Cancer Roommate has gone Aloof

I met a Cancer student at school who had no place to live.
So I let him move into me and my gf's house even tho me and her were going through problems.
I broke with the Gf, and I got an apartment with him and helped him out with furniture and amenities.
He had no car, no dishes etcetera. So I let him use the stuff he needed, and at the start was very accommodating with giving him rides to do his stuff.

As it went on, we had some hiccups due to him being a huge dirty ass, and also disrespectful to me.
I didn't get the disrespectful thing, he was living with me and my gf at the time, and then basically criticized the 'looks' of my gf as if he could do better. I also had a huge flip out on the guy for calling me an 'idiot' for forgetting where I parked when I gave him a ride. I went cold on him for about a week, then came back around. This is sort of important later.

The dude was acting like a big kid basically.
We fell out, I went cold, and laid the boundaries down.
Things got better, I still helped him out a bit with car, and would just charge him like 2 or 3 bux if he needed to get somewhere in an emergency.

In this time, he didn't really have any friends so I invited him to parties and stuff when he seemed lonely.
Perhaps six to seven months went by and I accommodated his needs best I could without burdering myself. Our major hiccup was that due to the fact that he had criticized my girlfriend, I had no qualms against the fact that I had brought 5 girls through the apartment and slept with them, and he the man who criticized 'the rating' of my gf had brought none. We got in quarrels about him being a huge dirty ass, using my plates and not cleaning them etcetera.

So time goes on, things never got better with the cleaning, I just learned to clean up after him. Any attempt to make some real change in his habits basically always failed. So I have just come to clean up after him. He got me a WebDevelopment contract and we had a talk about 'respect' and how it was violated between us from the beginning. So I stopped dogging on him. He becomes more self-sufficient, and finally gets a car and his own friends.

July 4th comes, I am overloaded with credit hours, broke up with my gf, got laid off of my job, and my brother is having a PTSD breakdown 2k miles across the country. The guy is going to a party, and he doesn't invite me knowing all this. He basically stops talking to me. He'll respond to a Hi but that is it. Complete shutout. What h

So can you tell me what happened? Is he just all 'business' now that he doesn't need favors. I don't get it.

So can you tell me what happened? Is he just all 'business' now that he doesn't need favors. I don't get it. This Cancer seems inherently selfish to me. When he wants something, he is clingy as shit, but when he doesn't, he's cold as ice. I understand having a 'laser focus' I've been there, but you at least let the people around you know you care still. This guy seems like he is intentionally trying to be a 1000 miles away all the time. It does indeed hurt me to know this, because I invested alot of myself into him, because I considered him a friend. I let the dude use my bed for the first 2 weeks he lived with me, and I slept with my gf. I don't feel like the guy owes me shit other than camaraderie, and he is no longer in that.

My sign
Sun Virgo
Moon Libra
Mercury Virgo
Venus Libra
Mars Capricorn
Jupiter Pisces
Pluto Scorpio
...
His-
Sun Cancer
Moon Aqua

All I can remember.

sikkario, are you male or female, and do u mean by gf good friend or girlfriend

I am trying to see if I should approach this from the Crying Game type situation lol

I'm male, gf = girlfriend.

Hi 😉 Being a Virgo, it makes sense that you'd want to help him- that was really kind. Yet, it does make sense that he was homeless as well, because when his true colors show-you can see he was most likely kicked ou of the last place he lived. I would cut your losses while you can, why surround yourself with a negative person who does not care to better himself?

Hi 😉 Being a Virgo, it makes sense that you'd want to help him- that was really kind. Yet, it does make sense that he was homeless as well, because when his true colors show-you can see he was most likely kicked ou of the last place he lived. I would cut your losses while you can, why surround yourself with a negative person who does not care to better himself?

Ahhhhh, sorry for the creepy wink face-my ipad showed it as a normal smile !

You're lucky you're a virgo, for the most part, unlike this WIMPY cancer you can use your natural reserves of strength and perseverence to get through tough times and if you do need someone which we all do at times count on a more solid relationship with maybe a sagittarius or capricorn friend you may have. Seems like this cancer's weak shoulders arent strong enough to hold someone else's burden of tough times. REMEMBER: you did a good thing for him as a human, dont lose that trait.

Posted by Avalan32
You're lucky you're a virgo, for the most part, unlike this WIMPY cancer you can use your natural reserves of strength and perseverence to get through tough times .

I agree that Virgos have better reserves of natural reserves of strength and perseverence to get through tough times. Cancers can be true wimp pussys without even realizing it, especially during rough times. Virgos are pretty tough people.

But honestly Virgos also treat the people they break up with in relationships like pure horse shit. Even with our moodiness I find it strange that we manage to have more friends than you all do at the end of the day. You rub people the wrong way even more than our asses manage to do 🙂