Caner man - please advice

Hi,

I posted one thread here before, but it seems I couldn't completely understand cancer man. Maybe, my post is confusing.
My English is not so good. I'm really appreciated that you spend your time to read and give your input.

I met this cancer man on social network. He's a foreigner working in my city. At first, he seemed really open and little flirty with me. I like him, but didn't really think about him. Sometimes, I sent him some text on the weekend asking him about his plan and telling him that I were near to his place. He will send him fast reply asking directly "where are you?"

Few weeks later, I decided to ask him out as friends (I also asked him to bring his friends along, but it turned out he came alone as I did). We had 2 hours of talking which was fun and little awkward. Then, he thanked me for inviting him and he needed to leave since he had another plan with his best friend. My face turned red (I felt little mad), but stayed calm & nice and told him that if he had plan he could cancel our date, and he didn't have to come to see me since I just want him to have a good time. He said sorry, he would keep in mind.

When He left, I texted him to thank him for paying the drink (I wanted to split the bill, but he insisted to pay). He also thanked me again. And, he initiated contacting me 2-3 days later in a row telling me about his day. Then, he disappeared for 2 weeks. I were freaked out and sent him couple of emails asking him if he was ok (I know, I'm desperate). Then, he came back and sent me apologize email for his silence and he turned to be normal again.

I just noticed that everytime he told me about how different I am, how he likes that I am nice/outgoing/open-minded, he will disappear weeks, or even a month. I feel really nervous when talking to him over the phone, so I never called him instead I sent him email/text. Now, he didn't reply to my text any more (for 3 months) but email.

It's been nearly 2 weeks now since the last email he sent me, in which he told me that he were at the place we first met to listen to music because of his sad feeling, and another email telling me that I'm the only he "has" that care about him in this country.

I don't know what he wants. I started to think that he doesn't like me, even as a friend.

I'm so bad at mind game. Please help me by letting me know what I should do. I'm a Aries. I can move on quickly, only if I give up (which is hard for me).

hi iwin32, Thank you for your reply.

We are both Asian, so I'm not sure if I should give him a hug. Should I just give him a handshake instead? Since that's what he did to me when we first met..

When he backwards, should I stay silence, or keep contacting him (but not too much)?

I'm really not sure if he's interested in me since I saw that he has lots of beautiful ladies on his friend-list (he hid the list, but the apps of that social site doesn't hide it for him). I have no idea if i'm just one of them or not.

One thing I feel odd about him is that he's tried to tell me about what he looks for in a relationship and how he met his ex-gf and they're still in contact while I didn't ask for that information..

Lmaoooo !! haha just hug lol 😉 xD

How to know if cancer man doesnt me?

Sorry, i cant edit previous reply.

How do I know if he doesnt like me?

I've just checked his last message again. It's 30 days now, not 2 weeks..

I think I should give up

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Posted by funkygal
I've just checked his last message again. It's 30 days now, not 2 weeks..

I think I should give up

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bwak bwak bwak bwak!! just hug him next time you see him

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I'm not sure if we will see each other again..
I'll give him a call tonight to see his reaction.. if he ignore my call, then it's over

sad..

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Posted by funkygal

Posted by thomas1214

Posted by funkygal
I've just checked his last message again. It's 30 days now, not 2 weeks..

I think I should give up

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bwak bwak bwak bwak!! just hug him next time you see him

I'm not sure if we will see each other again..
I'll give him a call tonight to see his reaction.. if he ignore my call, then it's over

sad..

ahhh now it makes more sense. yeah give him a call and see whats up. and make sure next time you do see him give him a hug. BUT time it well. don't make it awkward

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😢 staring at the phone for 15 minutes.. I even wrote the line, so I would know what to say..

But he didn't pick up.. It's over

I think he's busy with work.. Should I left a message? ahh i feel so confused..

I have lot of cancer friends (my sister, my 3 close male friends).. But none of them gave me headache

lol @ funkygal.
Why wouldn't he like you? I mean, did you do anything wrong?

You gotta chill, he's being Cancer and you are being Aries. You have made contact, let it be, he hasn't rejected you as there wasn't much to begin with.

Go about your normal business and if he reappears, be a good friend 1st of all as he seems to feel alone in a foreign land.

Good luck.

Posted by zenalchemy
lol @ funkygal.
Why wouldn't he like you? I mean, did you do anything wrong?

You gotta chill, he's being Cancer and you are being Aries. You have made contact, let it be, he hasn't rejected you as there wasn't much to begin with.

Go about your normal business and if he reappears, be a good friend 1st of all as he seems to feel alone in a foreign land.

Good luck.

2-3 months ago, I wrote him a short message telling him that I like him more than a friend and want to have a date with him, although I don't want to hurt the friendship.. And he told me not to worry and he understand (I think, he rejected?)

Maybe, it's because I'm not look like a hot girl? (I'm not really ugly - but not hot) and maybe I were too desperate? (I made him a card for his birthday. I made him cake to cheer him up when he felt sad. I courage him when he feel uncertain about himself...) Maybe this scare him away..

I treated him gently.. didn't push or anything..

I think it's not about zodiac, i have many cancer friends and they are all different to each other.
😛 maybe, it's because he see my dark side of wanting something more than a friend and he just got bored.

As an Aries, cancer man is like a challenge to me.. ^^

Leave him alone. The more he know you care, the longer he will pull the text, no show act. Your life is worth more to you instead of sitting around waiting on a man. Time will heal, trust.

Or follow previous stick around until "he" decides he want to be with you. By the way, that sucks. Leave him is what I will suggest. Don't worry about being a hot gal. Looks are only skin deep. You look pretty to me.

hi krobe,
Took your advice, I didn't contact him at all. Actually, before that, I sent him a final email telling him that I couldn't understand why he has been that way (not talk to me at all), and I were sure he was just fine. I'm sorry, my Aries trait made me feel so angry and acted before really thinking things through.

I also told him that I don't know when I should stop, or I should give up on someone. And his silence is the answer I need. (My sister is a cancer, and she stops talking to anyone she doesn't like or hurts her). Ofcourse, he didn't response to me. Maybe we never speak again.. I know I shouldn't wait for him or hope once day he will come around. Just the way he left made me feel so empty.

You know, this is the second times I lost my chance like that (sorry, I don't know if I really had the chance).

I feel so sad about myself 😢

Funkygal,

Don't let anyone's lack of validation determine your value. When feelings are genuine and mutual, there is no chase, there is no fight, there is no struggle. Your inner peace will be found, promise.