Cancer men & Cancer woman: Is he interested or just being friendly and Are we even compatible?

Posted by scc17
Its been 7 years since i wanted to go on a serious date after breaking with my ex boyfriend (bf for 7 years) and well..... then I saw this cancer man. I been knowing this guy since three months ago. He added me on facebook at the end of January. After that, we keep to meeting each other in jiu-jitsu seminars and tournaments. In one of those tournaments, we were in a group and we started talking about things we had in common, we both like soccer for example. That same day he wrote me on Facebook and since then we been talking. Later on, while we were talking I invited him to my academy (it wasn't serious, I was joking with him ), but to my surprise he showed and trained with me.

During this time, I though he was really interested in me, at first he used to text me very often, later on I was the one who initiated the conversations., and the conversations flowed very well and he always responded quickly, never ignored me.

He was always watching and commenting in every single thing I published.

So, I decided to invite him to the movies, and we has a date for Saturday.

That day I arrived 20 minutes late at the agreed time and when we went to see what movies were available there were all sold out till 11pm. So we decided to go eat something fast. While we ate we talked about everything, his job, his family, etc.

During the movie, I came a little closer to him, nothing exaggerated. He did the same. During all the date, he was a true gentleman with me, when I was cold he offered me his coat and put it on my shoulders. He opened the doors, waited for me to pass, and certainly that got my attention. At the end of the date he walked me To my car to say goodbye. His car was far away, so I offered to give him a ride. On the way to his car I put a song and we started talking about it.

I turned one moment to change the song in my phone and all of the sudden he just gave me a slow kiss on the cheek, and he got into his car. He didnt say anything, he just gave me a slow kiss on the cheek and that was it.

6 days passed and I decided to talk to him.

I texted him as l would to any of my friends.

I asked him if he was going to watch the World Baseball Classic final and told me that as soon his out of the office he was going to his house to do just that. I left the conversation there since I wanted to ask him to go watch the game together, but I wasn't sure.

Several hours later He asked me if I was going to see the game and I told him that I was watching it with a friend (male). (This guy is my best friend) and the conversation ended there.

Today I didn't write him all day and in the afternoon He send me a picture with a joke. Hahaha It was so lame I really didn't know how to answer that. Is he just being friendly, do he likes me?

Should I answer him, play hard to get, wait for him to write me again?

Posted by Chuckcem
Hahah watching Cancers scoot around each other has to be the most amusing thing ever. You're constantly trying to out maneuver the other person.

Let me simplify. He's probably just like you and overthinking EVERYTHING. He kissed you on the cheek because he missed your mouth because he was unsure if it was right to kiss you in that moment. Know how I know? He kissed you slowly on the cheek. Meaning he was aiming for your mouth, couldn't quite reach, and landed on your cheek. Hilarious.

He left thinking that his kiss was awkward and you left thinking that his kiss was awkward. Then the two of you sat on it for SIX days (so amusing). Then you decided to break the ice (good on ya for doing that) and text him. Being unsure, he took his time responding back. Then you replied and the conversation died again. He probably wanted you to invite him out/over, but no biggie though since you already had plans.

So knowing that the ball was in his court, he sent you some lame joke text. He chose something generic that wouldn't be too forward, but would get you talking. Why? Because he has been overthinking things and has no idea what to do. Now it's your turn to respond and YOU don't know what to do. And so the crab dance continues.

The answer is simple, answer him back. DON'T play hard to get, this is already difficult enough as it is. Definitely DON'T wait for him to write you again. He may think you're ignoring him and give up entirely. Instead this time, say something direct and ask him out. Why? Because one of you needs to and you may both wind up dancing around each other until the end of time otherwise.

Generally speaking I'd suggest waiting for the guy to initiate, but Cancer men are an odd bunch. They either need a more aggressive sign (like a Leo) to lure them out OR a more passive sign (like another Cancer) to be very direct with them. In contrast if an aggressive sign is too direct it may make them paranoid and if a passive sign is to cautious, they'll back away. So to reiterate, respond to him and ask him out to do something.

Posted by scc17

Well, I invited him to my academy tomorrow (we both do brazilian jiu jitsu) and he answered me with a smile. Nothing else. I was like "ok, what an ass".

My response: "???" and

He asked me jokingly: "whats with faces? ?"

Aaaand Thats why I decided to ignore him.

Is he playing hard to get? Not interested? What the hell I'm in my late 20's and hes 31. Why not be straight why me on what he wants.

Posted by Chuckcem
Hahah watching Cancers scoot around each other has to be the most amusing thing ever. You're constantly trying to out maneuver the other person.

Let me simplify. He's probably just like you and overthinking EVERYTHING. He kissed you on the cheek because he missed your mouth because he was unsure if it was right to kiss you in that moment. Know how I know? He kissed you slowly on the cheek. Meaning he was aiming for your mouth, couldn't quite reach, and landed on your cheek. Hilarious.

He left thinking that his kiss was awkward and you left thinking that his kiss was awkward. Then the two of you sat on it for SIX days (so amusing). Then you decided to break the ice (good on ya for doing that) and text him. Being unsure, he took his time responding back. Then you replied and the conversation died again. He probably wanted you to invite him out/over, but no biggie though since you already had plans.

So knowing that the ball was in his court, he sent you some lame joke text. He chose something generic that wouldn't be too forward, but would get you talking. Why? Because he has been overthinking things and has no idea what to do. Now it's your turn to respond and YOU don't know what to do. And so the crab dance continues.

The answer is simple, answer him back. DON'T play hard to get, this is already difficult enough as it is. Definitely DON'T wait for him to write you again. He may think you're ignoring him and give up entirely. Instead this time, say something direct and ask him out. Why? Because one of you needs to and you may both wind up dancing around each other until the end of time otherwise.

Generally speaking I'd suggest waiting for the guy to initiate, but Cancer men are an odd bunch. They either need a more aggressive sign (like a Leo) to lure them out OR a more passive sign (like another Cancer) to be very direct with them. In contrast if an aggressive sign is too direct it may make them paranoid and if a passive sign is to cautious, they'll back away. So to reiterate, respond to him and ask him out to do something.

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Posted by vesper
hmmm, If i am that guy I'd probably had doubt in my mind already of that kind of situation. HA. (about your guy best friend). If his MATURE enough to understand the situation then OK i will still initiate with the woman i am interested with but since you have given him such mixed signal which it's not what it seems- probably just probably he took in the wrong way )