Cancer man withdrawal?

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Taytay1010 on Saturday, December 1, 2018 and has 6 replies.
I am an Aries woman (Pisces/Aries cusp). I started seeing a Cancer man a few months ago. We live in different cities and have been on 2 dates so far, both I went to go see him. I had told him about my ex on this date and he told me hes never been in a serious relationship and never made it past a second date since he's 29. After the date, he texted saying he had a great time and will call later in the week to plan out when he can come to see me. When he called though he said he was concerned about my ex and asked if we still talk, if I have feelings, if I would ever get back together with him - to all I said no, I havent seen the guy in 2 years and it was a very toxic relationship. He then asked if I am too young for commitment (I am 26) and I said no I am ready for it. He then said I need a few days to think through whether or not we should still be in this and I said I thought you were going to come here and I don't know you well enough yet to make that decision and I need to see you in person. He said I need a few days to think about that too. So I am planning to give him his space and not talk until he comes back. I also know he has some exams next week so I will tell him we can talk after that when he does contact me. I am so confused with his 180 change - can anyone shed some light on this??
Forgot to mention, my moon is in Pisces and his moon is in Capricorn. And he is a workaholic! Works 80-90 hour work weeks then spends his remaining time with either his parents or his guy friends.
He said he never makes it pass 2 dates. I’d believe him on that one.
Posted by Taytay1010

I am an Aries woman (Pisces/Aries cusp). I started seeing a Cancer man a few months ago. We live in different cities and have been on 2 dates so far, both I went to go see him. I had told him about my ex on this date and he told me hes never been in a serious relationship and never made it past a second date since he's 29. After the date, he texted saying he had a great time and will call later in the week to plan out when he can come to see me. When he called though he said he was concerned about my ex and asked if we still talk, if I have feelings, if I would ever get back together with him - to all I said no, I havent seen the guy in 2 years and it was a very toxic relationship. He then asked if I am too young for commitment (I am 26) and I said no I am ready for it. He then said I need a few days to think through whether or not we should still be in this and I said I thought you were going to come here and I don't know you well enough yet to make that decision and I need to see you in person. He said I need a few days to think about that too. So I am planning to give him his space and not talk until he comes back. I also know he has some exams next week so I will tell him we can talk after that when he does contact me. I am so confused with his 180 change - can anyone shed some light on this??
You musta really talked about your ex... geez, waaaay too soon. It was 2 years ago and you bring him up on a date? You're right, you are confused. Better yet, you confused him. Can't you see that?
It's not really a 180 change if he told you he only goes on 2 dates and you've already had 2. It's consistent with what he has said. As for if you'll get a date #3, I guess you'll have to wait and see. You should have asked him why it doesn't go further than 2 dates and found out if it's because he doesn't want to see them or if they reject him.

I think Cancer guys are cautious and don't jump head first into relationships. Especially if they've been burned in the past so he might need some patience with that. They're kind of sensitive and have lots of feelings so they protect them with their little crab shell. Also, they're total weirdos but it's cute and endearing. Anyway good luck and I hope you get a date #3. Just because someone has had a shitty past track record, doesn't mean someone can't come along and change that. Nothing is ever set in stone.
I will pray for you.