Do Cancer men play games?

when they ignore for lets say; many months
are they deeply hurt or do you think they could be trying to passive aggresively Psychologically trying to punish you?
I hear this from many females,gettign silent treatment from Cancer males.

Both.

Posted by boxcarmirnta
Both.

How so?? sorry to seem like a bother but I am trying to get a grasp on this.

If you've done something that has upset them, they can disappear for a long time...because they are hurt, don't trust you anymore, are thinking things over, licking their wounds, are scared, and probably want you to hurt like they do. That's my experience. That's what I'm going thru right now. They'll come out when they're damn good and ready.

My 61 YO cancer male uses silence to punish me, usually for things he imagines I did rather than I actually did and trying to convince him otherwise is futile. But he usually comes around and comes back, except right now I am not sure, mine decided a few days ago that I did something I did not do, we had a huge fight and he blocked me on FB and his phone. We have been together on and off 3 years and even though we spoke by phone for an hour, him scolding me and me bawling my eyes out, he still blocked me, and he took delight in it because he did it while on the phone with me, taking me through the steps they have on FB to block someone. He has ignored me too many times to count but has never blocked me. He gave me one reason he was doing this which was bogus, and the real reason I think is jealousy, we have been OFF again for 2 months, but for 3 whole years whether we were together or not, I would always send him daily multiple FB messages and he would read them,not always answering but always reading like he was addicted to them. The trigger I believe was the last voice message in FB where I admit I was trying to make him jealous by talking about a guy I dated the previous week, telling my ex BF how great he treats me, but adding I still loved my ex. Well I wish I could take that message back, because I KNOW that had to be why. Thing is we aren't even dating for 2 months, so why would he feel he could get THAT mad?? I am hoping he will miss me and come back, I sent him postal mail apologizing and told him I loved him and wanted only him. Usually the loving messages and praise always brought him back, hope this time it does.

Posted by Cancerprancer
when they ignore for lets say; many months
are they deeply hurt or do you think they could be trying to passive aggresively Psychologically trying to punish you?
I hear this from many females,gettign silent treatment from Cancer males.

actually i think it depends. for friends and especially for friends if they have hurt me I will definitely leave u. If its someone that I like like, I cannot hold myself back even if she has hurt me before

OK so if a person doesn't give a fuck and they ignore the Cancer man right back will they come looking to see where you went or will they just go away completely like Scorpio? I feel like I do this with my Cancer moon, but I am a Libra Sun.

Yes immature Cancer men can and do play games. But in your situation, him not contacting you in a while, doesn't seem like he's playing games but is angry or hurt instead.

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Posted by hulabird61
My 61 YO cancer male uses silence to punish me, usually for things he imagines I did rather than I actually did and trying to convince him otherwise is futile. But he usually comes around and comes back, except right now I am not sure, mine decided a few days ago that I did something I did not do, we had a huge fight and he blocked me on FB and his phone. We have been together on and off 3 years and even though we spoke by phone for an hour, him scolding me and me bawling my eyes out, he still blocked me, and he took delight in it because he did it while on the phone with me, taking me through the steps they have on FB to block someone. He has ignored me too many times to count but has never blocked me. He gave me one reason he was doing this which was bogus, and the real reason I think is jealousy, we have been OFF again for 2 months, but for 3 whole years whether we were together or not, I would always send him daily multiple FB messages and he would read them,not always answering but always reading like he was addicted to them. The trigger I believe was the last voice message in FB where I admit I was trying to make him jealous by talking about a guy I dated the previous week, telling my ex BF how great he treats me, but adding I still loved my ex. Well I wish I could take that message back, because I KNOW that had to be why. Thing is we aren't even dating for 2 months, so why would he feel he could get THAT mad?? I am hoping he will miss me and come back, I sent him postal mail apologizing and told him I loved him and wanted only him. Usually the loving messages and praise always brought him back, hope this time it does.

This doesn't sound healthy. He sounds abusive. He's 61? Wtf. You are so pretty. You can do better. Cancer men are petty. They really are. They will do everything they can to hurt you. You'll see it in the forums I'll crack a few jokes and the mature sane people just ignore me but cancer men ALWAYS try to put me down. They just can't get over not being worshipped. Sorry had to tell you this. You're avi is so cute ^__^

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Thanks!!! Well I found out that his mom is on her deathbed and he knew the night we had the huge fight, we fought over an hour and he never told me this, found out yesterday from his cousin who gave me a call. I am sure my last message to him plus the fact he was worried about his mom only made it all worse. He is 61 I am 54, I just look young!!

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Posted by hulabird61
My 61 YO cancer male uses silence to punish me, usually for things he imagines I did rather than I actually did and trying to convince him otherwise is futile. But he usually comes around and comes back, except right now I am not sure, mine decided a few days ago that I did something I did not do, we had a huge fight and he blocked me on FB and his phone. We have been together on and off 3 years and even though we spoke by phone for an hour, him scolding me and me bawling my eyes out, he still blocked me, and he took delight in it because he did it while on the phone with me, taking me through the steps they have on FB to block someone. He has ignored me too many times to count but has never blocked me. He gave me one reason he was doing this which was bogus, and the real reason I think is jealousy, we have been OFF again for 2 months, but for 3 whole years whether we were together or not, I would always send him daily multiple FB messages and he would read them,not always answering but always reading like he was addicted to them. The trigger I believe was the last voice message in FB where I admit I was trying to make him jealous by talking about a guy I dated the previous week, telling my ex BF how great he treats me, but adding I still loved my ex. Well I wish I could take that message back, because I KNOW that had to be why. Thing is we aren't even dating for 2 months, so why would he feel he could get THAT mad?? I am hoping he will miss me and come back, I sent him postal mail apologizing and told him I loved him and wanted only him. Usually the loving messages and praise always brought him back, hope this time it does.

This doesn't sound healthy. He sounds abusive. He's 61? Wtf. You are so pretty. You can do better. Cancer men are petty. They really are. They will do everything they can to hurt you. You'll see it in the forums I'll crack a few jokes and the mature sane people just ignore me but cancer men ALWAYS try to put me down. They just can't get over not being worshipped. Sorry had to tell you this. You're avi is so cute ^__^

Amen, this sounds like a really abusive relationship for her. She should probably get away from him if he is going to block her on FB and block her on the telephone. Sounds pretty butterty for him to act like that.

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He is immature for sure, insecure and lacks confidence, but I just found out that the night we had the big fight, he had just found out his mom was on her deathbed, he is very close to his mom, he never said a word that night, I just found out from his cousin. Not making excuses but he lost 2 in six months