Cancer's Poll: silence treatment

Im bored...

So i been reading the past 10 topics on the cancer forum... And this is a poll for cancers (they seem to be the perpetrators)...

I has been stablished that you have to use the silence treatment sometimes as defence mechanism for different reasons...

Rules: pls be concise and dont chamge topics...

2 simple questions expecting simple answers

1) how long is been the longest silence treatment you have applied to someone that you care for?... (Not acceptable to say forever is obvious thats is past silence treatment)

2) how do you guys break the silence treatment? (How to know is done)

I'm not able to do the silent treatment

Not a cancer but the silent treat is the most lethal and effortless punishment.
You don't have to burn bridges right away but drives them mad in the process..
At least the way I do it..

Eye contact is important it seems like a joke when you are ignoring them straight up lmfao..

Posted by warmwaters
Not a cancer but the silent treat is the most lethal and effortless punishment.
You don't have to burn bridges right away but drives them mad in the process..
At least the way I do it..

Oh my dear it is!

Nope, I haven't ever done this. If I see your meg and try to not answer you, that thing will keep being in my mind. It's quite painful.

Hmmmmm.....with my ex, I think I managed a silent treatment for 3 days once. BUT, that 3 days was liberally sprinkled with caustic "DIE, ASSHOLE!" looks (if looks could kill, as they say), leaving the room whenever he got near, and giving him the "well aren't you a dumb fuck" look whenever he'd ask something incredibly stupid, like, "are you still mad at me?", not to mention muttering to whoever was on the phone, if I happened to be on the phone when he'd come in the house, "ugh, the jackass just got here". This was always because of some horrible fight that we would have, and then some nasty verbal abuse he'd dish out on me, and then he'd try to act as though nothing happened. NOPE, the fight is still on and I'm still pissed until you make it right and own up to your shit! Needless to say, I made it exceedingly uncomfortable to be around me.

I might as well have not bothered, though. He never did own up to anything, and rarely ever apologized. He'd just get pissy that I was mad at him for his behavior. Vicious circle.

More like we cut people off and they can't take the hint.

Posted by Pearls
More like we cut people off and they can't take the hint.

Cutting off people is never talk to them again...

And my question is more like you are in shell or hurt or upset and stop talking or knowledge someone for a period of time... Like "taking some space" to sort things out... Whatever you guys call this.. For us is silent treatment because you dont talk to us and became mean...

Anyways i mean doing this and then come back and resume the relationship with that person... I dont know if im explaining myself....

In another not as an observation is funny that some nice crabs here all deny doing silent treatment

I get the question but you don't get the answer.
We're not in denial.....the other person is.

I'm kind of high of pain killers so I'll explain and maybe to my detriment...

If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

If we want you in our lives you'll get a reply some type of acknowledgement.
We don't want to be without the people we care for too long even if it's hate there is still some care underneath all that. Indifference and apathy is not caring for you at all and we mean it.
We give too much and strive to know who we keep close to us on all levels to turn it off and on. It's not something to turn off and on because it was genuine from the beginning not a role we were playing. If we feel we can't be genuine and appreciated by that person then we leave.

Posted by Pearls
I get the question but you don't get the answer.
We're not in denial.....the other person is.

I'm kind of high of pain killers so I'll explain and maybe to my detriment...

If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

If we want you in our lives you'll get a reply some type of acknowledgement.
We don't want to be without the people we care for too long even if it's hate there is still some care underneath all that. Indifference and apathy is not caring for you at all and we mean it.
We give too much and strive to know who we keep close to us on all levels to turn it off and on. It's not something to turn off and on because it was genuine from the beginning not a role we were playing. If we feel we can't be genuine and appreciated by that person then we leave.

