Cancerian man but likes hard to get, rude women

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by aj123 on Friday, March 21, 2014 and has 13 replies.
Hi,
A man who has Gemini Sun, Cancer Moon, Cancer Venus and Gemini Mars says he doesn't like "sweet" women and prefer the more rude, argumentative type of female who turns up late, doesn't act very bothered and isn't very nice as he says it stops him from becoming bored (but says, nice people are good as friends, he says).
However, I do know, technically he is a gemini man but I kind of thought him having cancer moon AND cancer venus, might mean he is the type that wants stability, constant reassurance (such typical cancer traits)
He does seem very flattered by compliments and does seem insecure and very sensitive (retreats into shell, etc) so it is seems he does have those cancer-like traits but this seems so odd..
Is it his gemini sun and mars that may make him have such preferences in women?
Thanks
I think that rude woman, or bitch, is the male equivalent of a bad boy for a female. I don't think it's a gemini or cancer thing. I think most men prefer women that are hard to get, ie. a bit of a challenge... nobody wants a doormat in either cases.
I think if he tells someone that personally, that means there's no way in hell he's going to date them. Apparently he deems that person as too nice or non-date-able. It sounds like the male equivalent of the friend's zone. I've literally told someone the exact same line. I've said this before, but we hate obvious people, unless we like them first. We hate it when people come on too strong, too early. We're sarcastic and funny, but we also have a darkness to us. We can be bitter and cold (of course not to our friends), but in the face of dating, especially if we were scorned one too many times. Who wants a real super nice person who comes off as fake, whether it is or not, while we're being frigid? We see right through that bullshit. We need someone we can play with, tease, and banter with. I feel bad for the person who doesn't have this and tries to date me. It's not a pretty sight.
No way! Most men with common sense & good Cancer Men don't like rude Crazy B*tchez. I sure as hell don't lol. All tho from time to time, i do attract the wild types. Don't mean i have to date them. I know the not to comfortable/shy Cancers do like a direct/bold woman when it comes to getting things started (relationship, talking, or sex). I sure do in some cases because at least i'll know that i'm who they truly want. Don't mean imma put up with a sh?_TTY attitude 24/7 lol. But yeah maybe this guy likes the bold/direct type of women. Admittedly some of us Cancers like the aggressive/direct type of women. As long as they don't take it too far & get out of line.
Thank you for the responses so far - 2BlackIndian3: Your last 2 posts seem to be hidden?

He seems to go for people who look very feminine though but just have that rude attitude going on..
I'd think that for cancers, as someone who craves security, someone flighty who threatens to leave, seems uninterested, etc. would be a total nightmare for them?
Yes I like bitches.... They are interesting.
Me: hey, how you doing?
Bitch: what is it to you?
Now I wanna know her more.
Me: I didn't see you today , how's it going?
Bitch: why? Don't you have other women to see. Be happy with them.
Now I smell a challenge.
Me: why are you so rude always? Stop acting like a bitch.
Bitch: there is a reason for it. I can't tell you.
Now I wanna make out with her....sigh. Those Taurean bitches. :p never a dull moment.
@aj123 My posts were hidden because i realised they were the same as my 1st one lol. I know for me, Rude Crazy B*tchez are a Turn Off. I can't stand mean inconsiderate people. If a woman is being rude 24/7, then her time with me will be very short. I have common sense. Usually those types have krazy personal issues. Not for me Yucky! Tongue
@aj123 But all Cancer Man are different & like different thing. Your guy you talking about just acts like a Cancer in some ways, but he's not fully a Cancer. He still has his Sun sign & other placements that play a huge part. You have to read his 7th & 8th house sign & planets. Your 7th house partner is like the marriage partner. He's might be in a fire or air sign. Also you forgot to mention his Moon sign. That could be in a Fire or air sign too.
Thanks for all of the replies
@2BlackIndian3: His moon sign is cancer (as well as his venus sign) - think I did mention that somewhere in the first post.
He said from experience, he's found himself getting bored after a while in terms of dating, if the other person is "nice".
Any more replies very welcome.
Thank you
lol maybe because he is already nice. So he probably wants the opposite. He should try a fire sign & be done with it. I know i like a sweet woman tho. Although sometimes i end up getting the opposite lol. Not because i want to. I guess some people like different things. Nothing you can do about it but support your friend. He'll probably want a Good woman later if he mets a few nutballs lol. So don't worry about him
Plus he's not a real Cancer, because we actually like sweet & funny people. There's other aspects going on in this guy chart. I wouldn't get bored of someone being good to me. So basically saying he likes women who treat him like sh*t. That's not a Cancer quality right there or a common sense thing. So let him do what he wants. He'll find out for himself
Thank you for the quick replies - really helps smile
What I seem to get from his background is that:
he had an 8 year relationship with someone who was "nice" (I think but he said he couldn't imagine being with her forever as he started to "love her more like a friend" so he left her but being the cancer that he is, missed her and kinda regretted ending it (because he felt lonely afterwards but said it was too late to go back/kinda didn't want to really go back).
Then, he said he met someone who would be openly rude to him, never turn up on time, argue with him, etc. and that was a long distance thing and lasted around 8 months until she left him.. but he said he hadn't loved anyone in the past like he did with her... then explained that he preferred rude girls over nicey nice sugary girls...
He isn't particularly nice himself (he would always try and disagree with everything - in a joke-ish way I suppose, and was a bit of a cynic and acted all cold but I definitely think that was just a self-protective outer shell barrier thing and he seemed to be a very sensitive emotional person on the inside.
Well there you go right there. He likes drama & women who treat him bad. I say just let him be, & let him do what he wants. I wouldn't put up with his behavior tho. Hopefully the next lady won't leave him. But he may actually like that lol. I wouldn't bother him about his choices ok. Just focus on you for now smile

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