Cap Needing Advice on Cancer Woman

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by Capricornicus on Wednesday, July 27, 2016 and has 19 replies.
I am a Capricorn man needing advice on a Cancer woman.

This Cancer woman, and I have had a few years of flirting when we were around at a bar she frequents. Pretty heavy remarks from her sexually suggestive. She had a boyfriend until recently. When I was with some friends, she came out the the bar.

She mentioned how she was single, she needs time, and then asked my friends girls about me, telling them how hot I am and how I smell good. We talked a bit, and when I was leaving I said goodbye, she asked me to walk her to her car. I did, and there she kissed me and made more comments about members of my anatomy.

She made sure I had her number, and I chalked her talk up to the booze, and her reeling from the breakup that she wanted a bit of a ego boost. Regardless, there is energy between us. I texted the next day, and the weekend came, where she was moving out her stuff from her ex's. I assumed she may need space so didn't text that weekend. Monday, I texted her and she was distant, then went dark. A week later (Sunday) I got back from the lake and texted to see how her weekend went, no response. Then Monday, I sent a (hows your day going) text and 6-7 hours later she replied that she was sorry but left her phone at home. Following the advice of a non cancer woman, I didn't respond. Now over a week later, I hit her up and say (how have you been?). Nothing. Still dark.

I'm not sure how to take this after she tells everyone she is into me, and I am into her, but there is no way for us to run into each other and she never responds. Whenever we are around each other she marks her territory, and flirts, and the energy is there, but there i am out in the cold of late.

So I need advice from you wonderful cancer women. What is going on? What should I do to get back into the picture? I am a Cap through and through, so this is my only means to not feel helpless in it all (The biggest Cap crutch is feeling like we cannot do anything).
well ...I can't speak for every cancer woman ....but speaking for myself

1. she told all her friends how into she was

2.she boldly kissed you and came on to you

3. she made sure you had her number

-----then you DIDN'T text that weekend------

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I am extremely shy! and if I pull out all the stops and you still don't text Sad sigh*I would start to pull back into my shell ...which sounds like what she is doing
Sounds like you are just too Needy!
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Posted by Cancan26
well ...I can't speak for every cancer woman ....but speaking for myself

1. she told all her friends how into she was

2.she boldly kissed you and came on to you

3. she made sure you had her number

-----then you DIDN'T text that weekend------

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I am extremely shy! and if I pull out all the stops and you still don't text Sad sigh*I would start to pull back into my shell ...which sounds like what she is doing
Hey !! Big Grin .. Glad to see you back smile

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Posted by Cancan26
well ...I can't speak for every cancer woman ....but speaking for myself

1. she told all her friends how into she was

2.she boldly kissed you and came on to you

3. she made sure you had her number

-----then you DIDN'T text that weekend------

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I am extremely shy! and if I pull out all the stops and you still don't text Sad sigh*I would start to pull back into my shell ...which sounds like what she is doing
Hey !! Big Grin .. Glad to see you back smile

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thank you poo!
Cancers do not let go easily. So when breaking up, even if its her choice or even when the relationship was bad, she has a hard time. So she is mourning....have patience...
Posted by Cancan26
well ...I can't speak for every cancer woman ....but speaking for myself

1. she told all her friends how into she was

2.she boldly kissed you and came on to you

3. she made sure you had her number

-----then you DIDN'T text that weekend------

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I am extremely shy! and if I pull out all the stops and you still don't text Sad sigh*I would start to pull back into my shell ...which sounds like what she is doing


he said he texted the next day, then it was the weekend and he didn't until Monday as he knew she was moving stuff out from her ex's ...

OP, I say - just my perspective - she said she needed time and you know the booze was talking - so maybe she was just reeling from moving stuff out of ex's place and I'm sure they talked at some point so what I'm saying is that it's a tad soon don't ya think ... you don't want a rebound piece of mess ... be cool and give it some time ...

She's gone dark because she's detaching from something she was once close to and trusted.

