cancer men and longterm love needs
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by redhedgurl on Monday, February 5, 2007 and has 9 replies.
hey guys! me again. i get such good stuff here tho......
ok cancers, you meet the boy/gurl of your dreams. fall madly, hook up, get hitched, the works. days and months pass. you've been together for a bit.
what do you need in order to stay happy, satisfied and engaged in the relationship? do you need alot of challenge? do you need to feel like you're honestly and truly the only one, no challengers? like you need to keep working to keep your other half interested, or a steady, non upsetting routine? what's the ideal situation, what have you had that's worked, not worked.
i know you guys need alot of validation, and i know the cuddly thing never dies. got that part. besides, i make sure to let my husband know he is adored, loved, and that he's my own personal hot as a firecracker, most gorgeous sex toy on earth. i treat him like a sex object, openly and boldly, with no problem. i think he likes it. ha.
i'm talking about what you need on a deeper level. emotional and psych wise.
help me obi wan(s)..........
ok cancers, you meet the boy/gurl of your dreams. fall madly, hook up, get hitched, the works. days and months pass. you've been together for a bit.
what do you need in order to stay happy, satisfied and engaged in the relationship? do you need alot of challenge? do you need to feel like you're honestly and truly the only one, no challengers? like you need to keep working to keep your other half interested, or a steady, non upsetting routine? what's the ideal situation, what have you had that's worked, not worked.
i know you guys need alot of validation, and i know the cuddly thing never dies. got that part. besides, i make sure to let my husband know he is adored, loved, and that he's my own personal hot as a firecracker, most gorgeous sex toy on earth. i treat him like a sex object, openly and boldly, with no problem. i think he likes it. ha.
i'm talking about what you need on a deeper level. emotional and psych wise.
help me obi wan(s)..........
hmmmm.....
Well you mentioned needing to feel like the only one with no contenders...If I am that deep with someone i see them having no contenders.....If I feel like I have contenders that I'll just release you and let them have you....ultimately in the eyes of a great love you are basically it for them even with all of your imperfections. If I have that wrapped up in a peaceful household with little arguing and plenty of sex I'll pretty much mold myself to whatever the other person likes as long as its not outside of the boundaries of what I stand for or hold dear as values and principles...
Well you mentioned needing to feel like the only one with no contenders...If I am that deep with someone i see them having no contenders.....If I feel like I have contenders that I'll just release you and let them have you....ultimately in the eyes of a great love you are basically it for them even with all of your imperfections. If I have that wrapped up in a peaceful household with little arguing and plenty of sex I'll pretty much mold myself to whatever the other person likes as long as its not outside of the boundaries of what I stand for or hold dear as values and principles...
HI MercInAries!!!!!!!
and oh my god cancerla. that's kinda freaky, cause it could have been my guys writing it. soooo weird. and yep. we have few arguments. we have one or two issues, the biggest one as a result of his difficulty letting go of people. he's not emotionally interested, she won't quit being interested. sex? ha. we are the envy of all our friends, and the bane of the upstairs neighbors!!! he he.
interesting.
and oh my god cancerla. that's kinda freaky, cause it could have been my guys writing it. soooo weird. and yep. we have few arguments. we have one or two issues, the biggest one as a result of his difficulty letting go of people. he's not emotionally interested, she won't quit being interested. sex? ha. we are the envy of all our friends, and the bane of the upstairs neighbors!!! he he.
interesting.
sounds like you got a TRUE cancer on your hands lol....
Sex is such a big deal to Cancers! True or not true crabbies?
My bf says he needs it to live hahaha and I have recently discovered that it must be his most sensitive issue. No kidding! LOL
We once had a pretty bad argument, things looked pretty grim and uncertain for us. He kept texting me every once in a while until about 3am. One of his texts said "Last time I wanted to see you so bad, I was so excited and today... nothing" I was sleepy so I responded with "Ok, Gn" Later, he texted me "I'm not even horny" LOL After I asked him if he was drunk or bored he said "I'm just telling you how I feel" I couldn't stop laughing the next morning... he's so distressed about us that he's not even horny! Such sad and deep issues lol I understood what he was saying, I just found it secretly funny
My bf says he needs it to live hahaha and I have recently discovered that it must be his most sensitive issue. No kidding! LOL
We once had a pretty bad argument, things looked pretty grim and uncertain for us. He kept texting me every once in a while until about 3am. One of his texts said "Last time I wanted to see you so bad, I was so excited and today... nothing" I was sleepy so I responded with "Ok, Gn" Later, he texted me "I'm not even horny" LOL After I asked him if he was drunk or bored he said "I'm just telling you how I feel" I couldn't stop laughing the next morning... he's so distressed about us that he's not even horny! Such sad and deep issues lol I understood what he was saying, I just found it secretly funny
The make-up ahemm is awesome though 
wow peanuts, yep. that's cancer, if something's wrong my guy will a) call or try to reach out to me constantly. text, phone, email. and b) it's the only time his sex drive falls. he has no interest in sex if we're not pretty well on par. how weird.
he's out of town for a few days, i've been busy as hell at work, and his trip took place hard on the heels of the discussion about the ex and the house. so, i've not been all lovey and available to him. sigh. he goes downhill fast, and starts trying to get thru to me, and his voice gets downer and downer. so frickin' reactive.
oh, i'm starting another topic, cause i have a curiosity about cancer men and porn......
he's out of town for a few days, i've been busy as hell at work, and his trip took place hard on the heels of the discussion about the ex and the house. so, i've not been all lovey and available to him. sigh. he goes downhill fast, and starts trying to get thru to me, and his voice gets downer and downer. so frickin' reactive.
oh, i'm starting another topic, cause i have a curiosity about cancer men and porn......
well don't keep him waiting for long because in a moment of weekness heel f.u{k somebody else if it goes to far. believe it.
OMG spelling! weekness = weakness, heel = he'll.........ROTF @ "Heel"! LOL
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