Cancer woman : playing games vs leading on

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by PMLTH on Wednesday, July 30, 2014 and has 55 replies.
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How to know the difference?
How to make her stop moving backward? &
How to show you don't like her?
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Can you be more specific about what is going on?
Perhaps she doesn't know how she comes off and frustrating you is unintentional.
How to know the difference? I don't know.
How to make her stop moving backward?
Please explain the behavior.
Lead by example, be straightforward and open.
Yet VERY gentle and patient.
Crabs are naturally evasive and like to take things slow.
Being too pushy can brush us the wrong way.
Once we trust and feel comfortable we open up more and push forward.
But remember Cancer is ruled by a Satellite; the moon, constantly revolving and changing like our moods and emotions.
Which can make us a bit unpredictable. Best to just ignore some things.
When we feel overwhelmed we stop and try to regain or develop the pace we are comfortable with.
How to show you don't like her?
Why? Do you like her or not?
How about just being straight forward about your feelings.
What is your sign?
When is her birthday?
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im a taurus and I know she's a 3rd decan Cancer. To sum up the story,we both had (have) a crush on eachother but I was taking things too lightly as I'm daaamn slow. Now, after maybe 3 months I'm fully ready and she seems reluctant. She did all kinds of test as well. I'm trying to subtly arrange a meeting between us but she keeps twisting things and my plans ALWAYS fail.
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Playing games and leading on are the same, in my book.
I'd say that the Cancer you like is giving you a taste of your own medicine. We are good at mirroring. It probably hurt her or bothered her that you didn't take her seriously at first.
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I had this experience with a Bull.
And nothing came of it.
You can't be too subtle.
Be more bold and no cancelling plans.
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Posted by MoonArtist
Playing games and leading on are the same, in my book.
I'd say that the Cancer you like is giving you a taste of your own medicine. We are good at mirroring. It probably hurt her or bothered her that you didn't take her seriously at first.


Exactly, when the Bull I was dealing with canceled dates and didn't act like he was serious; I became very evasive. I don't take him serious at all. From time to time he still asks me out and I don't give him a straight answer. I am no longer interested actually. But every now and then we send each other text messages.
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She does have a lot of admirers, which make me think that I've fallen down the charts. I'm way too lazy to put all these efforts. Too muuch too handle, headaches etc. and they said Taurus/Cancer is a good matc?lol
anyway its too bad , we had a GREAT potential
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She does have a lot of admirers, which make me think that I've fallen down the charts. I'm way too lazy to put all these efforts. Too muuch too handle, headaches etc. and they said Taurus/Cancer is a good matc?lol
anyway its too bad , we had a GREAT potential


It's true, Cancers usually don't lack in admirers who are seeking them. As soon as my gut says the guy is playing me or not too serious he gets treated accordingly. You may have been sidelined.
As for the effort, I don't think it takes much, but most of it is on an emotional level, and that's where our radar picks up how serious someone is and what the potential could be. We do know exactly what we want and we're pretty picky. We try to choose in such a way that we minimize getting hurt.
I've only been with one Taurus, my ex husband, and if he had been more mature, and less of an asshole we would still be together. The friendship/comfort between Taurus and Cancer is nice...but the majority of the earth signs I know can't meet me on the same emotional level. That's probably the difference between water signs and the rest of them. It's also why water sign pairings are off the charts on the potential long term health of the relationship.
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She does have a lot of admirers, which make me think that I've fallen down the charts. I'm way too lazy to put all these efforts. Too muuch too handle, headaches etc. and they said Taurus/Cancer is a good matc?lol
anyway its too bad , we had a GREAT potential


It's true, Cancers usually don't lack in admirers who are seeking them. As soon as my gut says the guy is playing me or not too serious he gets treated accordingly. You may have been sidelined.

