Cancers (and whoever): Can you be with someone you

Having in mind that love isn't always there from the beginning...but that Cancers usually feel from the start that love will develop, can you say that a relationship that begins without that "spark", from the cancer point of view, has a chance of success?

Will you stay with someone just because. Can love emerge from the sense of responsability or the need to be stable. Perhaps some people might know from where i'm coming from, and might not like it or be totally against it. But don't you feel sometimes that you need to take the power to make something work in your own hands, instead of leaving it to fate or time?

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Can I be with someone I didn't love ... impossible. I think a 'true' relationship deals with connecting mentally, emotionally and physcially. Most people get involved with others by only connecting physically -- it can work short-term but not long term.

If I were to be involved with someone without loving them, then what good am I in the relationship. Being with someone just for the sake of it never made sense me ... but people do it. I think those are the ones who constantly complaint about being "stick in a rut". I never been good with the whole guilt/obligation type of situations ... I must do what I feel and if I get pushed into something I don't want ... then I have a tendency to 'make a break for it".

Well, that's my opinion anyway ...

Well, i was referring mostly to that "spark"

Is like a friendship; you understand each other, you have an awesome time in bed, but that "thing" is not there...uhm...
Perhaps i was thinking of something that isn't there at all, you now crabs, worrying about deep stuff nobody cares about...making things more complex...

"Is like a friendship; you understand each other, you have an awesome time in bed, but that "thing" is not there...uhm..."

Okay, are you talking about friends with benefits? If so, my friend is having that problem right now. He has an wonderful time in bed with these women but he doesn't connect with them whatsoever ... ha! Then he calls me and talks about how that certain something is missing from his life and he gets soooo depressed... yep he's got plenty of growing up to do 😉

Anyway, there could always be a spark when you are intimate with someone but it doesn't always last. It's always emotionally tricky when you mix a platonic relationship with a sexual one. I've always kept them separate except once but I had to hurry and correct all of that. I don't think you're making things complex, you are just being open with your feelings and there is certainly nothing wrong with that 😉

thanks.