with him, he can ask for a 3some but he can't ask you out on a proper date...something is really wrong with that behavior.

That there are no feelings from his side? Should I dump him? He's never expressed emotions with you per my understanding of your prior post about him, everything you've pretty much made up in your own head and you can't really dump someone that's not in your life, he's never taken you out on a proper date, the predominate amount of communication is through some form of technology and he stares.

Why aren't you dating someone that treats you out on a proper date? Court you properly? What's motivating you to take so little? And this has been going on for what 18 months or something like that? That's ridiculous!

Are you sure this guy isn't married or already in a longterm commitment with someone else? He's certainly not going out of his way to impress you.

And what else exactly is he supposed to ask you given that all you talk about is sex....His question seems to add up actually given that the premise of your communication is sex.

Thanks for all your inputs and advise. I told cancer man that I can't do this with him anymore, and that I understand why he has no respect for me, my own fault. He then wanted to explain his side, and said I took it the wrong way ect. I told him that he really do not have to explain anything to me, and he then said he respects my decision. I will have to stick to my guns this time, and not ever let him into my life again. Will keep you posted.

Posted by catin

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by dragoneyes
thanks this makes sense. I should just stop overreacting and being sensitve. I was thinking that this means that he has no respect for me and thinks im cheap and that i will have 3 somes

He doesn't have any respect for you .... that was before his suggestion of a trio.

He lost respect for you the moment you told him you didn't want to participate in the sex talks and fooling around ... and then did it.

This is an interesting thread....

@P-Angel.... would this apply with flirting type comments ... Like Bend Over.. 🙂 You will be spanked for that 🙂 etc—?

Not a total convo... but one liners .. here and there... Very sporatic but in fun mostly... as the situation permits

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OK.. If P-Angel won't respond to this.. maybe some other cranky crab.. will.. Just Saying