Cancer Sun - Gemini Venus

At the outset let me say, I'm looking for help/advice. So, if you're looking to judge, pass unhelpful comments - please find some other message board to vent out your boredom.

I'm dating a Cancer boy, Venus in Gemini. The only reason I mention "Venus in Gemini" is because, even though he's the most loving affectionate doting boy on the planet, he does certain things which are annoying.

We've been together almost ten months now, and he's been talking about a future together, marriage etc. The thing is, there is this pattern, wherein I feel like I have him, but I don't have him the way he has me. We have an extraordinary chemistry in bed, and when we have our loving moments, it's total submission, complete honesty, and he'll promise me the world, about wanting to be my slave (not that I want him too, I'm just citing an example), and how his life is just darkness without me. But it's all talk.

If we look at our real relationship, he takes forever to even lift a finger for me. Like it took him three weeks to give me flowers when we had our six months anniversary. And the fact that I caught him flirting with a girl on one of the social networking sites. He was actually doing it while being on the phone with me, promising me that he doesn't care about any other girl in the world except me (what he didn't know is, that girl was a friend of mine and she send me chat excerpts). We had a mini break up after that incident, cause I told him I didn't wanna be with someone who lies/hides things, and he begged me for days into taking him back, saying he was looking at marriage together when I wanted to leave him and go away. He says the sweetest things, and if I specifically ask him to do something for me, he does it.

Now I love him, I really really do. And I know he loves me, there is no doubt. He's the most affectionate, loving guy I have been with. But he does these weird things like if I fall ill, I want him, instead he'll step back and ask me to call him when I get better. There's no consistency. Is he just being a GUY? Either he'll go overboard saying his life is a blackhole without me not leaving me for a second for days, and then suddenly disappear for a day or two to just do "nothing" 🙂