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Any simple way to get out of that sideline?
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She does have a lot of admirers, which make me think that I've fallen down the charts. I'm way too lazy to put all these efforts. Too muuch too handle, headaches etc. and they said Taurus/Cancer is a good matc?lol
anyway its too bad , we had a GREAT potential


lol you taurus people are something else. i can't imagine, not even a bit, what's like to be too lazy to pursue someone you really like. i'm not saying it's wrong, it's just funny.
don't worry, there are lot of women ready to wait for a taur guy and make a first move. smile
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We are only lazy when its too complicated. If we really like someone we pursue no excuse.
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She does have a lot of admirers, which make me think that I've fallen down the charts. I'm way too lazy to put all these efforts. Too muuch too handle, headaches etc. and they said Taurus/Cancer is a good matc?lol
anyway its too bad , we had a GREAT potential


It's true, Cancers usually don't lack in admirers who are seeking them. As soon as my gut says the guy is playing me or not too serious he gets treated accordingly. You may have been sidelined.



Any simple way to get out of that sideline?
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Be yourself (and tauruses are usually warm, funny and comfortable) but show her you have some initiative, that you're not "too lazy" to go after what you want. Plan something simple, but meaningful and a surprise that's tailored to what you know she likes, her personal tastes. THAT speaks loud to water signs as it shows you paid attention enough to know what they like or don't like and that you care. Don't take "maybe, I'll see" as an answer. Once you have a plan set up and you plan it for when you're pretty sure she's not busy (the trick to this is to listen to her without grilling her in an obvious way to get the info), surprise her by showing up to pick her up, and if saying what you want to say to her seems to tie your tongue in knots, write it down and hand her the letter/card.
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She does have a lot of admirers, which make me think that I've fallen down the charts. I'm way too lazy to put all these efforts. Too muuch too handle, headaches etc. and they said Taurus/Cancer is a good matc?lol
anyway its too bad , we had a GREAT potential


It's true, Cancers usually don't lack in admirers who are seeking them. As soon as my gut says the guy is playing me or not too serious he gets treated accordingly. You may have been sidelined.



Any simple way to get out of that sideline?


Be yourself (and tauruses are usually warm, funny and comfortable) but show her you have some initiative, that you're not "too lazy" to go after what you want. Plan something simple, but meaningful and a surprise that's tailored to what you know she likes, her personal tastes. THAT speaks loud to water signs as it shows you paid attention enough to know what they like or don't like and that you care. Don't take "maybe, I'll see" as an answer. Once you have a plan set up and you plan it for when you're pretty sure she's not busy (the trick to this is to listen to her without grilling her in an obvious way to get the info), surprise her by showing up to pick her up, and if saying what you want to say to her seems to tie your tongue in knots, write it down and hand her the letter/card.
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I don't think its a good idea, I just found she might have BDP. That must explain heer weird behavior.
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Anyway she's really getting on my last nerve, for about 3-4 months shes been constantly in my head, n my dreams, is this typical cancerian women power lol or what. That's not normal, at all. Or shes a witch.
Ppl will think I am not normal but I have NO conttrol. I want this to end, I am going back to school soon.
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I'm a satellite? Whoooooaaaaa no wonder !lol
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Anyway she's really getting on my last nerve, for about 3-4 months shes been constantly in my head, n my dreams, is this typical cancerian women power lol or what. That's not normal, at all. Or shes a witch.
Ppl will think I am not normal but I have NO conttrol. I want this to end, I am going back to school soon.


Yeah, I've had that effect on some people. One is a scorpio friend who apparently has had me as his sexual muse for almost 20 yrs.
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when a cancer woman is playing games she is being flirty or like abit sexy; but when she is leading on thats like lets go out do something be one; because im a cancer and very talkative and sociable.
Cancer does not move backward cancer moves on
if you dont like a cancer - s i think u would do something to piss her off...
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hard to know which is it, for real...
when I have a pending friend request for months...
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Sounds like you wore out her patience.
We can be patient but you have to move your ass and pursue us.
Remember these are the days of, "He's not that into you."
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Sounds like you wore out her patience.
We can be patient but you have to move your ass and pursue us.
Remember these are the days of, "He's not that into you."



yes, this is the most likely explanation. But i think he should just move on. And she is a witch of course. It's not normal to like someone that much. Ewwww feelings.
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Dunno if you're making fun of me or not.
If you aren't, then thanks for not thinking I'm somehow insane...
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It's normal to have such strong feelings. Don't try to forget her. It's too late for that. All our crushes or pending interest or fallen loves will always be a part of us. Just live your life. It's good that you will start school soon so you can get your mind on other things.
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Sounds like you wore out her patience.
We can be patient but you have to move your ass and pursue us.
Remember these are the days of, "He's not that into you."



yes, this is the most likely explanation. But i think he should just move on. And she is a witch of course. It's not normal to like someone that much. Ewwww feelings.


