Confusing Cancer Man

Hi everyone, hope all is well this holiday season....just to give you a update....still communicating with my cancer man....still can't figure him out...we joke and he does flirt and is trying to figure out where I lie on things....he made a comment about you know finding the right one followed by a exclamation mark....don't know if he means that could be me or that he is still looking and this could be a total waste of time for me.....

Still what I think are mixed signals....he has said that nice catholic girls are hard to find to which I replied so are nice catholic boys....but he won't go any further and only hints about possibly getting together....like he said I would ask you over but its late....and oh the other night he said he was watching tv but couldn't figure out what to do....asked me what I was doing....told him and then never heard from him....—??

Do you think there is any hope——

Thanks, he just emailed me....I replied and was waiting for another reply but signed off....I know they are slow to take action but I am just beginning to think that what I feel is not real and that he doesn't care about me....we are talking on plentyoffish and he goes out of his way to tell me what he has been up to but we still seem to be stalled....I don't want to push I just want to get to know him and get him to realize that I am the one.....as for some odd reason I know he is the one for me....

Pretty soon I will have to go into therapy.......I don't know again he makes references but no followup and I am not going there cause I learned that lesson the hard way with him before....

Thanks again for your kind words and encouragement 🙂 I need it

If he's looking for 'the 1' and HE mentioned it to YOU... and you've been talking to each other for a while, and he's not running from you... and he's not seeing anyone else (I figure if he's telling you everything he's doing right now, he would probably let you know if 'seeing someone' was part of what's going on with him), he probably IS referring to you. I'm not saying that I'm 100% on that though... from the things I've been reading about us on here, apparently we're great at bullshitting. But personally I wouldn't waste my time bringing that subject up with snyone I'm not interested in. Go with your gut, I don't know the details on the times the two of you have shared... but you do.

Thanks for the feedback......when I first met him he had said that he was looking for a wife or a maid— I didn't reply anything because he was a client and really what do you say to that......I just find it maddening....I have been reading the cancer boards for quite awhile have gotten some insight and its helped

I would think if he wasn't interested he wouldn't even bother talking to me.....but then again perhaps he is just bored cause he has been off work with a injury for 10 months.......my gut says he is interested and that he is trying to figure me out....he has said things like you never tell me what you are doing etc etc....and when we have seen each other he just stares.....its not a death stare its a like come talk to me stare.....but hey I am just as shy and he un-nerves me....never had a man do that to me...he is the only one

So we shall see what happens....I think he is also trying to find out where my boundaries are when it comes to being promiscious.....

So again any feedback would be welcomed he also puts a lot of smiley faces in his correspondence 🙂