Confused By Cancer Woman
This topic was created in the Cancer forum by alwayzgrinding on Sunday, December 1, 2019 and has 11 replies.
I'm a Capricorn woman and she's a Cancer woman. We were together almost a year and ended up breaking up because we both had some things we needed to handle going on in our lives and we were unable to devote a lot of time to the relationship. We still talk and see each other every day. We have lunch together every day. She told me that after we get our lives together then we would get back together and continue our relationship. Then she said that I should move on and she will find me another girl friend but she still wanted to be the number 1 girl in my life and even come before my new girlfriend when I get one. There's another girl that we both know and the girl likes me. The Cancer woman made it very clear that she doesn't even want me to talk to the girl to even say hello. She wants me to stay clear away from her. So recently the Cancer woman told me to be patient and once every thing is in order then we'll be back together. Which is what I want and I told her that I would wait because I'm not interested in anyone else and I'm also getting things in my life in order. So I still call her 'babe' or 'baby' which she'll call me that too when we're talking. She asked me why do I do that and I told her because I still see her as my wife (we were engaged and planned on getting married) and it doesn't actually feel like we are not together since nothing actually changed. We just don't have the title. So then she said that she doesn't want me to feel mislead and that there is nothing that she's done to make me feel like we're getting back together. I referenced the many times she said that we would get back together, the fact that we still act like we're together, and the whole thing about her staying my number 1 girl. So then she said that she was playing when she said all of that and now know that she can't play with me in that manner. I was totally in shock and confused because she said all of that about getting back together and being my number 1 I asked if she was serious and she said that she was. Now all of a sudden she's was playing. Why would she play with my feelings like that? It's like everyday she's a different person and what she said is no longer how she feels. After she said that then I said well I guess we'll just be friends only. I'm just so confused. I love her and want to be with her but I don't want my feelings to be played with if she really doesn't mean what she says. Does anyone think that she really does want to get back together one day or should I just move on? She is just really confusing me and my emotions.
Personally she sounds like a manipulative nut to me. She has a hidden agenda and if you don't wise up and place some boundaries between you two, she's going to play you for all you have. She's even telling you to make her #1 even if you begin seeing someone else. If you can't see the strings being pulled behind that you're definitely blinded by the love you have for her.
Posted by Arielle83First time I am feeling like I don’t want to be a lesbian...🤔
She’s loving her power over you.
Wants to be single, but doesn’t want to be alone.
So she has you.
Just being there.
Posted by Arielle83Fuck your daddy and don’t try to get on between people you aren’t...🙄🥂
She’s loving her power over you.
Wants to be single, but doesn’t want to be alone.
So she has you.
Just being there.
So a part of her does want you. She’s extremely attached and unable to let go. But she has doubts and doesn’t want to commit to you. My guess is she’s talking to another guy or is looking for one hence the pulling away right now.
She’s very jealous so she’s stopping you from moving on. Do you think it’s respectful to date another girl and still be madly in love with your ex? No. Your next girl needs to be your 1 number one girl or honestly, you’re just an a s s hole.
Do not pay this girl anymore attention. Act like you accept her decision and tell her you don’t want to talk to her anymore so you can move on. Say goodbye and ignore all of her texts/calls. Date that other girl- you might actually like her! All of this will drive her insane and she will desperately want you back again. But only take her back if she offers commitment. If she doesn’t commit, she will continue to play her mind games and break your heart. Nothing will change.
She’s very jealous so she’s stopping you from moving on. Do you think it’s respectful to date another girl and still be madly in love with your ex? No. Your next girl needs to be your 1 number one girl or honestly, you’re just an a s s hole.
Do not pay this girl anymore attention. Act like you accept her decision and tell her you don’t want to talk to her anymore so you can move on. Say goodbye and ignore all of her texts/calls. Date that other girl- you might actually like her! All of this will drive her insane and she will desperately want you back again. But only take her back if she offers commitment. If she doesn’t commit, she will continue to play her mind games and break your heart. Nothing will change.