Hope you feel better!
I do clearly understand the point in your anwser but my question is not about cutting off people for good... Im talking about thing i've been reading here things like a cancer girl who mentioned once that she stop talking to her bff for 5 months because something she did or say... But they went back to be friends, or starchild63 friend that give people's oportunities... I dont think cancers is always black and white to go from 0 to100 meaning from awesome to cutting off an nothing in between type of thing

Sounds like a very insecure thing to do. I wasn't aware that was a Cancers thing as a whole.
When I stop replying I don't reply. Ever. It's for good and not a treatment nor a punishment.

I know a few Cancer girls, too many Cancer guys, and myself of course.
They are a playful bunch but they don't like to waste their time with this type of back and forth.
Even if we're angry at you we're going to reply sooner or later or we're coming back home to you.

If someone is doing this to you they're deeply insecure not a Cancer thing.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I give one word replies and never pick up the phone.

make it burn slow.

if im really pissed..i just disappear.

ill disappear just to test you.

Yup thats sounds about like what i was talking about... So how long is the longest!! And how do you go back from that

Posted by Pearls


I know a few Cancer girls, too many Cancer guys, and myself of course.
They are a playful bunch but they don't like to waste their time with this type of back and forth.
Even if we're angry at you we're going to reply sooner or later or we're coming back home to you.

Thats my point... But i also believe that cancers who do this... They dont do it with the idea of "im going to punich your sorry ass" is more like i dont care about you, im hurt and when im done sulking and thinking, i might come back if so... But some take longer than others...

so does that mean you want us to pass the test by chasing you?

Posted by Pearls


If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

oh, yes, you do the silent treatment to people you love or care about.

and yes, you do come back...like no other sun sign...all you need is a demonstration of LOVE...

i've seen several cancers doing this...

Posted by mz

Posted by Pearls


If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

oh, yes, you do the silent treatment to people you love or care about.

and yes, you do come back...like no other sun sign...all you need is a demonstration of LOVE...

i've seen several cancers doing this...

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lol No.

Posted by Pearls

Posted by mz

Posted by Pearls


If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

oh, yes, you do the silent treatment to people you love or care about.

and yes, you do come back...like no other sun sign...all you need is a demonstration of LOVE...

i've seen several cancers doing this...

lol No.

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lol Yes.

Posted by mz

Posted by Pearls

Posted by mz

Posted by Pearls


If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

oh, yes, you do the silent treatment to people you love or care about.

and yes, you do come back...like no other sun sign...all you need is a demonstration of LOVE...

i've seen several cancers doing this...

lol No.

lol Yes.

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really? the two of you??

Posted by fullwaterpisces

really? the two of you??

Oh no, it's not the "two" of anybody.
Did you see me reply to her again?
I said what I had to say & I stuck to it.

I don't know what she's going through but I'm over here on pain killers watching Harry Potter so I'm sorry but me caring just isn't about to happen today.

I'm still coming back to watch for the other Cancers' replies though.
I do find this topic interesting don't get me wrong.

Posted by fullwaterpisces

Posted by Pearls
I get the question but you don't get the answer.
We're not in denial.....the other person is.

I'm kind of high of pain killers so I'll explain and maybe to my detriment...

If we don't acknowledge your presence or talk to you = You are cut off
"When will they stop and come back." = You can't take the hint.

We won't.

If we want you in our lives you'll get a reply some type of acknowledgement.
We don't want to be without the people we care for too long even if it's hate there is still some care underneath all that. Indifference and apathy is not caring for you at all and we mean it.
We give too much and strive to know who we keep close to us on all levels to turn it off and on. It's not something to turn off and on because it was genuine from the beginning not a role we were playing. If we feel we can't be genuine and appreciated by that person then we leave.

