Cancer man--to ignore or not?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by sweetlibra34 on Wednesday, December 18, 2013 and has 15 replies.
So, here I am again. Yes, I'm still wrapped up in my cancer man however, I am starting to get really tired of the "games" I have to play to get his attention. After the last time I posted, I told my man I was done with him and he didn't respond but with a "goodnight." The next day he acted as if nothing happened and we eventually, after a few weeks, picked up as usual. It has been a major push-pull with him. He threw a major fit over something I apparently did to him and even after apologizing, he decided he was going to "teach" me a lesson and respond to me minimally. When I asked him why he said that at least he was still responding. If I tell him that I like him, he pulls away but the minute I don't respond like usual or that I don't respond at all, he's peeking his head out and shows interest again. I am tired of the games, but know that it takes time for Cancer's to trust someone enough to commit to them.
My question is--do I move on and date other men while he figures out what he wants? Will he continue to respond to me ignoring him? What makes a Cancer man decided to finally make a commitment? I am so frustrated by this all, but really do like him. Help!
Also, does the moon really affect their moods? Is it a good affect or bad?
details
Posted by Finbuff
It depends on how much you value his friendship and affection. Being a cancer, we love to be chased a bit by women - I don't know exactly what psychological chord that stimulates, but it breeds security in the Cancer mind. He knows that a woman has serious interest if she takes the lead and initiative from time to time. Silent treatments work to breed more insecurity, and absence does make the heart grow fonder, and he will not forget, but we are also very disciplined and strong-minded in that we will not run back just because we are ignored. Personally, if someone ignores me, there is nothing I hate more, particularly when I don't feel I deserve it! I'd love to get into this with you. I've know a few Libra women in my life, but it's been a few years dating one.


I would love to get into this with you as well. I guess I should rephrase what I said, I don't ignore him but rather I just don't contact him and wait for him to contact me. This seems to get a reaction from him. He seems to be put off a but when I initiate contact or ask him to do things and if I don't ask him to hang out, he won't make plans but yet the minute I back off he's there again. He's so very guarded--not sure if this is a cancer thing or just him. Disciplined and strong minded are really good ways to describe him, along with stubborn, lol. I've never been so drawn yet so confused and frustrated by a man and I've also never dated a cancer so I'm at a loss.
details
a cancer man committs when hes found the perfect girl for him. which.. ill even give you a description of this girl :
girly, pretty, motherly, not dramatic in an sense, carefree, fun, go with the flow, never says anything bad to him, makes him feel like he can trust you 100% , best sex hes ever had, not ever too skinny, immature (my opin) sense of humor.
theyre just very picky.
ditch him.
this sounds like my ex cancer... really frustrating. and because of the frustrating texts, id tell him very rude things. but the next day everything was back to normal.
are you guys officially bf/gf or are you just someone he is "seeing"
because if he is seeing you then chances are he is seeing someone else
best way to sort things out with a cancer is by calling. for some reason, every cancer i know is just disgustingly horrible at responding to texts and would rather you call.
im pretty sure its over for you though. hate to break it to you, but if a cancer guy is responding like he doesnt care to you "breaking up" with him.. he either.. doesnt take you seriously and never will, or he just doesnt care... he will probably keep you around for sex or the occasional feeling like he has someone when things arent going well in his life but uck. he sounds like a bad one.
if you dated other guys, he wont care or he will just do his own thing too. thatll probably be a forsure end all to the situation. but i personally think in this situation its a good thing.
if you just cant let this guy go
details
give him space until he comes to you
details
details
The next minute. I haven't seen him in almost a month and the communication has lessened. He questions if I still like him and where I've been on the weekends. He texts me to make sure I'm ok when there's bad weather. I don't know what to make of it. I don't want to like him, but I can't control what my heart tells me. When we are together things are amazing, we laugh, play, always have a great time, it's the time apart that seems to be hurting us.
details
VenusScorp--You're right, I should forget him. It's going to take time. I think that dating others will eventually help me get over the sting of not knowing/understanding what goes on in this Cancer mans' head.
details
Posted by VenusScorp
Forget him -- you're hurting yourself. Move on, there are many others out there who will respect you, take you and the reln seriously and give you the time they promised...


+1
details
VenusScorp--your words are kind, healing, and a great reminder that I do deserve better. I need to remember that if it's meant to be it will be. In the meantime, I need to keep myself busy and make sure that I don't lose myself because of this man. Thanks again. God Bless!
details
i accidentally talk rudely to my cancer man and then he says he need 1 day to cool down and will call me the next day. However during the night, my hearts was not as ease so i messaged him telling him how sorry i was and what i did was wrong. Then he says im being selfish, his serious in a relationship and need space, then he says thanks for making it worst and he totally ignored my text and calls. 2 days later i just stop messaging. Please help. Need advise and what should i do. Does he still want me? (relationship status is still in his facebook)
the thing is when we are together, he treat me really well, he told me that he is serious about our relationship and keeps clinging on to me. he even got our name tattooed. i read many articles regarding cancer man and it really is quite scary. Say i stop contacting him but after a long run, should i at least send him a simple message like "how are you?" will things change eventually? as i really dont wanna loose him as i love him so much.
Please help as im confused. I really dont wanna loose him. What should i do?
details
Posted by secretsaggi
i accidentally talk rudely to my cancer man and then he says he need 1 day to cool down and will call me the next day. However during the night, my hearts was not as ease so i messaged him telling him how sorry i was and what i did was wrong. Then he says im being selfish, his serious in a relationship and need space, then he says thanks for making it worst and he totally ignored my text and calls. 2 days later i just stop messaging. Please help. Need advise and what should i do. Does he still want me? (relationship status is still in his facebook)
the thing is when we are together, he treat me really well, he told me that he is serious about our relationship and keeps clinging on to me. he even got our name tattooed. i read many articles regarding cancer man and it really is quite scary. Say i stop contacting him but after a long run, should i at least send him a simple message like "how are you?" will things change eventually? as i really dont wanna loose him as i love him so much.
Please help as im confused. I really dont wanna loose him. What should i do?


