
CalmCrab22
@CalmCrab22
10 YearsCancer
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Posted by Redoctober2000I don't want to be. It's scary. We're both cancers so who knows how long we will be single but together. It works for us for now.
How on earth can you not be exclusive with someone you have been with2 years? I just don't get it?!
It's amazing but I seem to find soooo many cancer sun women can be with a man for 10-15 years and have no commitment / exclusivity or marriage.... Strange!


Posted by SensitiveBluesOutside of work I suck at communicating.
Just accept it girl!
Also damn you're horrible at communication! I realize I'm just add bad as you!
Why don't you ask him what he wants if he wants to move in together
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(I Never share hardship) I finally opened up to cancer man & told him I was quitting my job & I thought financially better to move out of state to my home I own (no mortgage or HOA) out & into prepping it for renting & stack my $ for 10-12 mos but emotionally I want to stay here.
He offered without me hinting to cover costs for the upgrades & minor work to be done on my out of state home so that I can rent it out if I wanted to. Also said "just lmk whatever I need to do."
(My heart hopes he said that bc he didn't want to see me move away)
2weeks later I'm at his house he asks me if I've made up my mind about moving & I told him as long as I get a good job & he keeps his word to help with the other home I can, will & want to stay. I told him I have things in the works & waiting for estimates of work back. Then tells me I need to move to a bigger home in the town we currently live in.**This pissed me off. Both of our leases were up in July & he resigned his. I still haven't yet. He only has a 2 bedroom & we both have kids.
then he asked me what I needed to get me to move to a nicer home. Since I've never sled anyone for anything I didn't know what to say & I changed the subject.
Fast forward to this week. I told him I need to send $ 250 for the handyman & 2 days later he hands it to me.
Side note* my X of 8 years, 7 years removed used to give me everything I wanted. I am used to being taken care of but bc of that when we split I felt I had something to prove so I've been taking care of myself & a # of family members/ friends since then. No one has helped when I needed it most over the last 7 years so it means a lot to me when a person does what they say they will do.
I've been royally screwed out of a large sum of $ by a much older successful cancer man so I didn't have faith in this cancer man.
Since we're not exclusive why is he offering so much?
We've been wtf ever for 2plus years now & he's done little things like give me a sweet card with a few hundred for no reason & get my kids nice gifts unmerited & more but this is different.
Seems like he doesn't want me to move away & wants me to get a bigger nicer home even if it means he helps with everything. Am I a charity case suddenly or what? I don't want to think these are his gestures of love if they're not. (Yes he's said he loves me on his own 3times over 2 years lol & he does call me his GF but says he's single, he's just like me smh)