Keep contact but also keep that in mind.
Most of cancers i noticed are afraid of rejection Winking she sounds like she has doubts or she's testing you maybe? smile i don't do things like this, but i'd invite you to do something nice for her, not practical but something that would create some emotion, make something for her, a nice romance dinner or a lunch or something beautiful with your own hands ,we love personal gifts and when you put work and heart in not, not so much practical things, unless we're old. Big Grin for example id like a book but way more i would love a pic or a letter or something made by the person i like smile i might not be a cancer woman, but i think all cancers want something that has meaning behind it, and maybe some romance and shit Big Grin if you tell her you like or love her, show her, actions , and show your vulnerable side , don't be afraid, she will think you're more human , because for me was the same once with capricorn, at first i thought she was ice cold, but when i got to know her, ofc she didn't say anything, but i noticed that she really was sensitive and vulnerable inside, with many fears that she hides under that mask, open up a little bit and you'll see how the cancer will become more open with ya i think Winking if you think she's worth it that is

She also kind of sounds like distancing herself from you, she might think that you're not into her because you don't show enough attention or something, just insecure cancerian going back smile

Posted by Cancan26
well ...I can't speak for every cancer woman ....but speaking for myself

1. she told all her friends how into she was

2.she boldly kissed you and came on to you

3. she made sure you had her number

-----then you DIDN'T text that weekend------

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I am extremely shy! and if I pull out all the stops and you still don't text Sad sigh*I would start to pull back into my shell ...which sounds like what she is doing
Nope sorry that is bs. He may not have texted the next day but the man has pursued trying to talk to her like 3 times. That is a BIG enough hint that he has reciprocated. If this Cancer woman is thinking like you then she is a bitch because he has shown his interest and there is no reason to refuse to acknowledge it simply because he did not text her the VERY next day.

But tbh OP I think she was just drunk. I dont think she likes you as much as she has led you to believe. Seems like she is toying with you for her fun and ego boost. You deserve better, ESP if you are aa hot as you say she says you are.
she playin playa!
I'm a cancer and I do not let go of exs easily. It takes me a long time to heal. Doesn't sound like she's ready to move on yet. And the fact that she still had to move out of her exs place is heartbreaking enough.

Also, maybe she's totally embarrassed about what happened when she was drunk. I'm guilty of that!

Lastly, as a cancer women dating a cap man I can tell you this- we love attention we love more of the semi aggressive type because we love to talk and show our emotions. You like space more than us. You move too slow and don't show as much feeling as we'd like.

I think you still have a chance though! This girl needs someone to take care of her right now. Show her you can do that!
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This is a first all I ever see are women boo hooing over how to get a cap man and ur sprung on a cancer
This is true!
@malloryor

maybe...you could be right .... Big Grin (I don't know her lol)

I was speaking for myself....I get discouraged easily when it comes to flirting so for me if I put in a lot of effort and don't get a "proactive" reaction immediately ...I get discouraged and I begin to back off ..and in the situation where I had just broken up with someone and my ego was already bruised ...it wouldn't be a stretch to for me to go cold for a bit ...but again thats me personally
How are u so sure that she didn't patch up with his ex...she went for moving some stuff from her ex's or something...maybe they clicked again

We,cancerians don't really let go of our love that easily...we do everything possible to bring it back on the right track

She deliberatley gave u her phone number and then poof!!! The ex thing is back Imo
Posted by newlove
How are u so sure that she didn't patch up with his ex...she went for moving some stuff from her ex's or something...maybe they clicked again

We,cancerians don't really let go of our love that easily...we do everything possible to bring it back on the right track

She deliberatley gave u her phone number and then poof!!! The ex thing is back Imo
Agreed! This has happened with me as the cancer girl. I tried to move on and open myself up to someone else, but said I needed to take things slowly. Really, I was physically attracted, but not open to it going anywhere because my heart was still with my ex. I bet they are trying to work things out. I would let this go before you get hurt. If they were living together, she is not over him yet. We cling to things. There's a saying:. Everything I've had to let go of has claw marks. True for Cancers.
Sound like she's busy from the break up she had...bad move you made was not replying to her when she finally hit you up.. why are you chasing her? Is it because you want to get to know her or you just chasing sex?
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Whhhhy why would you do this! I will never sleep again!