Dunno if you're making fun of me or not.
If you aren't, then thanks for not thinking I'm somehow insane...


yes, i was making fun of you sorry Tongue
it's just funny to me how you deal with this situation. just don't start hating her because you think of her so much! it's really not her fault. and i don't think you are insane. i'm just wondering how would you choose what girl should you pursue if thinking about her more than it's usual, is not a clue.
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Lol,I get it....
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At least Im trying
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Here: "To sum up the story,we both had (have) a crush on eachother but I was taking things too lightly as I'm daaamn slow."
Right there.
I am a cancer woman. I don't like things being taken "lightly" (I am not talking about marrying you after 5 dates, but don't play with me, no matter what the nature of the relationship is...). I like CLEAR things. You only want to be my friend? Let me know. You only want something casual? Let me know. You want to have something serious? Let me know. Don't lead me on.
I think the girl was interested...3 months ago. She was probably hurt by the fact that you were distant/slow, she may have felt led on or played; now she is mirroring to see how you will react. She was hurt. She probably still is. Once you hurt me, there is no way I'll be back. Maybe she is different.
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Here: "To sum up the story,we both had (have) a crush on eachother but I was taking things too lightly as I'm daaamn slow."
Right there.
I am a cancer woman. I don't like things being taken "lightly" (I am not talking about marrying you after 5 dates, but don't play with me, no matter what the nature of the relationship is...). I like CLEAR things. You only want to be my friend? Let me know. You only want something casual? Let me know. You want to have something serious? Let me know. Don't lead me on.
I think the girl was interested...3 months ago. She was probably hurt by the fact that you were distant/slow, she may have felt led on or played; now she is mirroring to see how you will react. She was hurt. She probably still is. Once you hurt me, there is no way I'll be back. Maybe she is different.


Define different....
and quite frankly I don't think she moved on (as she stills sometimes look at my profile, don't worry how I now)
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Here's the prblem, we show too much interest, we're desperate bla. We don't shoow enouf interest, we are uninterested/leading on/heartbreakers. Mirroring actions is so ... unattractive
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I don't know if this is me in particular or Cancer women in general but I'm very picky and if I'm not feeling a romantic connection I will back away from a man who seems overly interested. I'd rather quietly exit the scene than tell him outright I don't see him as romantic material. However, he might well take it as me playing games or having walls to intimacy when in fact it's not about that at all. I've also side lined men I was initially interested in when I learned they were hiding a girlfriend or they came off as dishonest in general. I can't tell from your story whether my situation applies and I don't think you will know if you don't bite the bullet and ask her out. She could just be shy. Cancer women can be very cautious in romance but that is because we don't like playing Russian roulette with our sensitive heart. Good luck but I'd say bust a move because you really like this girl and she seemed interested in the beginning.
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Here's the prblem, we show too much interest, we're desperate bla. We don't shoow enouf interest, we are uninterested/leading on/heartbreakers. Mirroring actions is so ... unattractive


This is why you don't play games and make them guess your level of interest. Make your interest known, be up front and if they don't reciprocate..get on with life.


exactly. being upfront and ok with what you want and feel is very attractive.

