Posted by Wizardz_I can’t thank you enough for this advice! This is all new to me, so this is incredibly helpful, especially from a cancer perspective. I want to enjoy all of this in the best way possible.
Part of the excitement for him is exploring/releasing this side of himself so I wouldn't highlight it or refer to it. If you are excited by it too then it's sort of like the golden goose. Let it happen, one golden egg at a time, rather than confronting him and saying "so you want to be my Dom?" or you might end up causing too much stress
He is in the role of dominant so he should be the one to gradually ramp up the power dynamic which it sounds as if he is doing already... so I would say relax and as long as you are enjoying it then let him take control gradually at his own pace. It's highly psychological and there are a lot of guilt and morally tricky parts to negotiate, depending on what he is used to, what his upbringing was like etc. This can cause a lot of stress and end up in arguments. There is also the concept of "topping from the bottom" which is where you, as the submissive, end up trying to control things, for example, telling him to say this and not that etc. You said he calls you good girl after orgasming because HE knows you like that - this is a good sign
So what I am trying to say is there is a lot that could go wrong by you stepping up and trying to organise and control what is happening, when as the sub it is better for you to trust that he wants it to and he will make it happen at his own pace
Re: talking about safety limits, sure that is important but it doesn't sound that you are at a stage where that is necessary? and he is moving fairly slowly. I'm sure you will know when the time is right to discuss those matters. Sounds like you have great trust, which is the key to making it work. Take time to enjoy the journey and don't rush it
I have Cancer moon so I think I understand how sensitive a process it might be for him which is why I think it would be better if you let things take their course without any interference on your part
Posted by alexscariesThank you!
There's a podcast and the guy on that is cancer and the woman is scorpio. I think it's called lovingbdsm.
Posted by DMVI have no idea, that’s why I’m asking. I guess maybe because exposing a kink makes you vulnerable?
Why would he feel awkward?
Posted by alexscariesOh God, I feel so boring. No kinks that I can think of 😔Posted by Indigo1974Posted by DMV
Why would he feel awkward?
I have no idea, that’s why I’m asking. I guess maybe because exposing a kink makes you vulnerable?
Sure does. A huge factor depends what you are into.click to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineLibra sun, Aqua moon 😊
Ask to tie him up and see what he says 😂
What sign are you op?
Posted by aquarius09What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
Posted by borednbeautifulTake charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.Posted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.click to expand
Posted by borednbeautifulTake charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.Posted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Moon in Virgo, Venus in Gemini
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
Posted by borednbeautifulMars in SagPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Unfortunately, that doesn’t ring true for my Leo ex. He was a lazy lover and I had to take charge most of the time. He would initiate and sit back and enjoy.Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
Take charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.click to expand
Posted by Indigo1974Not shocked at Venus in Gem. Where is the mars?Posted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
Moon in Virgo, Venus in Geminiclick to expand
Posted by borednbeautifulMars in Leo crashing and burning? That happens when they are no longer into someone otherwise their sexual libido is strong. Leo needs romance. Leo mercuries are the biggest fantasists. Leo Venus and mars need romantic to show you their fire.Posted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
Take charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t ring true for my Leo ex. He was a lazy lover and I had to take charge most of the time. He would initiate and sit back and enjoy.
I have a mars in Leo. In the beginning, it was hot. Not gonna lie. But then it fizzled out. I think Leo’s go hot and then crash and burn.click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Mars in SagPosted by Indigo1974Posted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
Moon in Virgo, Venus in Gemini
Not shocked at Venus in Gem. Where is the mars?click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Well, I cooled off because he wouldn’t communicate and commit. I have venus in Cancer and emotional needs too, not just sexual ones.Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
Take charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t ring true for my Leo ex. He was a lazy lover and I had to take charge most of the time. He would initiate and sit back and enjoy.
I have a mars in Leo. In the beginning, it was hot. Not gonna lie. But then it fizzled out. I think Leo’s go hot and then crash and burn.
Mars in Leo crashing and burning? That happens when they are no longer into someone otherwise their sexual libido is strong. Leo needs romance. Leo mercuries are the biggest fantasists. Leo Venus and mars need romantic to show you their fire.click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Well, I cooled off because he wouldn’t communicate and commit. I have venus in Cancer and emotional needs too, not just sexual ones.Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
Take charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t ring true for my Leo ex. He was a lazy lover and I had to take charge most of the time. He would initiate and sit back and enjoy.
I have a mars in Leo. In the beginning, it was hot. Not gonna lie. But then it fizzled out. I think Leo’s go hot and then crash and burn.
Mars in Leo crashing and burning? That happens when they are no longer into someone otherwise their sexual libido is strong. Leo needs romance. Leo mercuries are the biggest fantasists. Leo Venus and mars need romantic to show you their fire.click to expand
Posted by borednbeautifulI dated a double earth sign in venus and mars. In fact he was mars and Virgo is Venus. I didn’t know astrology in depth back then. He was such a Negative Nancy, which was such a mood killer. Venus in Virgo is is detriment. The most unromantic Venus and this coming from Aqua stellium. I’d say I’m more romantic than them. Their love language just won’t gel with most people.Posted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
Take charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t ring true for my Leo ex. He was a lazy lover and I had to take charge most of the time. He would initiate and sit back and enjoy.
I have a mars in Leo. In the beginning, it was hot. Not gonna lie. But then it fizzled out. I think Leo’s go hot and then crash and burn.
Mars in Leo crashing and burning? That happens when they are no longer into someone otherwise their sexual libido is strong. Leo needs romance. Leo mercuries are the biggest fantasists. Leo Venus and mars need romantic to show you their fire.
Well, I cooled off because he wouldn’t communicate and commit. I have venus in Cancer and emotional needs too, not just sexual ones.
I think he took it hard that I refused sex and to give him attention. He has venus in Virgo, mars in Capricorn.
It’s too bad our romance is dead. Alas, life goes on.click to expand
Posted by aquarius09Gurllll!!!! 😸Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09Posted by borednbeautifulPosted by aquarius09
This Cancer dude’s Venus is Virgo? Mars in Cap by any chance?
What about Mars in Cap? My ex Leo had that placement.
Take charge in bed kinda guys and the kink is off the charts. They match very well with Mars in Sag.
Unfortunately, that doesn’t ring true for my Leo ex. He was a lazy lover and I had to take charge most of the time. He would initiate and sit back and enjoy.
I have a mars in Leo. In the beginning, it was hot. Not gonna lie. But then it fizzled out. I think Leo’s go hot and then crash and burn.
Mars in Leo crashing and burning? That happens when they are no longer into someone otherwise their sexual libido is strong. Leo needs romance. Leo mercuries are the biggest fantasists. Leo Venus and mars need romantic to show you their fire.
Well, I cooled off because he wouldn’t communicate and commit. I have venus in Cancer and emotional needs too, not just sexual ones.
I think he took it hard that I refused sex and to give him attention. He has venus in Virgo, mars in Capricorn.
It’s too bad our romance is dead. Alas, life goes on.
I dated a double earth sign in venus and mars. In fact he was mars and Virgo is Venus. I didn’t know astrology in depth back then. He was such a Negative Nancy, which was such a mood killer. Venus in Virgo is is detriment. The most unromantic Venus and this coming from Aqua stellium. I’d say I’m more romantic than them. Their love language just won’t gel with most people.click to expand