Hey there,
how do u know????
Ladies, any ideas?
thanks,
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Mar 22, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2804 · Topics: 142
If she puts you on a pedistal...you got her
care to elaborate??? in which respect?
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Apr 12, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 4267 · Topics: 82
How about when she says that she loves
cancers are usually shy creatures when vocalising that word but again this IS based on only the few that I KNOW so it doesn't mean anything when it comes to your cancers.I know a gem/cancer cusp along with another straight up cancer whos a bit more open and direct with thier feelings.Why don't you say why your asking and maybe someone will be of more help to you.Ya know is she saying she loves you and then doing something that contradicts it?Is she showing it but not saying it?Post the whys to you asking and then maybe someone can work with it easier. well maybe the looks are there, but cancerian women are complex and very good at keeping their cards close to their chest. Is there anything which will pinpoint if they are in love with you?
Would the amount of time they spend with you be a good guide?
Yup...she puts you on a pedastal - cancerlady is right! I do that when I have 'strong feelings' for someone. They can do no wrong - even if they are the worst creatures on earth LOL! Also, she buys you presents for no reason, looks at you dreamily, smiles whenever she thinks of you AND SHE TELLS YOU SHE LOVES YOU. Most cancer women would not say the 'L' word unless they really meant it. We may be complex, but we wear our hearts on our sleeves. When we are in love, we throw all caution to the wind and just let the experience of love take us away (at least for me anyway) When I am truly 100% completely in-love with someone (which, really has only happened once in my life) I would do anything for that person AND I MEAN ANYTHING.
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Mar 22, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2804 · Topics: 142
Listen to the moonmaiden...she knows of what she speaks.
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Mar 22, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2804 · Topics: 142
Why do we do that anyway? Putting people on a pedistal I mean?
I think that is HALF my problem MM68, I put them on this ridiculously high pedistal and they can literally do no wrong...well they do wrong but I ALWAYS find an excuse for them to be forgiven. Then it gets to the point that I am tired of being an unappreciated doormat (I don't mind being a doormat as long as you appreciate me) and they fall off their pedistal and while I usually don't hate them (Its so hard for me to harbor bad feelings for long) they can NEVER regain that "King" status with me. When it is gone, it is gone.
CL/Cm2
thanks ladies your are truely helpful - how will i know this is something that she is feeling.
How will I know if i'm that special someone?
dreamy eyes I get...their hard to resist. how do I know that she doesn't act the same way with others????
I DO THE SAME THING CANCERLADY! I really don't think it's very healhty LOL! I will meet a guy and if I instantly have strong feelings for him UP HE GOES..can walk all over me, lie to me, not talk to me for days, be cruel AND I EXCUSE ALL OF IT. Until that day comes along when he finally falls off the pedistal. Then hell hath no fury!! All of a sudden the tables are turned I can be pretty cruel and say some pretty hurtfull stuff and even tell him that I hate him, but I still never truly 'hate him' and will always be very nice to him, but he will never be back up on that pedistal again. I don't know..it's all very masochistic, isn't it?
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Apr 12, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 4267 · Topics: 82
it's all very masochistic, isn't it?
Yes but im just a scorpio observer lol.
>>thanks ladies your are truely helpful - how will i know this is something that she is feeling.
How will I know if i'm that special someone?
dreamy eyes I get...their hard to resist. how do I know that she doesn't act the same way with others????
thanks moonmaiden,
It's been a few months, I really like her alot. She doesn fuss over me at times, like say stuff like that i need to wrap up warm wear a hat as its cold outside. Talk with me for a couple of hours on the phone at a time. She does hug me like you mentioned and hold me tight.
Offers me food when i go to her house to pick her up. Said that I should meet her sister. was happy when I said that she is better looking.
