Dating a male cancer! Please help....

Sooooo my new boyfriend is a Cancer and I'm a Virgo! Had many disagreements but we just communicate so differently now! So I'm upfront and honest with how I feel, he's more of quiet and silent and not going to express himself. I guess my question is what can I do to start the communication again? So many times I wanna leave the situation but I don't want to give up on us so easily. At one point he was mad with me and when I felt maybe he was he blamed it on other things, FINALLY admitted weeks later he was upset, which explained the limit a out of words and the distance. He would blame it on hobbies and working, etc. idk too much about cancers, but he says he can be not and cold lol and Virgos aren't for that. You're either with us or against us! Any suggestions on how I can get this cancer back on board?!?!!

You can't change who he is and maybe you just need to accept him for the way he is. Unless of course he's treating you badly but in that case you need to skedaddle. Just as much as you would not appreciate him trying to change who you are I'm sure he would not be happy with the reverse.

Patience is a virtue my dear and maybe you need to learn how to exercise that.

Cancers are not direct creatures so sometimes you have to let them go at their own pace. And if you do you will be surprised at their ability to change when they want to.

I'm dating a Cancer man too. I take everything he says for face value so if there is something he's feeling but he's not expressing it I don't push for it. I will ask him once if there is something bothering and if he doesn't fess up then I move on. If he gets upset later I tell him bluntly that I can not read his mind and that I had ask him earlier if anything had upset him blah blah... He's learned quickly with me he needs to express himself or I won't do anything about it. He needs to take responsibility for his own feelings and I am not his babysitter nor a mind reader.

Biggest thing. Set your boundaries. Let him know you are not going to hold his hands through everything... you'll be as sensitive as you can. But you are not going to try to learn the jedi mind trick for him. I hope that helps. Good luck! 🙂

what a nut job

Posted by VirgoCupcake
Sooooo my new boyfriend is a Cancer and I'm a Virgo! Had many disagreements but we just communicate so differently now! So I'm upfront and honest with how I feel, he's more of quiet and silent and not going to express himself. I guess my question is what can I do to start the communication again? So many times I wanna leave the situation but I don't want to give up on us so easily. At one point he was mad with me and when I felt maybe he was he blamed it on other things, FINALLY admitted weeks later he was upset, which explained the limit a out of words and the distance. He would blame it on hobbies and working, etc. idk too much about cancers, but he says he can be not and cold lol and Virgos aren't for that. You're either with us or against us! Any suggestions on how I can get this cancer back on board?!?!!

"he says he can be hot and cold".... aren't this the words of a man who's not ready for a relationship—————??!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello cupcake,

To answer your question: "Any suggestions on how I can get this cancer back on board?" Yes, blow a little smoke up his but, and he will twirl around like a butterfly. What I mean is, complement him, be nice to him, and try to be positive. We crabs are very sensitive to snappy people with no patience, and believe me we can snap too, it just takes us longer. Not to say you are mean or anything, but you remind me of my Virgo wife of 5 years. I believe Virgo and Cancers make a great match, we truly help each other out and make our weaknesses strong. This relationship has the potential to be a true power couple. I hope things get better for you. As far as the following statement: "he says he can be not(hot?) and cold lol and Virgos aren't for that", I don't know if I agree with that statement from him. Cancers are usually not hot and cold that I am aware of, rather consistent in their way of being. If he appears to be flip flopping, it's probably something inside his head he is not telling you about. That's probably the biggest challenge with a Cancer, getting him to truly open up. In order for him to let down his guard for you, it's imperative that you think emotionally, like a Cancer thinks, or at least fake it. That's how my wife got me (haha). She had me fooled in to thinking she was sweet and emotionally in touch, until after the wedding, when I realized she has a serious no nonsense personality. A personality that, Wow! truly tested my Cancerian patience. But I love her, and all is well, as it can be for you if you don't give up on your crabby man. Good Luck and Good Living.