cancer women as friends?

a cancer woman calls me a friend, but i don't know if she's sincere when she tells me that. we've known each other for years but haven't connected like friends usually do. she has her own friends and i have mine. when she found out and saw pictures that i partied and have other friends, she got quiet like i've somehow betrayed her.

i also caught her one time complaining to her best friend when i was on the computer, and not paying attention to her! there were no work to do, it was my free time! same as she was on hers too! i also get the feeling that she always want me to approach her. if i don't, she'll totally ignore me.

sometimes her friend would just pop up to where i was assigned as if they're checking on me. so out of the blue.

Posted by Purr
Oh, and the computer thing just sounds like the typical Cancerian "imagining slights" issue, to me. The getting jealous over the pictures thing makes me think she wants you two to become closer friends, but doesn't want to bring it up directly, so she's "hinting" and hopes you'll catch on.

you are right. we're both women, and straight. the imagined slights. sometimes i just wonder what happened? the having friends with other people, is it a territorial thing to cancers? her friend even tells her to relax. the friend is also another cancerian.

i am not sure about her for now because i see that she gossips and when she gets slighted she ignores, and gossips about me then comes back as if nothing happened then goes back to that again.

I think it definitely can be a territorial thing if she's feeling insecure about the strength of your friendship/bond. If she felt secure about the friendship, she'd be genuinely happy that you and your friends had a good time, with or without her. I'm thinking she probably saw the pictures and thought/imagined that you were somehow trying to imply that you have more fun with them than you do with her, which probably hurt her feelings.

The being slighted (or thinking you've been slighted) and ignoring thing is also typical Cancerian behavior. Does she do that thing where she just gets all silent and looks like she's trying not to tear up? That's pretty common.

Judging by the way she's currently behaving, if you want to connect with her, you're probably going to have to do most of the work (at first), because it sounds like she's too afraid to initiate it. Once/if you're willing to put in the effort to try to emotionally connect with her and gain her trust, that behavior should dissipate.

Best of luck! 🙂

that's it purr! she gets very quiet and looks like she'll cry. she sometimes gets jumpy when i am around.

Posted by Arielle83
awww this is cute...ya she wants to b friends but shes scared of ur rejection....u have a happy life with other friends...maybe jealous cuz wishes she was a part of yours...or closer to u to join in on the fun?? cancers want to be close, but there's always an issue on how to get to that point, it takes time...we arent patient...we want bonding...you have to start bringing her into ur circle if u really want to be her friend...if she has any balls she will ask to come along with u

that is nice. i'd like to be her friend. i think the push and pull due to fear i see so much. i'll be more understanding towards her.

Posted by Purr
She cares about you. Work on this friendship and you'll have a loyal, trustworthy, loving friend who truly cares about you, will always be there for you when you really need her, and will always want you to be happy. You'll have to be able to handle moodiness (to which degree, I don't know), and possible clinginess, though. The moodiness will probably never go away (although it's more severe on some days than others for most Cancers, I've noticed), and the clinginess just depends on the Cancer. Some like a lot of space and need a lot of alone time...others, not so much. Hope you two can work this out!

thank you purr! the moodiness, i have seen, and she has mars in cancer so probably doubles it. her moodiness shows when dealing with other people. i haven't seen much with me. i don't mind the clinginess. in fact she does give me the silence when she doesn't see me for a day or days.