Cancer men--what are they thinking?

Hey

im a cancer and im dating a cancer man. we have been friends for quite some time and have been hooking up and mutually agreed to be dating. He has a hard time expressing his feelings openly to me which i understand having the same problem myself. but he says that he doesnt want anyone else and that he wants a future with me, yet he is extremely hesitant to be boyfriend/girlfriend. he says we are "dating." its been months and i just dont know what he means anymore and if im crazy to stick around...and being a cancer i dont want to press the issue because i want to be that "cool" girl that doesnt cause drama. what is he thinking... any advice?/

Well i know a Male cancer he's with a sag. girl. I have a crush on him but he made me cry because he lied to me. I also want to know what he is thinking he so mysterious!!!

Hello canceroushugs, I'm cappysweetie 🙂 Welcome to the boards -- including the cappy board 🙂 I'm still a newie, but hopefully my insight can help you 🙂

Before, April I too was friends with a cancer guy for almost a year (about nine months). In the beginning, everything just seemed good -- we were opposites (not talking signs, although that's true too) and we complimented each other, there was a balance between our personality: He was reactive, I was proactive, each of us brought something different to each other lives.

I never stated this before, but he did want to start dating ...BUT! I didn't like his idea of "dating". He was use to women who would have sex while still dating. Well, I just wasn't that type of girl, so he wanted to remine friends after I stated that I just couldn't screw him while still being some girl he's merely "dating".

***I will not go into details about my relationship because I don't want to bore you to death 🙂 However, you can look up some my posts concern him and it may shine some light on a few situations ... your problems were simliar to mine ***

Hahaha, I wanted to be the "cool" girl too and not give my cancer guy drama, but in the end keeping quiet lead to more mind games -- look up "So it's like that, hmmm" and "Confrontation" posts. You will see that I had the same frustrations.

My advice is to tell him exactly what's on your mind. Please don't try to spear his feelings because he's not spearing yours because he MUST have some idea that you are ready to get serious with him, but like my cancer guy ... your cancer just doesn't want to give up he's freedom.

And rightly so if he isn't ready to be steady, but he needs to be honest with you and NOT straight you along until he is ready ....

hey canceroushugs...haha

i'd say you should date other guys. celebrate your freedom too. i hear with cancer men, you have to be patient with them....blah.