Dating Cancer Men

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by queridagirl on Saturday, January 20, 2007 and has 48 replies.
The Cancer Man (June 21 to July 22)
"He's usually a sweetheart who loves his mama...his mama wants to move in, and he won't leave the house, except to work. Cure: First, make it clear that home is an even sweeter place to come back to when you leave it once in a while. And hopefully, you'll come to love his mom as much as he does. After all, you can't compete with her."
http://horoscopes.aol.com/astrology/dating-men-aries-taurus-gemini-cancer/dating-cancer-men

That's exactly it!!! You can NEVER compete with a Cancer man's mother!!! Her cooking is better, her jokes are funnier, even the "nail polish she uses is better than the one I use!!
"Despite my efforts to make our home an "even sweeter place to come back to" he would much rather spend his time at his mamma's house! Incredible... even when he had surgery he preffered his mother to comfort him!!! OUCH!! That hurt!! It's still hurting!!!
Don't take me wrong, I truly believe men should respect and love their mothers, but what about when they tag on their mother's skirts during a relationship AND their mothers well being takes precedence over your future wife's well being?
Do Cancer Men ever LEAVE their mothers?
I think this is just an isolated incident. I'm not that close with either of my parents.
I think this is just an isolated incident. I'm not that close with either of my parents.
Well my ex is an early June cancer and I've just learned that he is heavily influenced by the moon so I think his Moon was who he gave his first attentions to. One day sweet and attentive, next day cold and critical. His mother was not mentioned that much actually.
my ex cancers mom was a nut...he didn't like her either..lol
I don't think that all Cancer men are close to their mothers, but I DO think that most have a "mommy" complex.
As in, they want a woman to treat them and accept them as their mommy would.
To allow them to do whatever, forgive them endlessly, overlook their flaws, forget any problems, treat them as gently as a baby, etc.
Imagine what you would have liked from your favorite imaginary mother(dessert before dinner, never getting into trouble, given whatever you ask for, allowed to stay up and out as late as you want but lots of hugs and kisses and "so happy to see you" when you get in) and you see what a Cancer man wants.
Very true about the blunt thing and not letting them make you their mother- I actually told my Cancer that it was disgusting, lol. He got my point.
I have noticed that with Cancer men you do have to have a backbone about you- they will test you to see if you have one or not.
It's so funny- the other night I tried to get my Cancer to explain how his moods change to tell me what it's like- he just kept smiling and saying that he didn't know what I was talking about- doing that side way shuffle walk that they do- being indirect/aloof but I kept telling him that he knew and to "tell me right now!" lol.
I always ask him to tell me what it's like to be him to be in his head and he just smiles. I really don't think Cancers can explain it or can you?
I mean I change moods but not on a constant basis like that.
lol- my Cancer gets that way too- shy and all goody goody when you mention his mom, lol. I actually used this as my "weaponry" one day when we were arguing- I told him to think how his mother would feel if she knew he was acting the way he was and that she didn't raise him that way- it really got to him.... hehe but hey it stopped the fightsmile
Yeah and I believe you when you say it took A LOT for him to say that. Not something they like to outright admit or reveal about themselves- especially being a man but it's what makes them different in a wonderful way. I as a Pisces need someone who can be that feeling and understanding but yet guarded about it and uses it to understand and to love me only- not to reveal to just anybody.
Our greatest weapon is the "aloof dream world" front. I can read people's true or fake intentions like a book- gift and a curse.
i hated being smothered by my mother. it was embarrassing; i felt like i never had any freedom, and even as much as i love her, i don't feel like i need to see her regularly. this might have to do with my sag rising... but i dunno. of course, i didn't realize how much i loved her until she was admitted to the hospital when i was in 10th grade.. i was a wreck for weeks.
Start having more sex with him.....train him like a dog to know that when he comes home, there will be an encounter.....we (cancer guys) love that......besides....mom can't out do THAT---I don't care HOW good her damn cookies are lol...
mom can't out do THAT---I don't care HOW good her damn cookies are lol...
LMAO-
I will have to do this for my Cancer- get him even more exicted to come home than he already usually is
Hey Cancer men, not hating or anything, but how come you all don't say what you love about Pisecs women?
Ummm I think Stevie Wonder can see how much we love you all. Uh oh, is this one-sided?
Fiddlesticks, CancerLA, SRG, ABCR2, tunes, who else??? Oh yeah cj7- I hope that's right-ummmm you all gonna answer or not- based on personal encounters only- if you haven't then of course you can't. I hope I didn't forget anyone.
Oh yeah and 7evin- I remember you too
LOL- now an answer like that would make my day- my Cancer hmmmm he just told me that I was so beautiful when he first saw me that I could have done anything I wanted to with him- I was his- that did make my day too. Our connection was awesome.
"Hey Cancer men, not hating or anything, but how come you all don't say what you love about Pisecs women?
Ummm I think Stevie Wonder can see how much we love you all. Uh oh, is this one-sided?"
i don't really know any pisces women.
i wouldn't mind meeting jessica biel
haha
i admit, there are some hot pisces celebs
http://www.librarising.com/astrology/sunsigns/suninpiscesfemale.html
Oooo.. Jessica Biel.. SRG like. I have to concur with fiddlesticks in that I don't know enough Pisces girls to make a judgement.
God damn that Jessica Biel *waves fist*
... hmmmm now what could it be that attracts the crabbies about her?? hmmm nope, can't figure it out http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http% 253A% 252F% 252Fwww.smileycentral.com% 252F% 253Fpartner% 253DZSzeb008% 255FZNxmk788KNUS% 2526i% 253D4% 252F4% 255F6% 255F2v% 2526feat% 253Dprof/page.html" target="_blank">
Right, ya, my crab isn't a mommy's boy either. He does love her cooking better than anybody elses. Yeah, she's a good cook http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http% 253A% 252F% 252Fwww.smileycentral.com% 252F% 253Fpartner% 253DZSzeb008% 255FZNxmk788KNUS% 2526i% 253D4% 252F4% 255F12% 255F6% 2526feat% 253Dprof/page.html" target="_blank">
... hmmmm now what could it be that attracts the crabbies about her?? hmmm nope, can't figure it out
/What's got you so worried? Bull ladies are still in my top 3 Winking/
I was kidding silly Tongue What I meant was of course, her bumm attracts the attention! lol Gee weez, how could you miss that one buddy? heheheh
Personally, I think she's real pretty too.. oh and she looks a little like that chic from that 70's show "Donna" whos also a pisces.. I think if I was gay I'd probably be attracted to Pisces ladies and Caps too.. one water one earth.. makes sense. Kinda like how I'm attracted to Cancer and Virgo men hmmmm interesting.
And fyi Me, Myself and I account for MY crabbies top 3 Winking Booya! =D
hmmmm or so me thinks lol
yes yes smile
Oops.. did I say top 3? I meant top 2Winking
yeah.. the redhead from 70's show is hot.. SRG like her too.
Oh, and nice to see you're bringing back the hypothetical "if I were gay" scenario..
Ok, so if you're crab friend had a top 5, how would you fit in then? smile
Easy, I still make the top five! yay smile
Instead lets just cut off anything after >> 1
Or so you think.. lets turn it around for a sec tho.. does your crab friend make your top 5?
I know so.
My top 5? Wait, hmmm, this is nonsense! ... of course he does Winking
Damn.. I thought maybe there'd be a chance I was in there too.. smile
We cancers are good actors though.. could fool you and you wouldn't even know it..
I would know it. My fine intuition radar catches onto the slightest anomalies of thee character muahhahah ahha ( in person okay? smile ) Plus, I've known this man for years and he did his dandy cancer thing in the beginning.. I know all the tricks in his book mister. The type of fooling you refer to is your everyday dating situations and short-term romance crapiola poopypoo this that.. meh
Me thinks you have yet to be really committed to understand. You're still in learning mode.
LoL hmmmm no I can't think of anyone else who would make my 'top five' I'm thinking, of what? lol Tongue
Hahahaha.. learning mode.. I wrote the book on this.. really committed? Weren't you just serial dating like 4 different guys a few months back? Winking

