CAPPY'S BREAKINGPOINT( I've Had It !!!)
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by cappysweetie on Friday, April 21, 2006 and has 8 replies.
Okay, this is what I need to know in order to have closer to this silly situation I'm been going through for the past month. Currently, I am at my breaking point with this cancer I know. Since cancer are indirect and sensitive, how should I go by letting him know that the way he is acting and has acted in the past has really dampened our relationship (I use that word loosely). I not trying to be an insensitive person his non-communicative, and distant attitude has started to both annoy and hurt me deeply. He believes that as long as he doesn't treat me like the other females in his life (just saying whatever to get laid) that I should feel privilage ... well I don't!
Yes, I know cancers don't like to be confronted but I CANNOT allow him to think that everything is okay anymore ... I just can't! And why should I? From the beginning I've been "good" to him and he admits it. His mother adores the influence that I have over him, and she wants me to stay in his life, his father wants the same thing (THIS IS BEFORE MARCH CAME, AFTER THAT FIRST WEEK HE WENT WAYWARD) For him to just disregard my emotions in favor of those he is sexually involved with is tearing me apart along with the "girlfriend type" of emotional damands he puts on me without giving me that title. I need to let him know that he IS REALLY MESSING UP AND HAS MESSED UP. What do I say to this cancer man that he has something good, but he is destroying what's let of a very unstable relationship? Tell me, how do I talk to this make, how do I make my point known? I NEED TO KNOW WHAT HE WANTS FROM ME! I don't give a hoot if he runs afterwards because that means he has alot of growing up to do if he cannot that the TRUTH (MY TRUTH). Jeez I feel like sobbing, please give me so feed back ......
Yes, I know cancers don't like to be confronted but I CANNOT allow him to think that everything is okay anymore ... I just can't! And why should I? From the beginning I've been "good" to him and he admits it. His mother adores the influence that I have over him, and she wants me to stay in his life, his father wants the same thing (THIS IS BEFORE MARCH CAME, AFTER THAT FIRST WEEK HE WENT WAYWARD) For him to just disregard my emotions in favor of those he is sexually involved with is tearing me apart along with the "girlfriend type" of emotional damands he puts on me without giving me that title. I need to let him know that he IS REALLY MESSING UP AND HAS MESSED UP. What do I say to this cancer man that he has something good, but he is destroying what's let of a very unstable relationship? Tell me, how do I talk to this make, how do I make my point known? I NEED TO KNOW WHAT HE WANTS FROM ME! I don't give a hoot if he runs afterwards because that means he has alot of growing up to do if he cannot that the TRUTH (MY TRUTH). Jeez I feel like sobbing, please give me so feed back ......
Well, well, well,
First off being a cancer and not likeing confrontation is not always true. If he knows how you feel about him already then he's just playing games. The feeling doesn't sound mutual. I mean most of us are looking for security. Being a cancer and having dated a cancer male before I can relate. He's telling you to feel special because he doesn't treat you like the rest of his hoes. Then it's like is he just saying that to me for the same reasons? To keep you around... Whatever his intentions are he's keeping you where he wants to keep you. There is something about you that makes him keep you around but, yet it doesn't sound like he's serious. We are clingy when we are really interested. So tell him how you feel. He's not going to like you any less for speaking your feelings. I would rather hear how a person truely feels than to play guessing games.
First off being a cancer and not likeing confrontation is not always true. If he knows how you feel about him already then he's just playing games. The feeling doesn't sound mutual. I mean most of us are looking for security. Being a cancer and having dated a cancer male before I can relate. He's telling you to feel special because he doesn't treat you like the rest of his hoes. Then it's like is he just saying that to me for the same reasons? To keep you around... Whatever his intentions are he's keeping you where he wants to keep you. There is something about you that makes him keep you around but, yet it doesn't sound like he's serious. We are clingy when we are really interested. So tell him how you feel. He's not going to like you any less for speaking your feelings. I would rather hear how a person truely feels than to play guessing games.
Honeygirl, thank you for your insight
I got a little emotional, so i logged off quick. Plus I had to work at both of my jobs today and I had to finals to take. Boy what a day .....
He has asked how are truly felt about him (besides just caring) but I didn't tell him for fear he would play with my emotions when he gets in one of his moods -- so no, has told me how he felt but after the whole "I cannot be in a relationship" statement came out of his month, I refrained, but he still wanted to know. He just sent me an email stating how he was sorry for last Tuesday and how was helping a friend study for a test ... and how his father had his car ... and all sorts of BS! Yes, he is lying and I have my proof. If I lied to him, he would have a fit!!!! (it has happen before). He wants to pick me up tomorrow, but I'm afraid to go with him ... I mean that would be the perfect time to tell him where I stand, but I don't trust his word anymore. He wants me to let him know tonight ... demanding SOB!!!
