Cancer woman breaks up with me

Hi All,

First of all, I really enjoyed reading the topics here about the Cancer sign. I am not really into astrology but I find it interesting and sometimes true.

So here's my story: By the way I am a Taurus. I met this wonderful Cancer woman online then we met over dinner after a few days and from then on we just clicked and started dating.
Everything was amazing and she was a great girl, very motherly and caring. She also introduced me to her parents and spent most weekends at her house.

Then a month within our relationship, some family and financial troubles happened to her. I was there for her during that time and tried to be as supportive as possible. A few more weeks passed and she became busy with family stuff and she decided to join the Army. Of course, we still go out and I keep a constant communication with her just to check up on her and to know if she is doing ok.

With me knowing that she's leaving for the Army, I tried to talk to her about Long Distance relationship and what I think of it (having to go through a bad breakup from a long distance relationship), but every time I try to bring it up, she just tries to change the topic.

Then, a few days earlier, out of the blue, she just breaks up with me with the following reasons:

1. She couldn't give me 100% of her time bec of the military stuff and family stuff she needs to do and she said it seems unfair to me.
2. She also said that She loves me but not in love with me. She also said that its an intuition thing. ( although for the past months that we dated, she said that I was a great person and I let her feel secure and happy and she could e herself with me)

She also told me that she wants to remain friends and still hangout until she gets deployed.

So that's it then when I opened my online profile, I noticed that she's already activated her right after the break up

So I don't know how to make sense with all of these. By the way we have an age gap so i dont know if that matters, she's 23 and I am 27.. Any Cancers that can explain? I really really am confused and I don't know if she really did love me and I would still hope in the future to find her and maybe be friends or if the romance is still there, to be back with her.

Hi , I dnt really no how long u new each other. I am thinking maybe she just not into u. I no some guys that's in my life now that make me feel safe and just soo secure but I just dnt see them in a love relationship but I do love them as a brother or a close friend. U should move on sweetie and just kept it on a friend level. Also look act it this way she going thru all these things also she's long distant, act this time things are in your way. Wouldn't u be better of with some one that live near u with less issues right now

Im not a Cancer, but imo it sounds to me like she has a lot going on, but more than that, it sounds as if she doesnt trust you enough to be faithful or commited maybe, to do the long distance thing.

It would be unfair to you for her not to be there, and give the proper time to the relationship.

It would be unfair to her to continue on long distance being away and wondering what you are doing etc.

I think she made the right decision for you both. This is just my opinion by the way on the intuition part.

Dont count out the future. If you keep in touch maybe things can pick back up later down the line.

Thanks for all your responses.

@ecent, If she is not into me, why would she lead me on like that? Everything was fine few days before the break up and I was just caught unaware that this will be happening. Before we started the relationship, my # 1 was to be as honest as possible and I could take anything and everything you will tell me.

@xsyzygyx, yes she didnt ask for any help from me. And honestly, I myself feel like I have enough to support her.

I think that what I can't accept is the fact that she is a great person and doing this to me, doesn't make sense out of her great personality.

Moreover, when we first started dating, I was the one that was not into her and has doubts coz she's young and all. But she proved herself to me (she sometimes even gets upset coz I dont trust her completely) that she's worth the try and now that I am very into our relationship, she just dumps me like that.

I miss her so much and still thinks of the next time that we could be together 😢

@Crabmoon, if there's a lot going on in her life right now, why would she automatically open her dating profile? I'm sorry I am just criticizing every move she makes which I believe is wrong on my part.. maybe I am just so sad about this