Cancer women does this happen to you

does it seem like every girl you come across is always competitive with you? For no reason! It seems like I have very few friends that are girls because they always get competitive or backstab me. I have 2 best friends that have never been like to me a leo and a scorpio.

I find it happens most at work place...There always trying to make up issues and I ignore it until it starts to get serious and I have pointed out that maybe if I was fat and ugly we wouldn't be having this problem right now..

HA! I'm not alone! I ABSOLUTELY know what you mean. I am not competitive by nature, but def in the workplace, and amongst other females.

How about this twister though.... I AM fat. Not ugly... but not a small girl. But I guess just being confident in whom you are as a person, and within your own skin; it intimidates others. Especially if they are insecure with themselves. At first it used to bug me (us Cancers can be super sensitive) But after a while I learned to just take it as a compliment.

Don't worry about it! People that feel the need to compete in order to justify their own worth aren't worth having around!

🙂

Posted by Starfish225
"can feel this a mile off from girls before I speak to them. Acting silly and making them laugh about something they can relate to usually makes them feel at ease and breaks the ice"


Thats how I handle thinigs as well...

I as well. It brings you both to the same level so no one feels uncomfortable. I crack jokes all the time.

I don't know about jealously but i do get alot of people who gravitate around me. I make friends when i don't even notice. I don't have alot of female friends ither.

Not a Cancer but chiming in.... Um I guess I don't notice when women get catty. It doesn't bother me any. It's THEIR problem. Why make an issue of it? It stirs up more drama and cattiness. Yeah I get hissed at alot by women but that's as far as *I* allow it to go. Dragging it out any further would be attention seeking on my part.
"OMG she's SO jealous of me!! Do you know what she said about ME? What did *I* do?" *swoon swoon*
Um... nope. Not me 🙂 Making a scene is not my style .

I have found this to be true my whole life.

I think every woman at some point or other in her life has experienced cattiness from other women. I am not a Cancer either, but I have been there too. I think jealousy is human nature and it can be fixed. I would be lying if I said I never felt it towards others. I think the best way to counter this emotion is to be understanding towards those who act that way towards you.

When faced with cattiness, an option would be to shrug it off and be nice to those who are envious. Try to be more approachable and down to earth. I have found that this deflects negativity and encourages a more positive reaction from others.

Hi Cusp of Magic,

I really understand your view too. There are times when it doesn't matter how nice or understanding you are to jealous people. Somehow, they can't get over their issues and they want others to suffer because they are unhappy. It is sort of like them finding happiness through the downfall of others. I am currently faced with this too.

I am happy with who I am and where I am in life. I don't covet what others have nor do I want to outdo anyone. However, I find that certain people I deal with are very curious about my actions, what I have, or why I am so satisfied with just being me. Unfortunately, some people get offended by this. I am glad to know you don't seek the approval of others. It is good that you are happy with you and if others have a problem with it, more power to you!

Like you, I appreciate genuine people and hope that the jealous ones get over their issues and find better things to do with their lives.

Hmm . . I admit I have came across that.

And it's natural with all women, and men, I believe. I do notice that women who see me as a confident, attractive, and easy-going person (which I am 🙂 ) they feel the need to either try to compete with me looks-wise, fashion-wise or social-wise. And at the end of the day, all that hard work they pulled off being 'competitive' goes unnoticed, because I don't give a flying frog.

I am very comfortable with my body, looks, and who I am as a person. And women who have low self-esteem, lack of confidence, or is insecure notice that and need to nitpick to feel better about themselves. Whatever they can do to turn my upbeat-ness (lol) into a slow beat-ness.

I say go along with your day. I sure do. I actually find it entertaining.

Could it be because Cancer women have a natural femininity about them that threatens other women? Some women may equate a Cancer woman's ladylike mannerisms as a threat, because that quality attracts men and this might seem as a threat to other women.

Just a thought.

I think the protective crab shell seems like we are super confident when in reality things are soft underneath. Some women aren't secure enough to be around confident women. I have also found that I get this WAY more from fire signs than any other-particularly Sag and Leo. I have two friends that are a Sag and a Leo. If we are at a social function and I am being too loud or am in the center of attention too long, they start that competition thing. I just back off and let them have the limelight they crave. This usually pays off because fire signs are hilarious after all!

Posted by Clair De Lune

Confidence is good for the soul and some can feel uncomfortable around people that have alot but if those people refuse to enjoy themselves, then that's up to them. They could just come out of their shells and relax a bit more/quit taking things way too seriously.

i totally agree. confidence is intimdating to those who lack it. i feel this all the time.