about mirroring i do that when i don't know how to behave. the idea is to behave like you did, cause you can't really call me out on that without calling out yourself first. and in the mean time i'll see what to do.
years ago i had similar dynamic with one taurus guy and we never went out on our first date. he was awesome, i remember that.
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All I read over here about TM-CF relationships is, there was something but we never got serious/went nowhere. Lol imho I don't think we're are as compatible as they say/
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Once each other learns to be vulnerable to one another and submit to one another, cancer and Taurus relationships become very solid, ideal, loving and fairytale-like. Especially TM-CF relationships. Once guards are down, this couple becomes fiercely loyal and loving to one another. The cancer will take care of the home, the kids, secure financial security (making lots of money on her own AND ensuring that you don't blow your own money) and will cater to her Taurus man like no other. (Mature, committed cancer women are usually the type of women every man dreams of-she can roll up her sleeves and get down and dirty and get business done, take care of the kids and home life and still have the energy to please her man in the most sexually skilled, feminine, passionate way. She naturally knows how to make a man feel invincible/like a king) The Taurus man will fiercely provide for and protect his cancer woman and children, and will do so with such ardor. Once he knows for sure that she is the real thing, he will nurture his woman, providing his cancer woman with the security and assurance she needs when in love. When cancer becomes moody/somber and too emotional from energies picked up in the world, the Taurus man will be her rock solid soundboard and will listen to her and speak deeply from his heart and will bring cancer back down to Earth, back to her cheery self. Together their passion and sex will be steamy, their family will be strong and grounded, they may have a profitable business together, they will do a lot of traveling and fun activities together and they will fill each other's soul with love, life lessons and personal growth and development.
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Once each other learns to be vulnerable to one another and submit to one another, cancer and Taurus relationships become very solid, ideal, loving and fairytale-like. Especially TM-CF relationships. Once guards are down, this couple becomes fiercely loyal and loving to one another. The cancer will take care of the home, the kids, secure financial security (making lots of money on her own AND ensuring that you don't blow your own money) and will cater to her Taurus man like no other. (Mature, committed cancer women are usually the type of women every man dreams of-she can roll up her sleeves and get down and dirty and get business done, take care of the kids and home life and still have the energy to please her man in the most sexually skilled, feminine, passionate way. She naturally knows how to make a man feel invincible/like a king) The Taurus man will fiercely provide for and protect his cancer woman and children, and will do so with such ardor. Once he knows for sure that she is the real thing, he will nurture his woman, providing his cancer woman with the security and assurance she needs when in love. When cancer becomes moody/somber and too emotional from energies picked up in the world, the Taurus man will be her rock solid soundboard and will listen to her and speak deeply from his heart and will bring cancer back down to Earth, back to her cheery self. Together their passion and sex will be steamy, their family will be strong and grounded, they may have a profitable business together, they will do a lot of traveling and fun activities together and they will fill each other's soul with love, life lessons and personal growth and development.
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And for the record, I'm not sure how desperate you could look in the eyes of a cancer woman by showing too much affection. If they like/love you (trust me, you'll know by the info on this site) then showering your cancer with love and affection will not lead her to think you're desperate, it will lead her to think that you genuinely care for her and are able to meet her most basic needs. Cancer women usually have a ton of admirers, but do you ever notice which lucky guy wins her heart and reciprocated love and affection, in it's fullness? It's the one who has gone above and beyond and opened himself up fully and has done a lot for her. Of course in the beginning don't scare her off by showing too much too soon, but it sounds like you and cancer woman are well past that point.
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Wow thanks for the detailed answers
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but to be honest i can't really say what is it that you want at the end. to have her, or to forget about her. maybe both? whatever you decide it will be ok.


Thats my exact problem, my gut instinct is telling me tat she needs me , not needing as being depended on more like emotional support. Like her life would be more complete with me. And when I'm trying to do something, its like she's forcing herself to make it harder. It's sorta like a telepathy message.
I also know that her friends look at my profile frequently.
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Your gut instinct? O_o How about you ask her exactly what is going on? It will simplify life. You'll never really know until you ask.
"And wen I'm trying to do something, it's like she's forcing herself to make it harder"
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Your gut instinct? O_o How about you ask her exactly what is going on? It will simplify life. You'll never really know until you ask.
"And wen I'm trying to do something, it's like she's forcing herself to make it harder"
1. I man that when I'm trying to indrectly set something up, she would 'block' it. example, hey what Im about to say would be better to disclose in person. a; u really need to say it on the phone, Im stucked lol
2. Well, one of the most easiest way is if you don't communicate with someone in particular or not their friends, type a letter only one in search bar and who comes up first, second, third, fourth must be sompene you talk to, if you dont talk/interact/non friends and you see a suspicious name you've got yourself a stalker. I found 3 of her friends on top of their respective initials and I never visited their profiles. Same with the cancer girl. She's always in top 3. That's how I knew from the beginning something was fishy.
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Wow thanks for the detailed answers
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but to be honest i can't really say what is it that you want at the end. to have her, or to forget about her. maybe both? whatever you decide it will be ok.