LOL! Noooooooo. Plus, I wasn't referring to me.. but now I am.. more smile
I wouldn't call it dating.. one or two dates is not dating.. so I screwed up a little. I will not do it again, there =D God damn SRG lol
I meant a committed cancer, which is pretty awesome.
And allow me, Mr. Committed Relationships Author.. Aha hAHA haha
Technically, it's cheating when you go out with other guys while in a "committed relationship".. unless you weren't that committed and were looking to play your options a bit.. which there's nothing wrong with.
Off topic a bit.. did you notice how well our charts line up? Or are at least similar..
"unless you weren't that committed and were looking to play your options a bit.. which there's nothing wrong with."
And I'll go with option B please. Yes, I've grown into it. I'm slow to these sorts of things.. relationships pfft smile
How do you figure the chart thing? I didn't see how. Mars in Scorp?
Oh gross, I just took a sip of milk that's been sitting here for a while without thinking... eeek
How do you figure the chart thing? I didn't see how. Mars in Scorp?
//Barring venus, most of the major planets line up..
Taurus Sun - Cancer Sun
Taurus Moon - Capricorn Moon
Aries Mercury - Leo Mercury
Scorpio Mars - Scorpio Mars (it means we're both sex machines)
Capricorn Jupiter - Capricorn Jupiter
Saturn Scorpio - Saturn Scorpio

