Confused about cancer man

So I meet this guy & we hit it off really well. We're kinda like magnets. We can have long convos & joke. But we act really coupley. We kiss & hold hands & literally act like we're dating. I went clubbing last night with him & some of my friends and one of them ask him of we we're an item. So I asked him later in a text what we were and he said "I'm just not wanting to be in a relationship right now. I keep bouncing back and forth so I need some time." I'm confused if its an "No I don't want to date you" or " I do like you but I'm not ready yet." Help please. I need advice. He's a really sweet guy. He walks me to my car. And when I said I was cold he held me in his arms. And he compliments me a lot. Llast night when we were Saying goodbye we were hugging at my car giving each other kisses and he was like no don't leave I wanna fall asleep cuddling you. And when I would tired to end the hug he's hug me more.

Advice, here it goes.

Your confusion is natural, you are in love and there are two ideas struggling, one is made from what you superficially see from him and how he makes you feel, and the other from what you fear. This guy has been good with you, but he says he doesn't want an official relationship or whatever, this is giving you mixed signals, because he treats you in a special way but his mouth is not in synch and is telling you otherwise, that you are not that special for him (at least at the present). A little weird if you ask me, what he wants from you only he knows.

Se either he asks you to be his gf or he doesn't, you can't change that, but you can change how you approach it. Risk yourself to be hurt and at the end waste your time, or for a miracle of god and him being the perfect boyfriend, or just let it be and find a better man or focus on something better.

But this is what I see, you didn't specify of... you know, advice on what? to get what? to understand or do what?

Well I asked him what he ment. And he asked if I wanted a straightforward answer. At that point I was really sacred that my gut was right and it was.

He said "Well the truth is, I don't see us ever being together. The reason for that being that you cheated on your boyfriend with me. I've been down that road before, and it ended with me being cheated on by the girl who left her boyfriend for me. It's a vicious cycle that I've learned to avoid."

I did cheat on my boyfriend at the time but I wasn't planning it. I deny Him a lot then semi gave in and we hooked up. But I kinda freaked out and then calmed my head and said

"I just don't think it's fair that you think I'll be the same as that other person. I fight to hold most of the time. You wanna know why I even let you? I felt more love then I ever got from EX. I felt special. You do remember me denying you a couple of times. Im not the only offender here. I know there is nothing I can say to fix this. Yes I cheated on EX. It wasn't right. I wish I had met you after. Then I wouldn't be in this position right now. Like I said I tripped and fell for you. Anyways I still want to be friends or whatever the hell we were before I asked. Should have listened to my gut. I had this feeling. It sucks when I know what's going to happen before it does"

He then went on to say "You can decide what to do with the information you now have. I told you that I don't want a girlfriend right now. That's all I said." I told him that I'd wait for him. And said ok. I then and asked if we could forget what just happened and he changed the subject to the show I was currently watching. So now I'm even more confused. I've never cheat on someone in my whole life. I knew I wasn't happy with my ex but I was afraid to be alone since my best friend had moved for the summer. So I felt truly alone since I lack friends. When I met this guy my thought was "I want to be friends with him" he was the one who started it. So I don't get it. What's the point of him asking all lovey and then saying that. Like he would kiss my head and nuzzle me and run his hand down my face. All very romantic stuff. Nothing like "oh I just want to have sex with you"

I should also mention I'm a Cancer as well and we're both the same age.

Any advice?