Thats my exact problem, my gut instinct is telling me tat she needs me , not needing as being depended on more like emotional support. Like her life would be more complete with me. And when I'm trying to do something, its like she's forcing herself to make it harder. It's sorta like a telepathy message.
I also know that her friends look at my profile frequently.


ok, so you can't really act and make a decision, cause at one hand you have clues that she still likes you and that you could make this girl happy, which could bring great joy to yourself too, but on another she is acting like that's not really true. so we are at the beginning again lol.
i was trying to make you find an answer within yourself, but you can't really fight with fixed taur nature and make you do anything smile. you are just not gonna act until you are sure.
there are 3 solutions.
1. stop doing anything and move on.
2. talk to her like everyone told you. yes, you would have to go out of your comfort zone but you will know the final answer.
3. i see you are a snoop a bit. only a snoop would notice that someone is looking at your profile. try to find out from her friends what is going on with her. think, is there someone safe you could talk to? or do you have a trustworthy friend who could do this for you?
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Lol, you got it. I only need one more proof. I just hope I meet her soon, in a club or just on the street so I can see if she's paying attention.
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1. I swear to God, I tried that more than 10 times.
2. If I were to make that kind of move on her it would have to be in person and apparently she doesn't have too much time for me.
3. Lol, that made me realized her interest.
You guys should know thart the reason why it so hard for me and maybe us to completly move on is because our story is soooo weird. To sum up one big coincidence, lets say I saw her in her school in Los Angeles, the next morning I see her in San Diego ordering coffee. And
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I really think you should just approach her. If you happen to be wrong about her feelings for you, then just dust yourself off and pick yourself back up again. You sound like you're going to drive yourself insane if you keep on with these antics. And please don't sneak around and snoop/talk to her friends it's not going to give you 100% accurate answers, you'll prolong this process, snooping will always come back on you and mostly, if she finds out you've been snooping she's going to be pissed.
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Your gut instinct? O_o How about you ask her exactly what is going on? It will simplify life. You'll never really know until you ask.:p


I'm in a situation with another crab girl right now,

long story short, there was a misunderstanding and she was apparently hurt by something I said to someone else, who mentioned it to her but twisted my words to mean something completely different.
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who was twisting your words? let me guess... another water girl
are you making waves of potential drama, fishy?
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It's hard starting relationships in any kind of "community" setting. Church, social circles, cultural groups... people like to talk, it sucks.
Cancers don't like confrontation but when they are asked something directly, they're more inclined to tell the truth about their feelings. Some people say this is the best technique with everyone but have fun getting a straight answer out of a Libra who is undecided, or a Pisces who doesn't feel like talking.
The problem is, most people don't like when they are told the truth (from a Crab perspective). That is usually when people start throwing up the " how dare you say that to me, I will now try to blame my discomfort with what you said on your star sign and say you are emotionally reacting when I am the only one getting upset," thingy.
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Star signs are quite accurate...
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i know what is like when you feel a certain magic with someone. you can't really ignore it.
so sweet taur guy, good luck in finding your proof and let us now how it went.


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2nd part :And I kept seeing her popping out on my FB sugg for such a long time etc. etc then out of nowhere you get a text. It's Reaaallyy not going to be easy to let go. Then, I saw her friend in the club pointing at me subtly at some point I'm just wondering what will happpen/how will she react if I block her on IG. One thing for sure that will be resolve before going back to school. My 2 concerns r she gets sooooooo much attention from boys and she doesn't seem to care, only if thaboy is her type and i fear she might suffer frm BPD.
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It's hard starting relationships in any kind of "community" setting. Church, social circles, cultural groups... people like to talk, it sucks.
Cancers don't like confrontation but when they are asked something directly, they're more inclined to tell the truth about their feelings. Some people say this is the best technique with everyone but have fun getting a straight answer out of a Libra who is undecided, or a Pisces who doesn't feel like talking.
The problem is, most people don't like when they are told the truth (from a Crab perspective). That is usually when people start throwing up the " how dare you say that to me, I will now try to blame my discomfort with what you said on your star sign and say you are emotionally reacting when I am the only one getting upset," thingy.