Hope you feel better!
I do clearly understand the point in your anwser but my question is not about cutting off people for good... Im talking about thing i've been reading here things like a cancer girl who mentioned once that she stop talking to her bff for 5 months because something she did or say... But they went back to be friends, or starchild63 friend that give people's oportunities... I dont think cancers is always black and white to go from 0 to100 meaning from awesome to cutting off an nothing in between type of thing

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She can go from 0 to 100 in an instant. More so 100 to 0. I think her libra rising and sag moon. But I had to learn with time that it's not her giving the silent treatment. It's her just losing herself in her hobbies and thoughts an social life. She's very independent and doesn't rely on others to make her happy or satisfied or fulfilled and she treats everyone else as if she expects them to be independent in that way as well. And if I ever start to feel left out I just bluntly tell her and usually it's a "oh, I didn't mean it like that, I thought you were busy doing your own stuff and I was busy with my stuff, you want to get up" sometimes she feels overwhelmed by people and just disappears but still has the same amount of care as she did when he left. But I'm not taking away from your experience.

I cut off people.

Silent treatment doesn't work. The only people I've pulled this on are people I want in my life. They all happen to be the same people who find my drama entertaining and taunt me with it. Like sending texts or leaving notes saying 'its hurting me way less than its hurting you! come on you know you have SO much you want to say. LOL'. Yea. So, no silent treatment.

Posted by Kim31
I cut off people.

Silent treatment doesn't work. The only people I've pulled this on are people I want in my life. They all happen to be the same people who find my drama entertaining and taunt me with it. Like sending texts or leaving notes saying 'its hurting me way less than its hurting you! come on you know you have SO much you want to say. LOL'. Yea. So, no silent treatment.

for me is tomato-tomatoe kind of thing...

so let me understand terminology here... no silence treatment... clear.. ok

more like cutting off people... fine. I'm trying to understand if you guys have cut people off and then take them back after a while... that's why i called silent treatment... cutting off for me is permanent, no way back ever... and i've seen cancers coming back... so I don't know how to call that.. I'm still not fully fluent on crab lingo yet

Silent treatment-if you approach me with confidence, I'll be annoyed you completely ignored the silent but continue on with the friendship. I'll snap at you for pissing me off then let it go. I'm back.

Cut off- you won't have the opportunity to approach me. You'll never hear about why I left. I ain't coming back. Probably won't even blink if I hear you got stabbed to death.

Posted by skyeop
i am a Cancer girl and op, I read your other posts about your friend. I think that although you say you only feel for her as friend it sounds like you feel more romantic feelings. This may put your friend at uneasy feelings since she does not like girls in that way. Also she is married to man yes? This may be cause or one of why she does not talk to you. It is too uncomfortable for her. makes her feel uneasy.

Hahaha ironically is not the case, I do have intense friendship feelings (she was the only person who understand me to T and that kind of people is hard to find) for her and nothing else beyond that...

I've been with a Capricorn man for about a year and yes she is married to a guy... and I also know she is bisexual too, but there never was anything on that nature in our friendship... if there is a remote possibility that someone feel something like that, I can assure you is not me... and to be honest I totally discard any possibility related to that nature.

Posted by Kim31
Silent treatment-if you approach me with confidence, I'll be annoyed you completely ignored the silent but continue on with the friendship. I'll snap at you for pissing me off then let it go. I'm back.

Cut off- you won't have the opportunity to approach me. You'll never hear about why I left. I ain't coming back. Probably won't even blink if I hear you got stabbed to death.

Im reviving this topic because of the holidays I didnt read the last msg but HOLLY MOTHER OF GOD I GOT AN EPIPHANY!!!!!!

YOU ARE A GENIUS!!

To answer question 1) a little over 4 months
To answer question 2) They called saying they found my number somewhere HA!

I silent treatment friends when I am overwhelmed and cant deal because I don't feel like talking about the thing bothering me .. always come back when im ready but ill gloss over the ting Im hurting about but I cant let you hear about it until I can find the inner strength about it if I think you will be jugemental probably is why Im a lot later to return my voice

If you do something to hurt me it has to be really bad mind you and you have to push me to my limit and I would have given many chances then its done

Romantically no silent treatment but I think the mercury and venus has more to do with it - actually think its the worst punishment possible

Essentially it is all about wounds and hurts for me and betrayal and can I trust you with my deepest thoughts and feelings if not then its game over

I have done it for about two years... I am doing it now.. lol it will break when the other people admit their wrongs and apologize