I got a little emotional, so i logged off quick. Plus I had to work at both of my jobs today and I had to finals to take. Boy what a day .....He has asked how are truly felt about him (besides just caring) but I didn't tell him for fear he would play with my emotions when he gets in one of his moods -- so no, has told me how he felt but after the whole "I cannot be in a relationship" statement came out of his month, I refrained, but he still wanted to know. He just sent me an email stating how he was sorry for last Tuesday and how was helping a friend study for a test ... and how his father had his car ... and all sorts of BS! Yes, he is lying and I have my proof. If I lied to him, he would have a fit!!!! (it has happen before). He wants to pick me up tomorrow, but I'm afraid to go with him ... I mean that would be the perfect time to tell him where I stand, but I don't trust his word anymore. He wants me to let him know tonight ... demanding SOB!!!
Stop wasting your time with this guy.. you're never sort anything out if this keeps up. Cancer - Capricorn isn't a good combination anyway..
I Agree SRG,
However, you did suggest that I speak with him right? Afterwards, only time will tell where things go. Actually, I heard (from astrology.com, awesome website) that cancer-capricorn relationships are an ideal combination, however the cancer has to be mature and able to control moodiness. But anyway, we'll talk and will tell him everything. I'm very blunt when angry.
However, you did suggest that I speak with him right? Afterwards, only time will tell where things go. Actually, I heard (from astrology.com, awesome website) that cancer-capricorn relationships are an ideal combination, however the cancer has to be mature and able to control moodiness. But anyway, we'll talk and will tell him everything. I'm very blunt when angry.
I don't know.. it seems like you care alot about this guy if you're still talking about him and wondering what you should do. Sometimes you need to stop thinking completely and do what is right. For example, just the other day, I had an idea to get my head shaved and this morning I went and did it. No thinking, no regrets. I'm not an expert on astrology but Cancer - Capricorn are direct polar opposites -- so while there may be an initial attraction, there's not enough to keep the relationship strong for a long time because of too many fundamental differences. My experience tells me that the earth sign most compatible with a cancer is a taurus. And cappy, I don't want to sound too philosphical but I don't think that problems in a relationship come from just 1 person.. it takes 2 to tango..
SRG, you're right, you are absolutely right my dear. That's why I want to set things straight because I have said and done some imperfect things too -- you know us women never ever talk about the stuff we do to cause problems HAHAHAHAHA!!! 
My problem was being too evasive in the beginnning, maybe things would be easier in the present if I didn't act in such a way, I do know. But I'm okay now No more sobbing, thank goodness ... emotions are a killer, especially when you don't use them often.
I have a cautious mindset SRG, I have to analyze a situation thoroughly before acting upon anything ... hey when I was younger I use to be worst. It may feel good to stop over-thinking stuff, it can give you a headache! Anyway, I'm going to talk to him today, when I replied to his email I gave him a "either we talk or else ..." statement. He replied and said he was coming ... but him wants me to wear my hair down ??? Jeez, he has issues! Anyway, shaved your head bald? That's cool, I can so see you with a bald head, it my imaginition you probably look really good. Thank you for being straight with me SRG, you remind me lot of Brahn0913. He'll tell it like it is, no matter how much it hurts. Thanks so much Dude
My problem was being too evasive in the beginnning, maybe things would be easier in the present if I didn't act in such a way, I do know. But I'm okay now No more sobbing, thank goodness ... emotions are a killer, especially when you don't use them often.I have a cautious mindset SRG, I have to analyze a situation thoroughly before acting upon anything ... hey when I was younger I use to be worst. It may feel good to stop over-thinking stuff, it can give you a headache! Anyway, I'm going to talk to him today, when I replied to his email I gave him a "either we talk or else ..." statement. He replied and said he was coming ... but him wants me to wear my hair down ??? Jeez, he has issues! Anyway, shaved your head bald? That's cool, I can so see you with a bald head, it my imaginition you probably look really good. Thank you for being straight with me SRG, you remind me lot of Brahn0913. He'll tell it like it is, no matter how much it hurts. Thanks so much Dude
You know what Cappy you should leave this guy alone.... The part where you said he would be mad if you lied to him all these traits your explaining to me are just like my x cancer.... He could tell lies left and right and would be mad as all hell if you lied to him. It's because when he lies he's covering up a whole mess of things so for you to lie would mean the same in his eyes. This guy doesn't sound serious with you. If he said he can't be in a relationship don't try to push it... Just let it go... If I were you I'd start seeing other people as well. Atleast don't let him think he has you like that....
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