Yep, totally true. People SAY they want the truth but they usually don't like it.
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PMLTH:
lol even fb thinks that you are compatible! fb has a certain algorithm to decide who will be suggested to you. obvious thing is mutual friends. but i think there are lot of other criteria, like age, likes, where did you go to school, events that you attended, recently added friends, where do you live, actually everything you post on fb, every similarity is counted. and when the number of points reach a certain number they suggest you that person. that's why they sometimes suggest you people that you don't really know but you have enough points. so fb is a matchmaker in disguise lol.
i doubt that it is who looked at your profile cause it wouldn't be too moral, and it would be more obvious. then again who knows. but i believe that guys who work there are really that capable to write that good algorithm. i know a bit about algorithms when it comes to social networks so i know they can be that good. and people are not aware how their behavior on internet tells so much about you.
why would you block her on ig? just to see her reaction? dude what else did you do to see her reaction? the girl maybe thinks that you hate her! we are cancers we take things personally! lol


I know Im most likely over analyzing but I now understand what mirroring your actions mean. Example : my ig s public, one day I set it private and she does the same, that's mirroring your actions, right? ...just an example.
Anyway one thing I really do not understnd, bunch of guys chase her and there are NO guys on her radar. (well based on online resources). Only guys around are friends, is this a cancerian trait? I know 90% of girls would at least pick one
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I guess this is a good example of mirroring but she sounds like an immature cancer. Well you know? Most immature cancers will mirror (mature cancers won't mirror). How old are you guys? Are you all in your teens or early 20s?
And what "online resources" are you talking about? Remember what I said. When you snoop, you may not get an accurate picture of what's real. It's like putting a puzzle together in the dark. Especially with a cancer woman, you cannot view her life from the outside looking in and think you know what's what. The guys that are around probably are in fact friends (cancer people wouldn't keep "friends"around that blur the lines between lovers...most of there relationships are clear cut and don't overlap in those ways, except the lover/romantic relationships). But! Cancers are very secret and private and if they are not in a solid,loving and committed relationship, they are probably dating a lot of people, searching for the next hubby. They have lots of people waiting on the sidelines, waiting for a chance to be privy to the heart of a cancer. And the sex alone will keep the lineup long. And you will never suspect it because cancers know how to keep things private (unless one of the prospects loses his cool and erupts into a public spectacle).
"I know 90% of girls would at least pick one" Cancers are very choosy and patient when choosing a mate. It takes them awhile to choose because they will take the time to know that their choice was right (security-loving), by using time to observe, get to know the person in different aspects, to feel they are themselves ready and things like that. That's why most cancers bag really good/ideal catches. The don't settle (mostly). Cancers don't jump into relationships because of superficial needs. They are in search of true, long lasting love and they have no problem being alone (or at least not in a committed relationship) while they wait.
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Knowing that information I feel..... turned off
what if I tell her I like her friend (I kind of do)
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Turned off why? You like her friend?! You obviously are not ready for any type of relationship. Who do you really want, what do you really want, how do you really feel?! And if you kind of like the friend, 1) I'm almost sure she feels it, 2) by you saying you like the friend and also being so indirect with her, id say she would naturally feel led on and feel like you're playing games and will not take you seriously, 3) if you like her friend and still have been wanting to pursue her, you may be lacking in self awareness and /or morals and may just need to call it quits on her, the friend and any other females until you get yourself together. It doesn't seem like you're ready for anything real.
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Turned off why? You like her friend?! You obviously are not ready for any type of relationship. Who do you really want, what do you really want, how do you really feel?! And if you kind of like the friend, 1) I'm almost sure she feels it, 2) by you saying you like the friend and also being so indirect with her, id say she would naturally feel led on and feel like you're playing games and will not take you seriously, 3) if you like her friend and still have been wanting to pursue her, you may be lacking in self awareness and /or morals and may just need to call it quits on her, the friend and any other females until you get yourself together. It doesn't seem like you're ready for anything real.


