Cancer men and sudden distance

Posted by Rapunzel
Good advice^^^^
What i find that works is that they need a woman thats sure of herself. I tried being nice & sweet on my crab for a little while & the results were temporary. They need a woman that will show her love AND confidence. When I started being straight up & telling him what I will & will not put up with, he stopped. He respects me greatly. He's careful how he treats me now. He likes that my personality is fun, sexy, mysterious, feisty, & tender when I need to be. But most of all he likes that I am independent.
The moment you stop walking on eggshells & stop being mentally afraid of his next moves he will start to change for the better. The second you see that YOU are the catch HE will see it too. Your whole presence will start to draw him in. HIS improvement starts with how you see yourself. He will only put you through what ever you allow. They need to see you are a loving, beautiful, strong woman that knows what she deserves! My crab of 3 years personally told me to remain confident at all times & I do just that
Good luck.

Posted by lichii
This is just an eye-opener. I've been with my cancer bf on/off for over two years He became distant the last year and I made the mistake to try everything possible to get his attention. I was doing everything for him: organizing dates, festivals, concerts, being always there when he called me to see him.I became too available for him. Anyway, recently I found out he had been lying to me on several things ( I am not sure if he cheated, but he denies it) mostly business trips he did but instead he went out with friends. So we broke up briefly, but being also a cancer I felt that true love always forgives so I took him back and kept on taking care of him and being always available for him. He started to make his own decisions about our relationship like I was painted on the wall. At that point I had enough of devoted all my time and energy to him so I kind of broke up with him over text message... he just replied " whatever" and its been two weeks and haven't heard from him. He told me many times he loved me and wanted to have a family with me but I am just happy to see that now I can focus to spend all these time I have on me. I miss him and I love him but I also love my self and hopefully he will appreciate that and stop taking me for granted before I find someone else.

Posted by Libra_inlove

Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

Posted by LeoGirlSal

Hey everyone,

I've been reading a lot of your topics and i need some advice. I'm a leo and I've been with my cancer boyfriend on and off for almost a year now. Just 3 months ago he told me he loved me and we haven't been "off" since then, it was great, we talked every night and he was constantly close to clingy and showering me with attention. A few weeks ago he suddenly became super distant, hasnt told me he loves me and just seemingly doesn't even want to talk. I told him i wanted to understand what was wrong he just said he needed space and i told him i completely understand, but then he keeps calling and then disappearing daily, one minute he's here the next he's distant, i'm really confused and i don't get what i'm supposed to do, i automatically have become bored and putting my guard up... I love him, but i don't know what he's doing and i feel emotionally drained!

Posted by 123Pices

My dear

I had same experience recently,



How many days is he gone silent.

Posted by Phantom_Dangus

Posted by Libra_inlove

Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.

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Posted by Libra_inlove

Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.

Do you think he could be so hearless?

I’ve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didn’t want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasn’t even his type...


I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..


Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?

Sorry I missed this!


I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?

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Posted by Libra_inlove

Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.

Do you think he could be so hearless?

I’ve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didn’t want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasn’t even his type...


I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..


Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?

Sorry I missed this!


I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?

You are totally right and you made a great point...I’m sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if he’s not worth it then i should move on...

He told me he doesn’t want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.

It’s not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:”ok and then I’m sure it will be when the time is right”

This is how he’s stringing me along..

I’m sad because I don’t fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...

And I made a mistake...I’m disappointed with myself 😔

Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship.


Thank you so much for being so kind..

See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me he’s playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though he’s hiding it...see he’s a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence it’s so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability he’s insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...

😊 I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why he’s giving me silent treatment? As I don’t think I deserve it..he says:” no you don’t”

“PleSe don’t take it like that as it’s not the case.”

See I don’t understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?

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Posted by Libra_inlove

Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.

Do you think he could be so hearless?

I’ve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didn’t want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasn’t even his type...


I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..


Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?

Sorry I missed this!


I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?

You are totally right and you made a great point...I’m sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if he’s not worth it then i should move on...

He told me he doesn’t want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.

It’s not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:”ok and then I’m sure it will be when the time is right”

This is how he’s stringing me along..

I’m sad because I don’t fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...

And I made a mistake...I’m disappointed with myself 😔

Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship.


Thank you so much for being so kind..

See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me he’s playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though he’s hiding it...see he’s a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence it’s so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability he’s insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...

😊 I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why he’s giving me silent treatment? As I don’t think I deserve it..he says:” no you don’t”

“PleSe don’t take it like that as it’s not the case.”

