Completely smitten

Another completely smitten woman at the mercy of those strong pincers, increasing by numbers by day, apologies for the derailment, will return shortly with a proper response 🙂

Thank you, LadyScorpio! Any input would be much appreciated!

Posted by Leo816
Thank you, LadyScorpio! Any input would be much appreciated!

Mr.Crab above beat me to it, will step away for them to take over the mic...sound advice right there for you Leo816 🙂

Posted by Leo816
I'm rambling. Anyway... a couple more months down the road, I finally built up the courage to tell him again. So I did. Before telling him, I told him I had something to tell him but it might ruin his day (jokingly, to kind of lighten the mood and make me less nervous)... after telling him, he didn't exactly turn me down, but he didn't say he felt the same way either. He said "Why would that ruin my day? Of course I appreciate that!" (In the message, I told him I wasn't expecting anything to come of this [because I didn't want to risk scaring him off] and I hope he can take it as a compliment and appreciate it) and then he went off on a funny story about how a gay guy he knows hits on him constantly, etc. Things haven't changed between us... he doesn't act any differently or weird around me. We just went to the same concert recently; he told me I looked nice... and a few minutes later asked what I was wearing because I smelled good. He hugs me when he sees me. He sends me occasional funny yet sexual pics, like one showing a woman holding a laundry basket saying "I need a girl who can handle my loads". That kind of threw me off a little... considering he knows how I feel about him. And he talks about other girls around me... mentions they're "hot" and things like that. It pisses me off a little, to be honest. I start comparing myself to these women he says are hot and start to think maybe that's why he hasn't made any moves, because I'm not "hot" enough. I think I'm in love with him and he doesn't even know. It's killing me. Why is he not responding the way I wish he would? Do you think it's because he doesn't want to risk our friendship? Or maybe after this last failed relationship he doesn't want to try it again yet? I just want to shower him with gifts, affection and love, and make him forget any girl ever hurt him. He's imperfectly perfect and it's driving me crazy because I want him so bad.

Hate to say this but he's just not into you, if he was he wouldn't be talking about other girls in front of you, he wouldn't send you sexual pics, he would have asked you out already and told you he's interested in you. He only sees you as a friend, maybe even a possible sexual partner. NOTHING more. If I were you I would stop hanging out with him 'cause you're just wasting time on someone who doesn't want you, there could be a better guy out there for you. Who

BTW I'm pretty sure he already knew how you felt about him before you even told him, we're pretty good at sensing that kind of stuff. Keep your distance from him, who knows, when he realizes you're no longer pining over him he might want you back. You know how it is, we always want what we can't have.

Also, I've noticed when I ignore him--which, sometimes I do for the sake of my sanity--he seems to want more attention from me.

Posted by Leo816
Also, I've noticed when I ignore him--which, sometimes I do for the sake of my sanity--he seems to want more attention from me.

He prolly just likes the attention. You are a pretty girl who is into him and that would boost any man's ego. He may not be feeling any chemistry with you but that doesn't stop him from wanting the attention. He seems insensitive to me and I would drop him pronto. You cannot be friends with someone whom you have such deep feelings for. You have to get over it so that you can meet someone who adores you as much as you adore him. We women are always rationalizing and thinking up excuses for why the men that we cherish are not making the moves on us. Oh, he is going through a rough patch or he is getting over his ex or he is shy. That's all bull. The truth is that when a man wants you, you will know it. Do not pine for someone who will never feel the same way about you. It is just putting yourself through a lot of pain and heartache. You need to love yourself and realize that you deserve better. Out of sight, out of mind. I would cut off all contact with this guy. Just my personal opinion but in the end you're gonna do what you wanna do. Good luck!

See? that's the kind of thing a guy who is interested in you is supposed to do, feels good doesn't it? 🙂 I hope you two hit it off and you forget all about this Cancer guy.