Cancer's opening up...

Is that a big deal to you guys if you bear your soul to someone? I don't like to stereotype because the norm would be that cancer's aren't very open... but are there any of you out there that do open up to people readily, like you're an air sign? Or are the majority of you relatively closed off and it's really hard for you to open up?

Not really hard to open up... But it's a big deal if I do.

Posted by krebbsmann
Not really hard to open up... But it's a big deal if I do.

Thank you. Your reply was very much appreciated 🙂

Posted by Claro

It's a huge deal opening up to someone I care about but not with a stranger or a professional who I'm probably never going to see again, then it's easy.

People who I know who I don't have a close bond with, it's never going to happen. I'll tell them nothing. Yeah, within wider circles of acquaintances I'm locked and as secretive as hell, but I might appear open to them in the relaxed way I talk about some of the surface stuff.

Thank you! Very insightful 🙂

Posted by Claro

It's a huge deal opening up to someone I care about but not with a stranger or a professional who I'm probably never going to see again, then it's easy.

People who I know who I don't have a close bond with, it's never going to happen. I'll tell them nothing. Yeah, within wider circles of acquaintances I'm locked and as secretive as hell, but I might appear open to them in the relaxed way I talk about some of the surface stuff.

yes yes yes about the second paragraph especially!

It really depends on the person. I've had people who were close and I've known for years who didn't get half way to really knowing me and I've met people who I barely know who I open up to fairly fast. When I meet people I instantly start reading them. This is pretty much uncontrolled and not something I think of often. When I feel I've met a kindred soul I can open up to then that's what happens. If not, then they get surface stuff. Most don't even realize they've been read that way.

Posted by MoonArtist

Posted by Claro

It's a huge deal opening up to someone I care about but not with a stranger or a professional who I'm probably never going to see again, then it's easy.

People who I know who I don't have a close bond with, it's never going to happen. I'll tell them nothing. Yeah, within wider circles of acquaintances I'm locked and as secretive as hell, but I might appear open to them in the relaxed way I talk about some of the surface stuff.

yes yes yes about the second paragraph especially!

It really depends on the person. I've had people who were close and I've known for years who didn't get half way to really knowing me and I've met people who I barely know who I open up to fairly fast. When I meet people I instantly start reading them. This is pretty much uncontrolled and not something I think of often. When I feel I've met a kindred soul I can open up to then that's what happens. If not, then they get surface stuff. Most don't even realize they've been read that way.

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Best way to describe it is like an onion. There are a lot of layers. If I don't want you "in", you won't be able to get there.

Posted by CancerOnTheCusp

Posted by MoonArtist

Posted by Claro

It's a huge deal opening up to someone I care about but not with a stranger or a professional who I'm probably never going to see again, then it's easy.

People who I know who I don't have a close bond with, it's never going to happen. I'll tell them nothing. Yeah, within wider circles of acquaintances I'm locked and as secretive as hell, but I might appear open to them in the relaxed way I talk about some of the surface stuff.

yes yes yes about the second paragraph especially!

It really depends on the person. I've had people who were close and I've known for years who didn't get half way to really knowing me and I've met people who I barely know who I open up to fairly fast. When I meet people I instantly start reading them. This is pretty much uncontrolled and not something I think of often. When I feel I've met a kindred soul I can open up to then that's what happens. If not, then they get surface stuff. Most don't even realize they've been read that way.

^^That
Best way to describe it is like an onion. There are a lot of layers. If I don't want you "in", you won't be able to get there.

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Thank you artist and cusper! That really helped me a lot. I guess I've been asking because my cancer man open up to me and it really touched me.... I usually never feel like people open up to me easily because I don't open up to them so it was a pretty big deal to me when he did open up to me. No one has ever done that before and it really threw me off kilt. Now I want to open up to him not because I feel obligated but because I do care for him a lot and what he did I really admired and I sometimes wish I was more brave about opening up about my emotions. I'm not. I'm a pussy about it and I hate to admit it but it's true.

So I'm contemplating opening up to him which really scares me (I think I'm hyperventilating) because I've never opened up to anyone this quickly and I'm really scared of getting hurt... BUT I really want this relationship to start off right with being honest and open... something that has been difficult for me in past relationships... arrggh wish me luck guys!

Being a Libra mooner I overanalyze everything... so I'm goin

Being a Libra mooner I overanalyze everything... so I'm going to pick at this til it's raw before I do it--gotta make sure what I'm doing is for the right reasons. But my Aries sun is so impatient HA!

LOL, I'm shaking I'm so nervous 😢

Posted by Arielle83
I find im distant and only reveal the surface daily stuff to acquaintances or co workers...i never reveal my feelings..

However, when I like someone, I want to open up. I find it hard because i don't want this person to think I'm intrigued by their soul and then let them feel a sort of power over me. Im not talking sexually, but platonically. Some ppl fascinate me and I think they feel me crushin because I do give them attention; however, it takes a lot for me to tell anyone anything personal...I have to suss them out first. See how they treat others around them. If they are a gossip, def not. I stay away. It's taken me years to feel close to some ppl...I actually find it hard to find connections. I have a lot of friends and am very social, but I'm talking about the deeper stuff...the history of me...I think i compartmentalize since ive moved around so much. Not everyone needs to know everything tho.

Even my fiance says he feels he doesn't know everything. I say you can't force someone to tell you everything. My life isnt a story book...its more in depth than that and can only be discussed in certain moments.

For those that spill all their beans too soon...I find it hard to believe them or feel they must have something they are trying to prove.

I feel the exact way^^^

It is really hard for me to open up about me deep stuff.I think there is only one person in the world who truly knows who I am, my best friend, and evern then he's still finding new stuff about me all the time.

That is why I asked. In my head I'm wondering if this Cancer guy is for real or if he's just proving something... I don't know. But I do know I have a trust issue that I need to work on. Also, I watched a video recently that really change my perspective on being vulnerable.

Yes, you close up to protect yourself... especially from being hurt. But in the end you never end up really connecting with people. And that has always been my biggest problem! It's not that I feel misunderstood, it's just that I don't let people try to understand me... maybe partly because I don't completely understand myself sometimes.

Lol, sorry for the melodramatic rant.

But, thank you so much Arielle I really appreciate your comment 🙂