Wow, I'd say id he has your name tattooed, he's pretty serious about you. The only thing I can advise is that you wait for him. He is the one ignoring you. There's nothing you can do not but wait. Let him wonder,
"Why isn't she texting me? What is she up to? Is she over me?"
You've done all you can do, all you can wait for is the other to bite.
details
DearCupcake...thanks for the advise.. though the feeling sux..his actions is driving me crazy and im worry at the end my patience runs out and i giv up though im still holding to it strongly.
Usually how long will the silent treatment last if i just ignore..and btw its already 2 days since i had ignore him..will he ever realise to his senses and start asking the questions you mentioned?
this is one hell of an interesting relationship i ever had..
details
Posted by secretsaggi
DearCupcake...thanks for the advise.. though the feeling sux..his actions is driving me crazy and im worry at the end my patience runs out and i giv up though im still holding to it strongly.
Usually how long will the silent treatment last if i just ignore..and btw its already 2 days since i had ignore him..will he ever realise to his senses and start asking the questions you mentioned?
this is one hell of an interesting relationship i ever had..


Having a relationship with a cancer man will always be interesting =)
Has he texted you at all?
details
Posted by DearCupcake
Posted by secretsaggi
DearCupcake...thanks for the advise.. though the feeling sux..his actions is driving me crazy and im worry at the end my patience runs out and i giv up though im still holding to it strongly.
Usually how long will the silent treatment last if i just ignore..and btw its already 2 days since i had ignore him..will he ever realise to his senses and start asking the questions you mentioned?
this is one hell of an interesting relationship i ever had..


Having a relationship with a cancer man will always be interesting =)
Has he texted you at all?
click to expand


Dearcupcake. i dunno to say if he has anot but one complete wierdo. He finally release the fb relationship status yesterday and posted in his fb wall(shared only with me) "The ball is in your court =)" .. why would he do dat if he wanted to end it? or is he trying to mind fked me or testing waters how much he meant for me? or he wanna hear how crazy i am without him and that i cant live without him? His so dam complicated. And despite all above mentioned..i know he reads all my msges especiall in watapps..haven block me is a good sign. i assume if he really hate me he would have just unfriend me or remove me from social network and just disapear like that. I just dun get it y is he doing so many things? And then he is still no replying thou he throw me that post.
What do u think? i already cant diffrentiate wether he still wants the relationship or not or he just seem happy torturing me like this. He need space i gave me..2 days i din msg him or so..and then he does the above mention and pop me the post. At a point he makes me think, mayb he thinks im not interested in him? or he is just testing water after me being quiet for 2 days by posting such thing to see if i still cared.
OMG.....
details
Posted by DearCupcake
Posted by secretsaggi
DearCupcake...thanks for the advise.. though the feeling sux..his actions is driving me crazy and im worry at the end my patience runs out and i giv up though im still holding to it strongly.
Usually how long will the silent treatment last if i just ignore..and btw its already 2 days since i had ignore him..will he ever realise to his senses and start asking the questions you mentioned?
this is one hell of an interesting relationship i ever had..


Having a relationship with a cancer man will always be interesting =)
Has he texted you at all?
click to expand


Dearcupcake. i dunno to say if he has anot but one complete wierdo. He finally release the fb relationship status yesterday and posted in his fb wall(shared only with me) "The ball is in your court =)" .. why would he do dat if he wanted to end it? or is he trying to mind fked me or testing waters how much he meant for me? or he wanna hear how crazy i am without him and that i cant live without him? His so dam complicated. And despite all above mentioned..i know he reads all my msges especiall in watapps..haven block me is a good sign. i assume if he really hate me he would have just unfriend me or remove me from social network and just disapear like that. I just dun get it y is he doing so many things? And then he is still no replying thou he throw me that post.
What do u think? i already cant diffrentiate wether he still wants the relationship or not or he just seem happy torturing me like this. He need space i gave me..2 days i din msg him or so..and then he does the above mention and pop me the post. At a point he makes me think, mayb he thinks im not interested in him? or he is just testing water after me being quiet for 2 days by posting such thing to see if i still cared.
OMG.....
details

Leave Your Feedback

We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.

Home Astrology Comments Forums Search

©1997-2025 dxpnet.com. All Rights Reserved.
Advertising Contact Terms of Use Privacy Policy