cancer privacy settings...

You're questions are heavily loaded.. so I'll answer them with that in mind

1) cancers are private people over things others would think are no big deal. well, that privacy is a big deal to us so if I do share with you it's because I trust you and feel comfortable being completely open. I will not share with someone because they think I should or because that's what "couples do."

The more you push on my privacy, the tighter I lock up and the longer it will take me to open up to you in the future... if at all. Somethings you may never know and it doesn't matter if you're an open book... I'm not.

2) If my privacy has caused an argument, I will walk away because I've said my peace and I may need to go and separate my feelings from my partners. I may apologize for causing stress and/or hurt feelings but I won't apologize for being private if I feel the invasion is unwarranted.

I would be suspicious of a partner that doesn't trust me enough for me to have my own space/interests/things.

Privacy. Hmm. It feels good to be alone sometimes. To dwell in myself. To check myself. It doesn't necessarily mean a bad thing immediately.

But yes, at times, being private is being shady. I can't speak for Cancer suns, but for a Cancer mooner like me, I sometimes become private if it will hurt the person. Like ignorance is bliss.

Posted by phEnyxBull876
But to acknowledge that this behavior has potential to be hurtful, at least to me, means you know you're doing something wrong.

Personally, if you explain things, I don't question. To flip suspicion on it's head...if you are already bat the point of sharing everything, it's the act of picking and choosing that becomes shady to me.

If someone is going to be hurt because I have a lock on my phone, or because we're not fb friends for example... well they are responsible for their own "hurt" and no, I'm not doing anything wrong.

And as far as picking and choosing... your statement doesn't make sense. You HAVE to pick and choose somewhere, now don't you. It's either all access or one chooses what to keep private

Posted by phEnyxBull876
But to acknowledge that this behavior has potential to be hurtful, at least to me, means you know you're doing something wrong.

Let us have my experience as an example. When my Scorpio and I were still together, my other relatives didn't like her, her reputation and all that. But they pretend they do for my sake. They always talked bad about her to me. NO. I didn't tell her anything of what they have said. Because that would just hurt her.

Personally, if you explain things, I don't question. To flip suspicion on it's head...if you are already bat the point of sharing everything, it's the act of picking and choosing that becomes shady to me.

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I think I am getting at your point now. Telling just a piece of the story, right? Sort of manipulating the story?

Yes, Fox, that's essentially it.

Now that's a different way to look at things now. I don't know him and what your story is about, but if he is keeping things (or manipulating the story), then I think he really is doing something wrong.

I'm not an open book I keep things to myself if I trust the person then I will open up.

Posted by aquavita2
hey Belle do get heart make sure they don't come fuse u with Ebola symptoms... your live story still on ! congratulations

Lmao whatttttt

BTW guys, the thread title in tongue in cheek, I'm talking abt o
Internal settings, not phone settings lol. Joke lost in translation...

Posted by phEnyxBull876
BTW guys, the thread title in tongue in cheek, I'm talking abt o
Internal settings, not phone settings lol. Joke lost in translation...

😆

Posted by aquavita2
I was just a joking too that your heart vomiting blood might be mistaken for Ebola symptomatic ... so change the photo . haha. and internal settings of course everyone thinking should have gotten that at least I really liked how u placed it. but wait u don't consider yourself Amy longer to be in a love story

Lol I get it now! 😛

Of course I'm still in my love story... Or is that your trick question? Lol. You confuse me so, Aqua!