Plus you got a Scorp rising which might explain a few things.. It probably just means that we're more alike than different.
Ahhhh, very interesting. So that means I would make your top two then..? Winking hehee
Well I'm going nighty nite now. Pervy dreams =D ZzzZzzzzz
Ahhhh, very interesting. So that means I would make your top two then..? hehee
//Only in **your** pervy dreams lady.. smile My top 2 are Jessica Alba and Jessica Biel.. getting it on Winking//
Well I'm going nighty nite now. Pervy dreams =D ZzzZzzzzz
//I can't believe you can lie like that.. oh and you should know that I don't actually have dreams.. or at least never recall them. So, even if they are pervy.. I probably won't remember anyway smile I think the last dream I had was about 2 years ago.. I dreamt I was Moses and I was parting the Red Sea. What do you dream about? Being in a "committed" relationship? smile Sorry smiley overload..//
//Only in **your** pervy dreams lady.. My top 2 are Jessica Alba and Jessica Biel.. getting it on //
Oooh good one lol
//I can't believe you can lie like that.. oh and you should know that I don't actually have dreams.. or at least never recall them. So, even if they are pervy.. I probably won't remember anyway I think the last dream I had was about 2 years ago.. I dreamt I was Moses and I was parting the Red Sea.//
You have about seven dreams a night, you just can't remember them. If you tell yourself that you'd like to remember them before falling completely asleep you will (or so I've read) I have a lot of entertaining and crazy dreams! Lots of everything. I'll dream of the devil, strange beings, what I think was an angel or guide once, cartoons, far away lands, deserts, jungles, ghosts, mysteries... one of my fave was a beautiful red sky and the sun and moon fighting each other, it was awesome.. kind of like the gods going at it. I'm usually a hero in my dreams too lol I also do a lot of lucid dreaming.

//What do you dream about? Being in a "committed" relationship? Sorry smiley overload..//
AHAhahahahha haha you are such a Cancer SRGy lol I've always said that Cancers are a bit like children smile I KNOW I can't be the only one to have noticed this..? smile hahahah Even my bf commented on how he gets mad sometimes and acts like a baby LOL If I didn't know him so well I wouldn't know what he was talking about hahah so funny http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http% 253A% 252F% 252Fwww.smileycentral.com% 252F% 253Fpartner% 253DZSzeb008% 255FZNxmk788KNUS% 2526i% 253D36% 252F36% 255F27% 255F3% 2526feat% 253Dprof/page.html" target="_blank">
You have about seven dreams a night, you just can't remember them. If you tell yourself that you'd like to remember them before falling completely asleep you will (or so I've read) I have a lot of entertaining and crazy dreams! Lots of everything. I'll dream of the devil, strange beings, what I think was an angel or guide once, cartoons, far away lands, deserts, jungles, ghosts, mysteries... one of my fave was a beautiful red sky and the sun and moon fighting each other, it was awesome.. kind of like the gods going at it. I'm usually a hero in my dreams too lol I also do a lot of lucid dreaming.
//yeah I have no recollection of anything. I fall asleep and then wake up.. nothing in between. I think it means that i'm a deeper sleeper than you are - if you do dream all the time and remember everything.//
AHAhahahahha haha you are such a Cancer SRGy lol I've always said that Cancers are a bit like children I KNOW I can't be the only one to have noticed this..? hahahah Even my bf commented on how he gets mad sometimes and acts like a baby LOL If I didn't know him so well I wouldn't know what he was talking about
//You only **think** you have cancers figured out. Some of the stuff that goes on in our heads can't be deciphered by anyone or anything. Oh and that wasn't me being a baby.. it was me being my usual wise-cracking self smile//
//yeah I have no recollection of anything. I fall asleep and then wake up.. nothing in between. I think it means that i'm a deeper sleeper than you are - if you do dream all the time and remember everything.//
Everyone has dreams. I don't think remembering them is an indication of whether you're a deep sleeper or not.

//You only **think** you have cancers figured out. Some of the stuff that goes on in our heads can't be deciphered by anyone or anything. Oh and that wasn't me being a baby.. it was me being my usual wise-cracking self //
I know that wise cracker, just brought to mind the baby comment since the way he said it was so funny. So serious haha.
As for what can't be deciphered, not interested. Not of any use to me. It's impossible to *know* a persons thoughts, cancer or not. I learn how a person works. I know what works for him, he knows what works for me, we know what works for us. Badabing badaboom badabam smile In addition to that you get a FEEL for the person. If you're hiding something 'undecipherable' I might not know what it is but I will catch onto it. The good, the bad and the in between. Doesn't mean I'll jump on it, it's simply.. like a different type of knowledge. There's times when you can even predict something that you would *reason* is very unexpected of them, yet it happens or is going on.. thoughts, actions, whatever. I can't explain it. You're a cancer you should know what I'm talking about. Okay! You know what I mean jelly bean? Tongue

yeah, yeah.. the more you talk about it the less you understand it.. smile
Oh and whats with all the aggression towards me? The taunting and name calling.. smile
i tend to get along with other moms instead of my mom
"yeah, yeah.. the more you talk about it the less you understand it.. "
Awww, see, I love how understanding you crabbies are after all smile ... Now.. no more disagreeing with me or I'll have to continue the harrassment. Capish?
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lol
jk

"i tend to get along with other moms instead of my mom"
But moms alas, do not worry mon frere.. your cancer status remains intact smile

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