Do Cancer Men Care?

So the cancer guy that was driving me nuts in the beginning of the year came back after I ignored him for 2 months. I thought we finally got past everything, and we could become friends, and it seemed like it. Well I was told he said something really nasty about me regarding our sexual past. So with texting being the only form of communication available this week. I texted him and told him that it really hurt my feelings, and that I didn't want to believe it but it hit a little to close to home not to. He got a bit defensive and then ended the convo by saying "I have to get to work I'm done with it all all, enjoy yourself"... Does he not even care about my feelings? Is it all about his image? I feel like that was selfish, but I could also just be hurt.

Ahem...If I remember correctly, he has good reason to talk shit about you as a cover for any truth you could tell about him.

"I'll get you before you get me" type of deal.

That just should make you feel good that you are not with him anymore and confirms it was a good decision to leave him behind. Such a weak guy seriously. Girl don't let him hurt you. Do you know about "Only if you let it."? Don't let anything you don't desire get to you. Absolutely nothing should make you feel bad or any regret.

I don't really have anything on him, other than we hooked up, and I would never use that against him... I'm just so confused

There's nothing to be confused about (at least on his part). Cancers don't usually kiss and tell or spread nasty rumors or information about people. Zodiac thing or not, that guy is a pussy and any dude to even disclose that info to people is someone you don't want to get tied up with. And then he pretty much dismissed you with no type of apology. Be glad you dodged the bullet and move on.

Well there is nothing o move on from I decided months ago we are never gonna date hence why I ignored him for 2 months... I just don't understand why he came back and we were cool as friends then booom this shit... I feel like it is so unevolved

dont study dat crab man u got me to keep u laffing.... look into my crabby eyesssssssss. chin up and do u ma!

Posted by That1Girl
Well I was told he said something really nasty about me regarding our sexual past.

Does he not even care about my feelings? Is it all about his image? I feel like that was selfish, but I could also just be hurt.

It's not cool that it came from a 3rd party but is what he said true? Had you ever spoken to a 3rd party about your relationship with him?

Maybe it was a revenge move, but if I remember correctly, this guy was in an authoritative position. If you were talking about private details to a 3rd party, he may have reacted to his business being put out there.

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Posted by That1Girl
Well I was told he said something really nasty about me regarding our sexual past.

Does he not even care about my feelings? Is it all about his image? I feel like that was selfish, but I could also just be hurt.

It's not cool that it came from a 3rd party but is what he said true? Had you ever spoken to a 3rd party about your relationship with him?

Maybe it was a revenge move, but if I remember correctly, this guy was in an authoritative position. If you were talking about private details to a 3rd party, he may have reacted to his business being put out there.

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I was told by a professor whom I trust about this, not like a random friend. It wasn't really true but had true aspects to it. I haven't told anyone about our past. And no he is no longer in an authoritative position. I am a grad student now and he is still an undergrad

Revenge for what though? We weren't dating, there was no break up

Posted by That1Girl

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by That1Girl
Well I was told he said something really nasty about me regarding our sexual past.

Does he not even care about my feelings? Is it all about his image? I feel like that was selfish, but I could also just be hurt.

It's not cool that it came from a 3rd party but is what he said true? Had you ever spoken to a 3rd party about your relationship with him?

Maybe it was a revenge move, but if I remember correctly, this guy was in an authoritative position. If you were talking about private details to a 3rd party, he may have reacted to his business being put out there.

I was told by a professor whom I trust about this, not like a random friend. It wasn't really true but had true aspects to it. I haven't told anyone about our past. And no he is no longer in an authoritative position. I am a grad student now and he is still an undergrad

Revenge for what though? We weren't dating, there was no break up

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You heard it from a professor!!!?? Sounds like the cancer was talking your personal business for bragging rights. gross

Please don't internalize a sleazy guy's actions/words. Please try not to care about him caring (wait what?)

Haha yeah our department is tiny and really tight knit. My professor if only 2 yrs older than me and a good friend. She wanted to know where it came from

in 6 months I will have the same authority as them... we are really more a group of friends at this point so I didn't see it as coming from a higher authority, more like a trusted mature friend

My take = it's never as simple as a "hook up." He's obviously still hung up on the hook up and is acting out to vent and possibly to get a rise out of you. This is why hooking up wrecks friendships between men & women. Somebody always walks away feeling used and/or with hurt feelings.