Sounds to me she likes the way you make her feel, she likes to control the situation too. This isn’t really authentic it is her being selfish
Thanks for all the advice everyone. I do love her a lot but I've decided to just move on and to just be a friend only to her. The whole situation hurts and I love her very much but I can't be in this situation anymore.
Hello,
I am a cancer woman. And from my perspective she loves you. But loving you doesn't mean she wants to get back with you. She actually wants to move away. She want to move on but it is pretty hard for her to move on when she loves you. Sometimes she is weak and misses you. Sometimes she feels like giving up to her feelings and calls you in the middle of the night to feel you closer. She wants to know where does she stand for you. She wants to make sure you still love her in any case she wants to come back with you. Her intentions are not to play you but her herself is also confuse. She doesn't know what to do. There must be something she doesn't like about your relationship and a reason to why she doesn't think that whatever she is getting together cannot be while in the relationship. Maybe she knows it would just not work. And cancer are stubborn. When we want something we want it at any cost. But we are also weak at love. I would suggest put pressure on her. If you don't want to have your feeling hurt don't be flexible. She is actually looking for a way to let you go in a way that is not as painful as all of a sudden. If you want her back. Tell her you love her straight up and would do anything she thinks needs to change in the relationship for it to grow. Tell her you can open up about needs and whatever she needs you will make an effort to support her. You will also make an effort to change. Whatever she doesn't like about you she can openly tell you without you getting insulted and will find a way to fix things. But if otherwise she is sill not sure about anything tell her you will move on. Once you have said this don't expect her to reply right away. Cut off communication. Make her feel she is loosing you. Put her in the corner where she needs to decide what she wants. Don't force her by directly asking her to decide because she will get mad at you. Once she notices your unavailability she will think a lot. day and night . Give her about a month before she calls you with an answer. If no answer comes after a month that means she decided to move on by herself.
I am a cancer woman. And from my perspective she loves you. But loving you doesn't mean she wants to get back with you. She actually wants to move away. She want to move on but it is pretty hard for her to move on when she loves you. Sometimes she is weak and misses you. Sometimes she feels like giving up to her feelings and calls you in the middle of the night to feel you closer. She wants to know where does she stand for you. She wants to make sure you still love her in any case she wants to come back with you. Her intentions are not to play you but her herself is also confuse. She doesn't know what to do. There must be something she doesn't like about your relationship and a reason to why she doesn't think that whatever she is getting together cannot be while in the relationship. Maybe she knows it would just not work. And cancer are stubborn. When we want something we want it at any cost. But we are also weak at love. I would suggest put pressure on her. If you don't want to have your feeling hurt don't be flexible. She is actually looking for a way to let you go in a way that is not as painful as all of a sudden. If you want her back. Tell her you love her straight up and would do anything she thinks needs to change in the relationship for it to grow. Tell her you can open up about needs and whatever she needs you will make an effort to support her. You will also make an effort to change. Whatever she doesn't like about you she can openly tell you without you getting insulted and will find a way to fix things. But if otherwise she is sill not sure about anything tell her you will move on. Once you have said this don't expect her to reply right away. Cut off communication. Make her feel she is loosing you. Put her in the corner where she needs to decide what she wants. Don't force her by directly asking her to decide because she will get mad at you. Once she notices your unavailability she will think a lot. day and night . Give her about a month before she calls you with an answer. If no answer comes after a month that means she decided to move on by herself.
Also by my suggestion you can tell I am a manipulative cancer... Lol. Because that's how cancer manipulate and she is actually manipulating you too.
Posted by Black-MambaSame account... What do you mean?Posted by Vita
Also by my suggestion you can tell I am a manipulative cancer... Lol. Because that's how cancer manipulate and she is actually manipulating you too.
So you’re posting from a different accountclick to expand
Posted by sweetpea2977sounds like a cancer to me
Personally she sounds like a manipulative nut to me.
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