Too late. My friend took my phone and wrote that with some other bs, said that it wasnt me, most likely she won't believe me . NOW I know for sure its over.... ALL THIS for nothing geez, I deleted her number, so embarrassed it really wasn't meant to be Sad
I don't like her friend, just hypothetically saying but my stupid friend while I was away wrote that. arrrghh spent way too much time on that
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Posted by aurora
PMLTH:
lol even fb thinks that you are compatible! fb has a certain algorithm to decide who will be suggested to you. obvious thing is mutual friends. but i think there are lot of other criteria, like age, likes, where did you go to school, events that you attended, recently added friends, where do you live, actually everything you post on fb, every similarity is counted. and when the number of points reach a certain number they suggest you that person. that's why they sometimes suggest you people that you don't really know but you have enough points. so fb is a matchmaker in disguise lol.
i doubt that it is who looked at your profile cause it wouldn't be too moral, and it would be more obvious. then again who knows. but i believe that guys who work there are really that capable to write that good algorithm. i know a bit about algorithms when it comes to social networks so i know they can be that good. and people are not aware how their behavior on internet tells so much about you.
why would you block her on ig? just to see her reaction? dude what else did you do to see her reaction? the girl maybe thinks that you hate her! we are cancers we take things personally! lol


I know Im most likely over analyzing but I now understand what mirroring your actions mean. Example : my ig s public, one day I set it private and she does the same, that's mirroring your actions, right? ...just an example.
Anyway one thing I really do not understnd, bunch of guys chase her and there are NO guys on her radar. (well based on online resources). Only guys around are friends, is this a cancerian trait? I know 90% of girls would at least pick one


hmmm, idk. i'm not sure, but that sounds like a coincidence. when i said mirroring i was thinking more about general attitude, like if you act uninterested, and i don't know really know you, i doubt that i would act interested even if i am. but the thing you mentioned about some profiles, idk. i haven't really grew up in that era smile.
about you other concern, i would always wait to meet someone that i really like, not compromise for someone that is available at the moment.
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I really like her, I just
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Hypothetically speaking? Why would you have any reason to hypothetically speak about the friend or even mention her? And wth kind of friends do you have if they would write something like that to her, behind your back? Or did you tell the friend to do it, hoping to gain a reaction? And why/how do you allow such a friend access into your phone? Idk what more advice I can give. It wasn't meant to be because you made it out to be not meant to be. You completely sabotaged that relationship. You seem very scattered and immature/full of juvenile games and tactics. If I were your cancer friend, I definitely wouldn't take you serious and I wouldn't invest my heart in you. I know I'm being harsh with you, but you need a smack down. Go take a few months out of the game and wisen up. Those who play these silly games never win in the end.
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Hypothetically speaking? Why would you have any reason to hypothetically speak about the friend or even mention her? And wth kind of friends do you have if they would write something like that to her, behind your back? Or did you tell the friend to do it, hoping to gain a reaction? And why/how do you allow such a friend access into your phone? Idk what more advice I can give. It wasn't meant to be because you made it out to be not meant to be. You completely sabotaged that relationship. You seem very scattered and immature/full of juvenile games and tactics. If I were your cancer friend, I definitely wouldn't take you serious and I wouldn't invest my heart in you. I know I'm being harsh with you, but you need a smack down. Go take a few months out of the game and wisen up. Those who play these silly games never win in the end.


Friend is more like immature younger cousin, my phone was in the basement, went out to do few stuff, he knws about it and did silly stuff..
...It wasn't meant to be because you made it out to be not meant to be....
That's really really harsh
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I feel like such a loser
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Negative feelings won't do anything for you, except torture you. If you really want it badly enough and are ready for it, you may have a chance. But you're going to have to approach her directly (maybe face to face) and bluntly spill your guts and ask her out and assure her that you are being honest and ask that she be honest and that the both of you be more open to each other. Don't ask for a commitment because it doesn't seem like either of you are ready for that. No mixed messages, none of that.
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