Cancer Sun, Aries Moon, Cancer Rising

That's me! I do have one question though, it would be interesting to get some opinions on this subject.

I have absolutely no interest in being a mother and Cancers are known for their maternal instincts. I do have 3 cats and treat them as my kids, but I don't have any desire to have a child of my own. I was wondering if I'm the only Cancer/Aries that feels this way? I chalk it up to my need for stability as a cancer..and children are quite unpredictable! That, coupled with my sense of adventure and small amount of self-absorbency that I get from my Aries moon. 🙂 I'm tired of everyone trying to make me feel like a freak for not being interested in having kids, it would be nice to find some reasoning behind it for my own piece of mind.

What does everyone else think?

Posted by LunarLady720
That's me! I do have one question though, it would be interesting to get some opinions on this subject.

I have absolutely no interest in being a mother and Cancers are known for their maternal instincts. I do have 3 cats and treat them as my kids, but I don't have any desire to have a child of my own. I was wondering if I'm the only Cancer/Aries that feels this way? I chalk it up to my need for stability as a cancer..and children are quite unpredictable! That, coupled with my sense of adventure and small amount of self-absorbency that I get from my Aries moon. 🙂 I'm tired of everyone trying to make me feel like a freak for not being interested in having kids, it would be nice to find some reasoning behind it for my own piece of mind.

What does everyone else think?

Under your picture it says you are 25. There's no need to rush having children. If you aren't ready now, then don't have them. From what I have read it is common that a motherless Cancer will have pets and that will be the outlet for the "motherly" attention. Who knows what life will bring down the road. Maybe one day when you have the stability you seek and in a few years when the "wild adventurous" side fades some you could want kids.

If you don't want to have kids now, then don't. Tell the people "making you feel like a freak" to back off.

I have the same double crab as you and I wouldn't want to be a parent either. I act motherly with people (even as a man), but I recognize that a child is not a doll or something you have because of peer pressure. I would consider adopting with the right person, but I'm too selfish to really want to take care of someone else.

Plus, I just think children are stupid. That might be my uptight Rooster side, though.

Posted by mr.crabby

Plus, I just think children are stupid.

Totally off topic but that made me laugh.

Just thought I'd share.

HAHAHA! That's absolutely hilarious!!! I can't say that I've never thought that exact thing.

Thanks to both of you for the comments! Being from the south, at least where I'm from, it's expected that when you get married you will have kids. It's tedious to answer that question constantly and then you get that weird look when you say you aren't interested. I highly doubt that I will ever change my mind, it's just too big of a risk to have a kid. I like my simple and carefree life and having the freedom to go and do as I please. We are planning to move in the spring, I'm ready to get away from this environment and live someplace much less close minded when it comes to that stuff. NOT that all off the south is close minded, but you know how family and small towns can be. I don't have a great relationship with my mom, she's a bit on the coo coo side, maybe that's another contributing factor? I don't want to pass the crazy on to my kids LOL.

Posted by LunarLady720
I'm ready to get away from this environment and live someplace much less close minded when it comes to that stuff. NOT that all off the south is close minded, but you know how family and small towns can be.

Yes, the entire south is close minded (yes, I get the irony in this statement). I moved down here a few years ago and the difference in the people is drastic.

Posted by LunarLady720

I don't have a great relationship with my mom, she's a bit on the coo coo side, maybe that's another contributing factor? I don't want to pass the crazy on to my kids LOL.

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I was going to ask what relationship you had with your parents but didn't want to get all "psycho-babble" on you. A "not great" relationship with your own mother very well could be a contributing factor to your not wanting to be a mother. People are often afraid to be "like their parents". On the other hand, Mr Crabby could be onto something with the double cancer thing.

Either way you slice it, you should only have kids if you want them. It doesn't matter what other people try and tell you is "expected" or "normal".

Good point. My mother is a dumbass and my father left us(her) when I was 12. It was lame of him, but I do understand. It was either run away or kill the bitch, it was the same for me a few years later. I left and things are better now.

Even though for me it's not about being a mother myself, I don't think I would trust many women to be a parent with me. Women are just airheads. I see them everyday on the bus or in public with their kids. My pregnant Taurus friend agrees with me, we're terrified for the well-being of these little morons.

Hopefully, you'll never have kids because of outside pressure or "just because", the results are never very good.

I know what you mean, most of the kids I've been around lately are complete brats with their blackberries and laptops. Things just aren't like they used to be, and the people who just reproduce for no other reason than to say they did AREN'T helping the issue.

Maybe the double cancer thing has something to do with it though, I'd love for another double to weigh in!

Posted by mr.crabby
we're terrified for the well-being of these little morons.

You have such a way with words.