See I don’t understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?

You're welcome. I'm working on being less of a bitch. It's going okay, mostly.


You just said that he treats you so badly. Why would you want to be with someone like that?

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Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.

Do you think he could be so hearless?

I’ve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didn’t want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasn’t even his type...


I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..


Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?

Sorry I missed this!


I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?

You are totally right and you made a great point...I’m sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if he’s not worth it then i should move on...

He told me he doesn’t want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.

It’s not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:”ok and then I’m sure it will be when the time is right”

This is how he’s stringing me along..

I’m sad because I don’t fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...

And I made a mistake...I’m disappointed with myself 😔

Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship.


Thank you so much for being so kind..

See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me he’s playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though he’s hiding it...see he’s a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence it’s so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability he’s insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...

😊 I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why he’s giving me silent treatment? As I don’t think I deserve it..he says:” no you don’t”

“PleSe don’t take it like that as it’s not the case.”

See I don’t understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?

You're welcome. I'm working on being less of a bitch. It's going okay, mostly.


You just said that he treats you so badly. Why would you want to be with someone like that?

You are most definitely not a Cookie Monster as you are lovely!

Yes, I know I consider him not contacting me as treating me badly, however if I do message him I will receive a response back....see the problem is I want his love so badly as despise all this hard shell I do believe he is a lovely, soft and caring person, he is just afraid of getting hurt as he told me...so I’m

Taking into consideration he’s been hurt before and he’s trying to overcome these obstacles...do I seem perhaps

Too needy? If I want him

To message me daily and I want to see him more often? I don’t know...i am trying to be considerate towards his feelings and just hoping it will get better however I don’t want to be contacting him first all the time and one of my friends who is a cancerian male told me to let him come me, but I guess my insecurities are kicking in...🥺

I want to give him space however at the same time I don’t want him to think I have vanished...

What do you think is the right approach?

Is that too needy? Not if those are your needs, but it might be too needy or too fast for him, and you have to respect that or chase him away. All of that is a completely different matter from whether or not he's a good person.


I'm a clinger in the beginning of relationships, which is not good, and so my advice sucks on this topic. If you want some good advice, you should start your own thread in the Cancer forum, but prepare your anus. They will tell you like it is and how you are screwing up.

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Hey mr cancer,

If I may I’ve got a question...

My cancer got distant after I have witnessed another woman telling him off, I think she was his previous gf...he wasn’t honest with her...was too nice didn’t know how to break up with her...and when she saw us together she got Of course upset and swore at him.


Anyways after that he explained it to me however he also distanced himself from

Me..I have treated him amazing and he told me he spent a memorable night with me and it meant a lot...

Longs story short after him giving me silent treatment I send him another message 1 week later asking his whether I deserve a silent treatment..he responded:”no you don’t” so I said ...why are you subjecting me to one then?

He said:”please don’t take it like that as it’s not the case at all”

What does that mean?

I told him I have planted a seed, put my effort in and the flower did not come out.

He said I know you did and it wasn’t wasted.

Maybe it wasn’t in the sun...

I asked him whether he wants me to disappear forever and he answered:”no”

I asked him:”are you in love with somebody else?” He answered” I’m not in love with anybody else at all”

I’m confused...after that silence again..

He will not even open my messages..I stopped texting completely.

Why is he acting this way? What has happened?

I love this man so much I cannot even describe. I am Venus in Scorpio...I feel to the core of my soul...he’s Venus in cancer with mars in Scorpio. I feel we are destined to be together...what can I do?

Please advise.

I’ve noticed he’s gone off the social media too and goes on WhatsApp only couple of times a day....


thank you xx

I think the other woman was someone he has more commitment to than he does to you (she's his actual girlfriend, probably), and he's lying about it.

Do you think he could be so hearless?

I’ve done some checks on her...(Venus and mercury in Scorpio lol) and I do not think she is his girlfriend...it looks like they had something possibly but she appears to be single. They are neighbours and she lives across the street from him..he said he didn’t want her to throw a scene as she would make a drama and all neighbours would be having fun....she wasn’t even his type...


I think he probably used her in the past and she was not happy as he was trying to smooth things over and slowly distancing..


Should I contact him again or is it better to leave him alone until he comes back?

Sorry I missed this!


I don't know him, but yes, people are that heartless on a regular basis. Would you be cool with it if you found out that he did use her and she's mad? Do you want to be with a guy who uses women? Do you want to be used next?

