I was really confused because despite having strong feelings for him I have never mentioned dating him. I don't know him so well at all really, I have an attraction and know we might be able to get along but I don't know that I would date him since I don't know him too well. However it really took me off guard....like why would he even jump to that conclusion? I wasn't flirty at all with him, in fact I was purely friendly with him and trying to make him more comfortable so that maybe one day we could actually be friends and hang out. Certain my not flirty at all and never ci fessed that I thought he was attractive. I know I was texting him which may come across as being interested but to be fair he initially texted me a month and a half ago when I got out of a relationship. So anyway I respond saying I completely understand ad I'd love to just be friends and get to know him better cause I think we could get along. He says that sounds great. I then ask out of curiosity why he thought I wanted to be more than friends and he said he just wanted to clear the air. I'm so confused! Also I have an idea that he likes me cause he has done small things that make it seem that way. We used to both work in an airport (i worked in a coffee shop and he worked outside) and he would only come in when I worked, then one day a bunch of his coworker friends came in without him and started asking me if there was a chance I would ever be interested in him. They were saying how nice he is and how cool he is and stuff like that. Well this was while I was still in a relationship so I said I was with someone and that he was more like a brother to me. Even though I didn't see him that way I didn't want them to go back and give him mixed messages. He never came back in after that. His sister, my best friend, recently told me he confided in her that one of his friends said he wanted to talk to me cause he thought I was cute and this upset my cancer guy a lot and made him mad and he told his friend that he wouldn't allow that. So with these in mind I am so confused as to why he acts the way he does. Any insight at all would be so greatly appreciated!
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Apr 09, 2010Comments: 21 · Posts: 4200 · Topics: 67
Sounds like he doesn't want any pressure from you (or his sister) and I bet he sure as hell doesn't want you talking about him to your friend (his sister)
It's a bit too close to home, especially if/because he's got some weird aspects to his personality that he'd like to keep to himself.
You can ask him what he meant by what he said, just don't take his answer personally he's looking at the bigger picture. Why not hang out with him as a friend and get to know him better.
Not much, we have still talked and he seems to be opening up a bit more, now asking me how my evening is going and whatnot. Still no huge progressive changes so I'm just going with the flow and see where it lands...I may have just read the little signs wrong and thought he liked me but maybe he does just want to be friends. Does anybody know if cancer men typically take a long time to actually make the first move on their part? Like asking a girl to hang out or get together? Its so hard to tell because recently he was pretty flirty through text and I responded equally, no extra flirting but still some tone of flirting. Then the next day he seemed sort of "blah" when I texted asking him how his day was. I'm just confused what his intentions are I guess. I want to stop texting him and see if he initiates but its hard to stay away, I really like him and like texting at least once a day to see how his day is/talk about common interest.