But I have been with other girls before, like aries, and they just do this kinda stuff for the sake of it. thats why I wanted to ask a cancerina lady herself? but it is embarrasing to go up to ladies and ask if they are cancerian just so that i can ask for advice, especilaly since they may think i'm hitting on them. I wasa so happy when i came across this message board, found my answered prayer. she's really nice.
please help.....
thanks everyone,
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Mar 22, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2804 · Topics: 142
LMAO MoonMaiden...WE ARE MASOCHISTIC, but I must say that I am happy I am not the only person out there like that. I need to work on that LOL And you are SOOO right with the full body hug thing. When I like you alot, man you had better be a man who likes affection, otherwise you will be miserable! LOL
LOG I seriously think she is warming up to you...What is your sign if I may ask and how do YOU act around her? We are usually ALL ABOUT love at first sight, but if we feel the possibility of a rejection anywhere, we will hold back.
i'm a virgo, i make comments on her dress sense, how shes very creative, i'm open with her, wrote her some poetry. even though i'm not a poet, cos she likes poetry. make her laugh alot, i can be affectionate towards her, but i am also shy sometimes.
she wrote me poetry after like what seemed like a million from me. one poem.
thanks cancer lady,
and every other lady here helping me out
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Mar 22, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2804 · Topics: 142
LOG
Well I would be more concerned with the quality of her poem...Especially if she is a poetry buff. She would have taken more time to write you a good poem from her heart with meaning.(not saying that yours AREN'T good)
Are you good at reading between the lines? Cancer's are very subtle so you might be able to get a clearer picture on her feelings by the poem. Was it about love? Also usually we are so used to being the "givers" in the relationship so she might not know how to react to so much positive attention. Let me give you a perfect example of me & a Virgo I screwed it up with.
Back then,I didn't have a car and the apt. bldg I lived in a couple of years ago and my apt was a good walk from train station. So one day this beautiful Virgo gave me a ride where I needed to go. On the way, he stopped by this store & told me to wait in the car. In the store he bought me my FIRST dozen roses (I know it's pathetic that I was 23 getting my first dozen but that's beside the point) SO rather than call him later that night and go out with him like he asked, I didn't call him at all because I didn't want to ruin the memory of getting my first roses because I just KNEW he would eventually disappoint me.
See how retarded we are? I saw him a couple of weeks later and he told me I really hurt his feelings but I guess I never thought of it like that. He was so good-looking that I never really thought he could like me & me only. Moral of the story is, we are retarded! No seriously, she might not feel worthy of your affection because of insecurity but if she really likes you, she'll come around.
CL/Cm2
Thanks cancer lady
i didn't know that cancer ladies were so deep, its amazing...
You know I always think that if u like someone then u demonstrate, but today I have seen a new way, that people also get lost in the moment, she's a beautiful lady, and she said to me that I never thought u liked me, I can't believe you like me, I thought you didnt like me. I don't understand that, she's gorgeous, I mean I don't know what I have to do to show her that I really like her and her alone?
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Mar 22, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 2804 · Topics: 142
You just answered your own question...
she said to me that I never thought u liked me, I can't believe you like me, I thought you didnt like me.
She's feeling a little insecure! Sometimes beautiful people have no idea how beautiful they are so they can't believe someone so beautiful to them would actually like them. TRUST ME! I have been there QUITE a few times. Yes we are deep, sometimes too deep. It scares people away which is why we keep our cards close to our chest.
Have you told her about these feelings? I mean upfront and in your face...
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Sep 24, 2005Comments: 0 · Posts: 1169 · Topics: 38
ladies i have dilemma with a cancer girl
first off shes dating this guy for 4 or some odd years
and i met her this year at my new high school
at first i thought she was a total babe and beyond my league that she associates with but i got to know her and shes very very kind and open minded
but she sometimes asks me abou the role of man and woman in a household. she wanted to know if i wnated a male dominated or female domated household. i said neither and egalitarian and i dont want a housewife i want a working wife.
is this one of "subtle hints" you ladies were talking about becasue im lost
and lately im always talking about marriage around her
and for once i think i found a someone to relate with
but she has a boyfriend
does she have a slight infatuation with me?