You are totally right and you made a great point...I’m sad as I love him so much...but like you said...if he’s not worth it then i should move on...

He told me he doesn’t want me to leave forever, he just need some shell time.

It’s not fair on me for sure. I told him we are meant to be together and he said:”ok and then I’m sure it will be when the time is right”

This is how he’s stringing me along..

I’m sad because I don’t fall in love easily...it took me 14 years to let someone new one in...

And I made a mistake...I’m disappointed with myself 😔

Just don't do anything stupid. Keep your eyes open and see what happens. If he's lying it will become clear. If he's not, don't let some internet asshole ruin your relationship.


Thank you so much for being so kind..

See my Venus is in Scorpio and his mars in Scorpio too, my intuition is telling me he’s playing some testing games with me but i do feel there is chemistry and feelings even though he’s hiding it...see he’s a cancer stellium sun, moon, mercury, Venus...all in cancer. Cancers have a good heart hence it’s so hard for me to understand he would be a heartless bastard... I think due to being hurt in the past and having financial instability he’s insecure and therefore his shell is very hard...

😊 I might be totally out of my mind but I love him so much even though he treats me so badly...but when I ask him why he’s giving me silent treatment? As I don’t think I deserve it..he says:” no you don’t”

“PleSe don’t take it like that as it’s not the case.”

See I don’t understand this at all..so what is it? Why when we finally get closer together he does 10 steps back?

You're welcome. I'm working on being less of a bitch. It's going okay, mostly.


You just said that he treats you so badly. Why would you want to be with someone like that?

You are most definitely not a Cookie Monster as you are lovely!

Yes, I know I consider him not contacting me as treating me badly, however if I do message him I will receive a response back....see the problem is I want his love so badly as despise all this hard shell I do believe he is a lovely, soft and caring person, he is just afraid of getting hurt as he told me...so I’m

Taking into consideration he’s been hurt before and he’s trying to overcome these obstacles...do I seem perhaps

Too needy? If I want him

To message me daily and I want to see him more often? I don’t know...i am trying to be considerate towards his feelings and just hoping it will get better however I don’t want to be contacting him first all the time and one of my friends who is a cancerian male told me to let him come me, but I guess my insecurities are kicking in...🥺

I want to give him space however at the same time I don’t want him to think I have vanished...

What do you think is the right approach?

Is that too needy? Not if those are your needs, but it might be too needy or too fast for him, and you have to respect that or chase him away. All of that is a completely different matter from whether or not he's a good person.


I'm a clinger in the beginning of relationships, which is not good, and so my advice sucks on this topic. If you want some good advice, you should start your own thread in the Cancer forum, but prepare your anus. They will tell you like it is and how you are screwing up.

My dear,

Thank you very much for taking your time to always respond to me. To be honest I have made threads in the past and no one has ever responded to me. Or if someone did it was not to the point or clear enough...

You know I’m a clinger or acting needy only if I’m not getting straight forward answers, if I don’t know where i stand. I need to get rid off this habit as I can see how bad it is...plus it’s wasting too much of my energy!

Yes, you have to get a handle on the feelings, because they overrun logic. Also, if you have very strong feelings for someone you haven't been dating seriously for a while, that probably means you're projecting forward, imagining things about them that you don't actually know yet. I'm guessing. Not blaming. Frankly, I didn't have to learn to figure this out because I met someone who coaxed me along until I could trust him, and then I was fine. That was luck, I guess.

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Posted by Libra_inlove

I see and I understand.

I will have to make serious changes if I want him to open up, right? You know I did have this feeling...I am glad you have pointed it out. And I appreciate it, I did tell my cancer that I want stability with him but he’s avoiding to answer that question and saying:”it will happen when the time is right” I thought he mean when it’s right for him but I guess you are right...he’s more referring when I’m going to be available. Nevermind, it will happen as I can’t stay in this marriage my husband is an Aries and it’s a nightmare lol...

I feel the cancer and i is meant to be and if it’s meant to be I should have trust in the universe and see how things develop. Life sucks 🥺😳

By the way...do you think I should not contact him first anymore?

You should stop seeing him and trying to get with him and being jealous over other women in his life until you get a divorce and get your head on straight or fix your marriage if that's even possible. It sounds like it isn't. He might need an apology too or a slap upside the head from someone else. I dunno. This is real life, not a movie. Consequences from this shit are HARSH.

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