Cancer with Scorpio ex? Please help

God, I'm so sick of this shit.

Just discovered the Cancer guy I like used to date his Scorpio friend. This was back when they were about 16/17 (they are now almost 21). They are in a band together (and have been for about 6 years) and were childhood friends. She dumped him for his Aries best friend and then dumped him for a Leo she met at uni (who she is still with). Both the Cancer and the Aries are now single. The Cancer hasn't dated anyone since.

What bothers me is that they still see each other all the time and I don't think he's let go of it. I've read so much about the 'cosmic' cancer/scorpio relationship and how it's so deep and intense and I think he's hanging onto the hope that they may get back together one day. This is really hurting me because they are just friends at the moment but they see each other all the time (due to being in the band together) and have this closeness (due to being friends since childhood) that he and I don't have.

To those who have been following this ridiculous (and, frankly, just painful now) saga, this is the same cancer boy I've liked for over a year now.
Please help, I'm at my wit's end with this dude.

IF you really think what you just wrote is true. Than I'd get rid of him. You should never fall second to some memory.

Hi london libra Wow i really fascinate about such saying do libras really love the cancer guy in such a way.i do not much about the stuffs in astrology but i think you do not have too many water signs in your chart.your moon sign is also air.

Hi london libra Wow i really fascinate about such saying do libras really love the cancer guy in such a way.i do not much about the stuffs in astrology but i think you do not have too many water signs in your chart.your moon sign is also air.

Do not think too much about your cancer guy.they do have changeability.you will find better going with other air and fire sign.find scorpio or Leo.do not be too distressed.he may not have same feeling for you as you have for him

hey nihilist, how you doing? thanks so much for your brilliant advice, you've been so supportive through all my strife. It means a lot to me 🙂

Sag89, you've hit on my worry exactly. That even if we got together, that I'd be second best to her. He might move on because he has to, not because he really wants to....

lovelibra - i'm well aware that he may not even like me. trust me, i've considered that possibility. but it's hard to know with him because i don't get to see him much and he's very guarded and in his shell and doesn't know me well enough to open up properly to me.

it's ok, he has loads of air in his chart and I have Pluto and Jupiter in water, plus my scorpio rising conjunct my venus (which is in sag but very early degrees - on the cusp of scorp). The scorp who is his ex has tonnes of libra in her chart.
that's not my main concern here. it's whether or not he will be able to move on from the scorp. all i hear is how cancer men cling to the past and never let go. *sigh*

Well one, if you sit & wait on them to have the horrible ending of their friendship/relationship then your just wasting your time. If you really care for him, then this all comes down to you learning how to successfully chase after who & what you want. Analyzing & keeping tabs on his relationships with others WON'T help you & your chances of being with you. After all, his connection & chemistry with others will never be the same as it is with you. So stop comparing. See it like this: he is a grown man & he is sticking close to whoever is more convienent for him in the moment. This girl doesn't have a gun pointed at his head, forcing him to keep coming back to her. No, he's making these decisions on his own & I think that you need to hold him accountable for entertaining her "games" just as much as you hold her accountable for playing them.

If you want him, then go after him. Tell him how you feel. Don't try to analyze or figure out his connection to someone else b/c that's something you'll never know & truthfully shouldn't want to know, considering I'm assuming you want your chemistry with him to be completely different. If he's still going back to her, it's for a reason that you may not understand. And if you keep sitting on the sidelines waiting on him to notice you and/or want you, then you're wasting your time. Trust me, he knows who you are & what you're all about & if he hasn't yet swooped you up it's b/c 1. He's either NOT interested or 2) he's emotionally unavailable. And instead of arguing with the fact that he may not be interested or is emotionally attached to someone other than you, just accept it & go find you someone who you can have for yourself, and NOT someone you want but yet have to watch others have him the way you wish you had him. If he doesn't realize by now that you're an open book waiting on him to sweep you off of your feet, then assume he hasn't done so b/c he chose not to, doesn't want to or isn't capable of doing so at the moment. If he felt you were the better match, I'm assuming he'd show that by chasing you instead of others. Sometimes it's easy to put down the other women that your dream man is chasing, but think about it: If he's chasing after bull, mind games & type of women that skip from one relationship to the other, then what does that say about him?

krysrenee - wow. that is brilliant advice. you're totally right. i definitely need to stop analysing his relationships with others. i've often felt like i was wasting my time during this whole thing but something always kept dragging me back to it. i've never been dragged back to a guy so much as i have with him.

bigteddybear - awww! i wish i could get with someone like you! we'd make a great match, what with your venus in gem. 🙂

satori - thank you for your sweet words. much love.

Posted by london_libra
God, I'm so sick of this shit.

Just discovered the Cancer guy I like used to date his Scorpio friend. This was back when they were about 16/17 (they are now almost 21). They are in a band together (and have been for about 6 years) and were childhood friends. She dumped him for his Aries best friend and then dumped him for a Leo she met at uni (who she is still with). Both the Cancer and the Aries are now single. The Cancer hasn't dated anyone since.

What bothers me is that they still see each other all the time and I don't think he's let go of it. I've read so much about the 'cosmic' cancer/scorpio relationship and how it's so deep and intense and I think he's hanging onto the hope that they may get back together one day. This is really hurting me because they are just friends at the moment but they see each other all the time (due to being in the band together) and have this closeness (due to being friends since childhood) that he and I don't have.

To those who have been following this ridiculous (and, frankly, just painful now) saga, this is the same cancer boy I've liked for over a year now.
Please help, I'm at my wit's end with this dude.

Aww, you need to be much more confident in what you and Cancer boy share. Keep that insecurity in check!