jerry_g
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Cancer - not again
"I just want a relationship to work out for me for once."
...I guess it is true that
"only Cancer's can only truly understand how Cancer's feel."
Negatively (substitute with 'realistically' if it makes you feel any better) "I had made plans to be with her tonight and her phone is off. Now I can feel myself sliding in my shell with the angry at the world."
On a positive note, the weekend is not over... YET.
I've learned just recently (from an aries friend of mine) that you should just keep your head up. I know that it hurts to be alone (especially when its cold [physically or emotionally]), but if you learn to find other things to keep you happy (besides a partner or being in a relationship [and I know its hard])... you will feel relieved instantly. Not saying it will get you entirely over the situation, but it will take the 'painful edge' off. My alternative has become the earth (ironic that it is the element of your friend and my crush as well). I am starting to focus my energy on cleaning up the planet (she's my new girlfriend... I'll share her with you if you promise not to hurt her LOL). She will never leave me for someone else, she's not selfish, she will always keep the trees alive to give me oxygen, and she even provides the healthiest food there is to eat (fruits and vegetables)... as long as I do right by her, she will continue to take care of me. That keeps me happy enough for the time being. In doing that I will get who I want, or find someone else who likes me for who I am. My 09 resolution is to make the world a better place. Its my way helping everyone and not just thinking about just lonely little me. Think about how you want to make yourself stronger for next year. That should divert your shelling for the moment... its working for me (don't know how long it will last though). You will only be confused and stressed if you allow yourself to be... let it go for now and find something more (self) constructive to spend your time on. If your friend really is interested, you will probably get an apology when they call. Just don't waste all of your time WAITING for the call.
...I guess it is true that
"only Cancer's can only truly understand how Cancer's feel."
Negatively (substitute with 'realistically' if it makes you feel any better) "I had made plans to be with her tonight and her phone is off. Now I can feel myself sliding in my shell with the angry at the world."
On a positive note, the weekend is not over... YET.
I've learned just recently (from an aries friend of mine) that you should just keep your head up. I know that it hurts to be alone (especially when its cold [physically or emotionally]), but if you learn to find other things to keep you happy (besides a partner or being in a relationship [and I know its hard])... you will feel relieved instantly. Not saying it will get you entirely over the situation, but it will take the 'painful edge' off. My alternative has become the earth (ironic that it is the element of your friend and my crush as well). I am starting to focus my energy on cleaning up the planet (she's my new girlfriend... I'll share her with you if you promise not to hurt her LOL). She will never leave me for someone else, she's not selfish, she will always keep the trees alive to give me oxygen, and she even provides the healthiest food there is to eat (fruits and vegetables)... as long as I do right by her, she will continue to take care of me. That keeps me happy enough for the time being. In doing that I will get who I want, or find someone else who likes me for who I am. My 09 resolution is to make the world a better place. Its my way helping everyone and not just thinking about just lonely little me. Think about how you want to make yourself stronger for next year. That should divert your shelling for the moment... its working for me (don't know how long it will last though). You will only be confused and stressed if you allow yourself to be... let it go for now and find something more (self) constructive to spend your time on. If your friend really is interested, you will probably get an apology when they call. Just don't waste all of your time WAITING for the call.
Yep, both you guys are right. I actually feel fine now and in retrospect, because her phone was off, I'm not taking it personally. Thus, no shell-time for me, I'm back to my happy self. Oh and I've recently started several great hobbies - cooking and I'm going to start volunteering (w/ a cancer friend)
unusualcancer - Thank you for bring-up some really good points. Believe me, I'm not the type to blame all of my woes on other people - if anything, I'm the exact opposite. I know exactly what I did wrong and when the whole thing was over I immediately started to fix things in myself. A lot of it was due to just plain inexperience because it was the first time I was in a situation like that.
Over this past year I've really started to come into myself and gain a real self-confidence. Yes, there are still areas are need to improve, but if I look at where I am now and where I was years ago its amazing. I really do have a positive self-image of myself for the first time. The "expressing" yourself thing is something I've really been working on recently because these "communication".
Even my attitudes towards dating have changed. I no longer allow myself to get "crushes" but instead have a "live-and-let-live" and "take-it-as-it-comes" attitude.
As for the current issue - she had sent me a message last week (via facebook) to give her call this past week or weekend. I had sent a message last Sunday to indicated that I'd be back in the city on Saturday and I'd call her then but I had never heard back from her. One of her best friends had invited to her birthday and also hasn't heard back. So, as I said earlier, I'm not taking this personally. I'm sure there was some miscommunication. I'm not sure what this says about her interest level, but my attitude going into this was thats its great to re-establish a friendship and if something more happens great - and if not, thats fine too.
Thanks again, and I'd be interested to hear other thoughts on this.
unusualcancer - Thank you for bring-up some really good points. Believe me, I'm not the type to blame all of my woes on other people - if anything, I'm the exact opposite. I know exactly what I did wrong and when the whole thing was over I immediately started to fix things in myself. A lot of it was due to just plain inexperience because it was the first time I was in a situation like that.
Over this past year I've really started to come into myself and gain a real self-confidence. Yes, there are still areas are need to improve, but if I look at where I am now and where I was years ago its amazing. I really do have a positive self-image of myself for the first time. The "expressing" yourself thing is something I've really been working on recently because these "communication".
Even my attitudes towards dating have changed. I no longer allow myself to get "crushes" but instead have a "live-and-let-live" and "take-it-as-it-comes" attitude.
As for the current issue - she had sent me a message last week (via facebook) to give her call this past week or weekend. I had sent a message last Sunday to indicated that I'd be back in the city on Saturday and I'd call her then but I had never heard back from her. One of her best friends had invited to her birthday and also hasn't heard back. So, as I said earlier, I'm not taking this personally. I'm sure there was some miscommunication. I'm not sure what this says about her interest level, but my attitude going into this was thats its great to re-establish a friendship and if something more happens great - and if not, thats fine too.
Thanks again, and I'd be interested to hear other thoughts on this.
"maybe she lost her phone or it died—"
"hard to be a caner huh? and hard to be a person with feelings."
God knows what happened to her phone. I really can't take the fact that her phone was off personally, so we'll just have to see. I'm just going to play it cool - maybe she'll call back, maybe she won't. In all my years of knowing her, the only time her phone was been off is when she's either out of the country or traveling.
Yes, it can be hard being a Cancer sometimes, but there are benefits. The one I love the most is the intuition we have about people and the Cancerian humour.
"hard to be a caner huh? and hard to be a person with feelings."
God knows what happened to her phone. I really can't take the fact that her phone was off personally, so we'll just have to see. I'm just going to play it cool - maybe she'll call back, maybe she won't. In all my years of knowing her, the only time her phone was been off is when she's either out of the country or traveling.
Yes, it can be hard being a Cancer sometimes, but there are benefits. The one I love the most is the intuition we have about people and the Cancerian humour.
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