Cancer Moon/emotions and taking the first step

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MrR78
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Hi

I posted here recently about Cancer Moons and emotions. I am now doing a follow up post due to certain things that have happened.

My ex is an Aquarius with a cancer moon. We broke due to a situation which was out of her control. She then proceeded to cut me off and ghost me. Apparently this is something that Aquarius woman do when they are trying to sort out their feelings.

Anyways recently she has been asking a close friend of mine about how do you know if someone is the "right one" - this has been ongoing for a month or so.

I recently went on a holiday to accomplish something that was on my bucket list - a trek in the Himalayan mountains 15000 ft above sea level. My ex really had an issue with this as everytime it was mentioned she would just block up and get frustrated and lock herself off.

Since my holiday she has made some effort but in passing (we work together). She will say Hi etc as we pass but not stop and talk. Recently she has been involved in group email banters at work too. But when I ask her something direct to do with the banter she backs off again.

I did chase this girl and lay everything down on the line over a period of 6 months after we broke up including admitting my mistakes. She seems to stare at me quite a lot now, the emotions seems to have died down, the look is more one which has a thought behind it.

She seems to be opening up but wont take the first step in communicating with me on a 121 level even though I get the feeling she wants to.

Being an Aqua and also a Cancer moon, is she fishing and testing out my reactions? How are her emotions driving her? Is she confused, scared etc?

How can I make it easier for her to approach me without taking the first step or making it obvious? She does have a lot of barriers and they slowly seems to be coming down.
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Posted by MrR78
I want to get back together but I understand the complications and the restrictions placed upon her.

We had something amazing and at the moment I would like to just talk and be civil. We work together so the awkwardness is not needed.

I have a feeling she does still like me however that's not what this is about.
Oh okay. So she was the one to break up with you? I don't know enough to give an advice, but what's very important for a Cancer moon, for me at least, is to know what you're up to... your intentions. Tell her or show her you care about her, she wants to feel secure. Without security, the crab moon can't function, doesn't even know how to communicate with you. But it might be the case that she's still hurting because of the breakup. If I stare at my ex after 8 months... means I miss you. But I have to know you miss me too.
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MrR78
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Ok its a long story, but yes she broke up with me because her parents would not accept our relationship. She moves on first by going back to her ex, I moved on a few months later.

I have reached out to that girl on many occasions, and the final one being in March where I admitted my mistakes told her I would love to make a go of it again, but what means more to me is that she is happy. I know that with or without her I will be happy.

Anywas I get into a relationship she has an issue with it, but never tells me. Her guard goes up, I go on holiday, come back and she makes a little effort by saying hi as we pass.

She had her barriers up in the past, refused to even work with me. I do understand she may be still hurting due to the break up but I have reached out many times and she has ignored it so when I started to move on I think that upset her.

Over the last week or so, she has open up a little.

Just today we were all talking on email having a joke (4 of us) and my ex said that I upset a friend that she has to calm down. I respond by saying you have no idea what he tells me after work and then said that she eats his food all the time. - that upset her!! Big time. She asked my mate what he tells me after work.

She seems very emotionally driven in her actions towards me. I do care, I have shown that to her in many different ways, but when she doesn't respond or goes cold, theres only so many times I can reach out.

So how do I show her I miss her if she hardly talks to me.